He wants it morning and night and won't leave me alone to let me sleep or take care of our 2 children and his 10 yr. old from previous marriage.
2007-12-07 08:12:22 · 30 answers · asked by madame butterfly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I also have heart problems. The stress of this all is putting pressure on my mitral valve regurgitation and palpitations. I currently experienced left front of chest to back left side and up the neck pain. He doesn't care about my health concerns or health problems. He just doesn't care.
2007-12-07 08:19:36 · update #1
buy him a blow up doll for christmas?
2007-12-07 08:15:23 · answer #1 · answered by CHARLES R 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Get a backbone and set boundaries, and learn to say "No" when you feel stressed out or very tired. My husband was the same way, a really high sex drive, and finally I had to put my foot down, and say no, until I was more rested and I was ready. It's not a one way street, sex needs to be agreed upon so both parties will enjoy it. Your husband will let you sleep, take of your children, you just need to say no. Unless, he is taking you by force, which would be rape, he can't make you do anything you don't want to or feel comfortable in doing. Your husband will enjoy being with you even more, when you are more receptive to him and able to enjoy it as much as him. Good luck!
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2007-12-07 08:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by 520doglover 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are saying he doesn't care. If he knows you have health problems and has been there with the doctor, then he knows it is hard for you to have sex more than allowable.
Sounds to me like it is time you go out and find someone who cares a little more about keeping his partner alive and less about getting his groove on.
2007-12-07 08:26:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking at least 15-minutes once a day to show him some love is reasonable. The second or third time, tell him to go in the bathroom and relieve himself -- after his chores are done?
2007-12-07 08:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you do not want it as much as he. You still must satisfy his urges regularly (it's up to both of you to agree on what regular means).
If he is looking at porn, that may be the culprit. That was my husband's main problem. I finally told him on what I agreed to sexually and then told him that he needed to stop looking at that stuff and if he got urges because of the porn, then I could not help him.
You just have to put your foot down. Although we are expected to satisfy our husband's needs, there is a line that can be crossed and it sounds like he is crossing it.
2007-12-07 08:22:40 · answer #5 · answered by Christian93 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once heard the advice that you should make an effort to give it to him alot, before he asks for it, on your own terms. Where are you thirsty, before or after a drink? Second of all, how long can it take? Is it so horrible? Don't you get any enjoyment out of it?
2007-12-07 08:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by czekoskwigel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife says the same thing about me. What she does not say is that she only agrees to have sex once a month, and then for only 5 minutes, with is pretty poor. So every time I ask her she gets mad and says that it's all I ever think about, so duh... and this goes on every day. If you only will have sex once a month, what do you expect?
My heart valves are about ready to blow, too.
2007-12-07 08:57:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give it to him!!! No seriously, just talk to him and let him know that while nothing would please you more than to be at his sexual beck and call that he has to realize you have other responsibilities to take care of. So long as you have the time you guys can go like teenagers, but to just be patient and try to recognize the times that he already knows you can't do anything.
2007-12-07 08:15:53 · answer #8 · answered by No one 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You two discuss frequency and work out something that's suitable to you both...differing sex drives can cause more serious issues in a relationship so resolve this now (hopefully you can come to a suitable compromise).
2007-12-07 08:17:40 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy he wants you, look at all the women complaining about how they can't get their men to want it more than once every now and then.
If he didn't want you, you would be with them, wondering he cheating because he hasn't touched me in a month.
2007-12-07 08:23:05 · answer #10 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy it while it last have him help you with the kids I have 4 and me and my hubby do it everyday 7 days a week.
2007-12-07 08:20:17 · answer #11 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋