Should i propose to my boyf? I know he loves me and would say yes so wanted to do it on Valentines day but really unsure on how the male mind works!! We've been together for 2 years and both spoke of marriage, he asks me jokingly every day!!! Also I'd like to do it in private but unsure what to present him with, cant exactly give him a solitaire ring, its a bit girlie!! Please be honest, thanks in advance x
2007-12-07 07:13:34 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course its okay for you to propose to him.
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2007-12-07 07:19:36 · answer #1 · answered by George B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a girl myself, i believe asking the man to marry you can go both ways actually. i find it can be very romantic and sweet but on the other hand, very wrong because alot of men would take that as they are not doing their job properly and that can really upset or scare a man. i know ive been there,lol but if i was you, i would probably give it a little more time, maybe 6 months to a year. if he doesnt ask by then, then one of those times that he jokes around with you during the day, turn it into a serious discussion but a romantic discussion, and while looking into his eyes, either say softly yes, i do, or you can turn it around and take his hand, look him in the eyes and softly ask,,dear, i love you more than life itself and i will til the day i die, i want you to be there throughout all those years,,,,,,,will you marry me? of course all of theses sentences will be said sweeter and softer with a few extra pauses but i hope ya get my drift,,that love and marriage and proposing doesnt always have to be in a fancy restaurant and it dont always have to be the male asking. let the moment happen.
2007-12-07 07:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by CINZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I prefer the man to do the proposing. But sometimes there are some men who are so shy that if the proposal or at least suggestion didn't come from the woman, then it may never happen at all.
2016-05-22 01:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can. And that only works with certain kind of guys, in my point of view that doesn't has to be the same than yours, only with weak and unsecure guys. A man propose whenever he wants and will always get a yes and things go according to his terms. The other kind of man are just grabbed from here to there and will sign any document, put in a house, then left and taken 1/2 of his belongings.
It's your choice, you know with who you are dealing with, I'm not saying it's wrong when woman propose, just that there are guys that take it, others don't. I don't.
2007-12-07 07:42:05 · answer #4 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was madly in love with a girl, who had just gotten divorced, not ready for marriage - we then dated 3 years. She had been dating others a little, and then she asked me out to dinner one night and said she wanted to marry me someday. At the time I said that was nice, but then it set in I didn't know what "someday" meant. I was done with the games. That kind of ended the relationship (among some other things like lack of trust) even though I loved her. But either ask "do you want to get married" or "will you marry me", don't make the mistake she did.
2007-12-07 07:29:42 · answer #5 · answered by tshnobodysfool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy. Some would be belittled by the girl asking. I personally would be happy. Seems like a risk of messing up a good thing. Think about how he might react and ask if the risk is worth the benefit.
2007-12-07 07:18:02 · answer #6 · answered by WVAttorney 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would make him propose to you. Its a tradition that's gone on for centuries. I think you should start playing games with him and distant yourself in a way that's makes him not want to lose you. If he is head over heels and loves you, that ring will be slid onto your finger so fast that you will get ring burn.
2007-12-07 07:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by Why does everyone hate me? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea. Guys will often agree to things their women ask of them out of love and respect. But marriage is about the biggest step in life you can take. It's a huge decision. It's best to let him think on it and ask you when he's ready.
2007-12-07 07:20:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try giving him his wedding ring as the proposal, or perhaps a bejewelled pinkie ring?
Depending on where you are there might not be too many places on valentines that aren't snow covered, so you might have to choose a public place, or make him take a walk in the snowed over park.
2007-12-07 07:17:40 · answer #9 · answered by CHARLES R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not do it. Talking about marriage and doing it are two different things IMO. He may just be stalling. If you DO decide to propose and you get any reluctance, it may hurt your feelings so be aware what you may be getting yourself into.
2007-12-07 07:19:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋