OK my friend is very close (a best friend) and she is rather sensitive. She also is totally innocent. She has not had a bf yet but I know she does like guys. But she likes me too now so it's a little awkward and I feel that it's a part my fault from being too affectionate. I mean now we kiss when we say goodbye and sometimes hello and I didn't stop it because it didn't bother me and I do feel close if that makes sense?
But I picked up on her having more feelings for me and I think that we should talk but I'm not sure how? I just want her to know that she IS close to me and I don't want to Not be friends but we are friends and I have a bf (she knows him) and I just can't go there with her.
Can you give me some advice how to talk? I really don't want to hurt her feelings or anything and this is a new situation for me. But I'm sure this is new to her too. *sigh*
2007-12-07 07:23:47 · 7 answers · asked by ♥ ~Sigy the Arctic Kitty~♥ 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
btw I'm 15 and she's 16
2007-12-07 07:29:04 · update #1
thanx 4 ur advice .. it doesn't bother me when she kisses me but i would be comfortable if I knew we understood things .. like I'm faithfull to my bf and some things are maybe not a good idea with a friend at least w/o seriously thinking about what could happen.
2007-12-07 10:49:28 · update #2
Everything you've said here is what you should say to her. Nothing you've said has struck me as offensive or rude, so if you tell her this in the general manner that you've typed it, that's really the best you can do.
I'm sure that she'll be hurt, which is just to be expected. You can't do anything about that. Just make sure she knows that you sincerely value your friendship and would love to remain friends. Also make sure that she knows that you are not offended in any way, and are flattered, but you just are not able to give her anything other than friendship.
Good luck, and feel free to message me if you need more help. I hope things go well.
2007-12-07 08:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by Sara H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the same exact situation im in;
except im the friend.
tone down the affectionate stuff, dont totally stop it though.
talk to her about it.
see what shes thinking, its probably a really confusing situation for her.
tell her basically everything youve said here.
id be glad to give you more advice if you want it, just email me.
good luck!
2007-12-07 18:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by ryansamuel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please back off from her, your sending her mixed signals by kissing her and being affectionate. That should be a MAJOR hint if you stop all the petting and she'll realise that you don't like her in that way. You wouldn't even have to say anyhing! action speak WAY louder than words.
2007-12-07 17:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should talk to her soon because she might be getting the wrong signs and you know she might have feelings for you and you're okay with her sexual orientation and you have to tell her that. you can ask her to hang out with you and be all casual about it and tell her how you feel, that you want to be friends but you don't like her in that way.
2007-12-07 15:44:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just try it and u might like it. ask ur bf 2 join in. thats what i would do ;)
2007-12-07 17:38:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
" (her name), I don't swing this way (while touching her arm, per se). But we can still be friends"
2007-12-07 15:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by 1011101 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats a really sencible ..... nancy??????
2007-12-07 17:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by Alley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋