How do I not become arrogant, when it's a family trait?

Question

I hope this doesn't seem snobish, but I just really don't want to be arrogant.

Answer 1

So, the whole family is arrogant. Sounds like you'll have a really fun Christmas.
If you don't want to be arrogant, ask yourself, "Do I do anything better than everyone else?" If you answer yes, you are arrogant and there is no hope for you. However, if you answer no, you could be depressed. But it's more likely that you are realistic and have discovered the trick to not being arrogant. That trick is to be realistic about your abilities without being too hard on yourself. I hope this helps.

Answer 2

no traits are completely genetic

there is something called a "heritability coefficient" that determines how much of a given trait is genetic. You could do some research studies that examine the heritability of aggressiveness.

I'd assume that at least half of aggression is environmental and personal.

If you find that you have a tendency toward aggression naturally, you need to crack down on yourself. When you feel like you're getting angry, take a step back really fast and think before you do anything. Do you really need to be angry or aggressive about this? Likely not - there's probably another way to get through the problem more efficiently, and its also likely that if you do people will think you're an asshole if you're aggressive. Think of it that way and you'll be able to stop yourself.

If you ever fail to step back and are aggressive anyway, afterwards you will know it and you should make sure you remember the situation and make sure that you dont do it again. Just dont have any slack. Aggression is usually not required, and its viewed negatively by most people.

P.S. - the person that said arrogance is not genetic is WRONG. There is likely a part of it thats genetic. Also your environment influences traits, and if you are around your family a lot and they are aggressive, that can easily influence it. Disregard that person's answer.

Answer 3

Don't believe you're arrogant and it might just go away.

Sometimes thinking you're some way makes you even more so, when you weren't so much so or not that way at all to begin with.

Attributing it to family traits, well, that just locks it in for yourself as something inevitable doesn't it! Well it's not.

Get to know people who have ways you would like to see in yourself, and over time it rubs off on you.

Making an effort to simply understand and empathize someone else's point of view on something might organically and inadvertently wash away arrogant tendencies as well.

All it takes it some reflection and being honest with yourself (which clearly you've already begun to do) and not comparing yourself with other people on any level, just with yourself.

Answer 4

you do realize that if the rest of the family is arragant and you are not you may become the "black sheep" of the family but good for you!! you can decide to not be arragant and try to avoid as much as you can situations where the arragance is shown by your family and try to find friends and role models that are not arragant. I will give you a web site as well dealing with life choices since arragance or not is not inherited but rather a life choice. Good Luck to you in finding your own path and not following the path of those who are the arragant part of your family!!

Answer 5

You are on the winning track by recognizing what arrogance is and that you don't want to be that way.

Now just identify arrogant behavior and choose not to be that way. If it happens, resolve not to do it again.

You should be fine.

Answer 6

I believe that the trick is to always be self-aware.....in other words "think about the way that you think".....get to know yourself really well, spend time with a wide variety of people and focus on learning from them instead of judging them. ....even if you dislike someone.....think about what it is that you don't like about them, why you don't like it...and how not to be like that yourself.....also, think about reasons why that person may be the way that they are.....learn learn learn.....You may want to start thinking this way about your family first.

I think it's a really positive thing that you are already thinking about how to be a good person. It never hurts to spend some mental energy on self-improvement.

And I don't think that arrogance is a heritable trait.

Answer 7

Since arrogance is not genetic, you simply don't act that way, and be alert for signs that you might be.

It's not like you're asking how not to have brown eyes, but how not to behave in a specific way. That's entirely under your control.

Glad you're opting out of arrogance. Ugly stuff.

Answer 8

family trait? its not biological.... so guess what you can control it just don't be! learn sources to help u with arrogance

Answer 9

When dealing with people try to put yourself in their place to see their point of view, develop empathy.

Answer 10

Maybe you should chose a profession that helps those in need. If you are helping those who have so little...you will be to grateful for all you have to want to rub it in any ones face.