I obviously had to quit drinking, smoking, etc. right away. He is supportive and also quit for the most part, which has helped a lot. I think as the father of this baby, it's only right. But.. because I'm pg, I'm not having a bachelorette party or going out... and his friends want to take him out tomorrow night to get wasted, bar hop, etc. He's going, and he's going to be drinking alot. I'm so upset, but I don't want to be. How can i get over this??
2007-12-07 07:06:23 · 24 answers · asked by dylans going2b a big brother! :) 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You picked him.
2007-12-07 07:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by monicanena 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Just get over it.
It would have made more sense to get married first and then have the baby. But since you BOTH were not careful let it go. Get over it.
You start harping now there might not be a wedding.
Let him have his fun. You can have your party after the baby is born if you still feel the need to get drunk... a somewhat immature behaviour for a mother though. That and if you're going to be nursing... anything above a bottle of beer isn't good for baby either.
You get over it by getting over it. In the scheme of what you hope is a looooong marriage this is nothing. Just let it go and be mature about his immature need for bachelor blow out!
Good for you for quitting smoking! Very good Don't even THINK about starting up again. second smoke is worse for babies almost than you get lung cancer.
2007-12-07 07:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by teritaur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 02:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by southand 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you have a bachelorette party? I was pregnant when I got married, too. I still had a bachelorette party. I just had the virgin style cocktails, but I still had fun. Go to a comedy club or out dancing, or whatever it is you want to do. You are pregnant, not sick. He should be allowed to go out and have a good time too. As you say he is being supportive in every way that he can be.
2007-12-07 07:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by ♦justme♦ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well just because you can't have a bachelorette party does not mean he can't have one either. He sounds like a decent guy and guys like that don't really enjoy getting wasted or bar hopping. If he does, he won't be marrying you and taking care of the baby. This is just a formality for him and his friends to bond. Let him go and have fun. Meanwhile, why don't you and your girlfriends go out too? You guys don't have to go drinking, you can go to a nice restaurant and still have fun.
2007-12-07 07:13:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to talk about what being married means to each of you. If barhopping, getting wasted and club hopping is something that you think should stop once your 'married' then tell him. You have to make a distinction (if there is one) between whats OK to you. Is it ok to barhop if YOU can? Is it not ok because you're pregnant or because you want him to start honoring his marital vows now? Does he think that barhopping is ok AFTER you're married? These are some important questions you need to answer together and before you start asking them, TELL him 'babe, right off I need you to understand that Im pg and my emotions are elevated and I'm probably going to be a bit more hyped that normal so be patient with me'. This way he doesnt get frustrated and storm out of the house on you.
Communicating what you need and expect is key...and then come to an agreement about it together.
2007-12-07 07:16:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 30 wks, and I've also had to give up drinking, smoking, etc. Trust me, you don't have to do all that to have a good time. Have a last girls night out/sleepover with the girls because after the wedding and the baby you won't have many opportunities to just relax with the girls anymore. Also, you won't notice as much or feel as resentful that he's going out and having a good time if you are as well.
2007-12-07 07:13:41 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa K 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
this is not something to be upset about. it just sounds like you're jealous because you can't go bar hopping, and that doesn't really make you sound like a mature soon-to-be-mother. why not have a bachelorette day? go to a spa, get a massage, have lunch with your girlfriends. sure, it's less obvious and a more low-key than going to s strip club, but it's no less enjoyable. instead of being mad at him, do something for yourself. you're getting married AND having a baby - you deserve a degree of pampering in preparation for your big day.
2007-12-07 07:21:18 · answer #8 · answered by hh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just one night, he'll be fine. Let him go and don't make a big deal about it let him have fun, this will be the last time for a long time since there's a baby on the way. You can still have a bachelorette party. I'm not into clubs and drinking. For mine we went to a place called Bath Junkie where we got to mix our own scents and make our own bath salts and lotions. Everyone enjoyed it, plus they all got to take home goodies.
2007-12-07 07:14:10 · answer #9 · answered by PhantomRN 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel. I was Pg with my son when my hubby and I got married all his friends took him out I was at home bc I didn't want to go to anything. (I was 19 turning 20) Then on my 21 bday I found out I was pg again haha so atleast you'll have after. I waited 9 months to be able to drink (Leagal) and I still can't. and to get over it. Just deal with it. Life hands you petty challges to test you.
2007-12-07 07:25:44 · answer #10 · answered by krollamyben 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why ARENT you having a bachelorette party? cuz u cant drink? my friend was 30 wks preggo during her bachelorette party. we had mocktails and fake jello shots and a stripper. you can get over this by GOING OUT YOURSELF. are you on bedrest or somethin?
let him have his fun. He will be ALL YOURS FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE.
you go have fun too? dont be couped up in the house ur whole pregnancy u will go crazy.
2007-12-07 07:29:35 · answer #11 · answered by Not here 2 make friends 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋