2007-12-07 07:38:35 · 26 answers · asked by donmwm4u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Uh- NO! It's never a good idea to try to fix a problem by bringing in "outside help". Just because you can't sexually perform, doesn't mean you can't still pleasure her... get some toys if you have to!
2007-12-07 07:41:43 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not. There are other ways you can pleasure her in that way. You should not be made feel like less of a man because of an illness that is not your fault. Hope this is not wife's idea. Remember when you got married and you said to each other through sickness and in health. They were not just words. You chose to spend the rest of your life together regardless. I'm one of those people that believe that marriage should be worked at and that it is for life like in the old days.
Without being crude have you both forgot that your hands and mouth still work and that you can now get toys?????
Experiment with something different instead of thinking its over just because you have an illness. Your in this together and if you don't work then she shouldn't work.
2007-12-07 09:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by Cinderella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Not if she truely loves you. There are other ways of pleasure, you can use toys or other sexual acts that do not require you to "perform" in that way. I hope that she did not suggest that she wanted to cheat. For better or worse, in sickness or in health, remember.
2007-12-07 07:42:30 · answer #3 · answered by susan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what the reason. It is not ok to cheat. You both took vows. For better or worse, in sickness and health.
2007-12-07 07:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by tjmoore83102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry about your cancer.. I am sure your wife would not cheat on you even if you wanted her to..
2007-12-07 07:50:35 · answer #5 · answered by ESP123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope. She's not being supportive then. It would be like a guy cheating cause his wife has cervical cancer.
2007-12-07 07:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by CHARLES R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are okay with her taking a lover, that's fine...if not, then it's not okay. Cheating is never okay. If you two are going to stay together, you both need to be faithful OR agree that playmates are okay...OR go your separate ways.
Why are you asking us if it's okay for her to cheat? Cheating, by definition, is not okay...
2007-12-07 07:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is all up to you two. however, there are ways for your wife to be satisfied at home without cheating. that and i know that if my hubby had cancer, i wouldn't even be thinking about myself.
2007-12-07 07:45:24 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. She married you for better or for worse. Did the pastor at your wedding say, 'for better or worse unless you get cancer and can't have sex?' No. He did not.
2007-12-07 07:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by Therapist 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you agree to her going outside the marriage its not cheating. It is now your call!
2007-12-07 08:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by mikey_fiveoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋