my coworker has begun acting out and talking about me behind my back because i know longer speak to him on a personal level. we barely speak when we first see each other in the morning. all day long i deal with him pounding on the keyboard and moaning and groaning because of this. people have come asking me why we don't speak and it's becuase he's being immature.
but i feel like it's becoming taxing on my emotions because he's turned to other people who now begun to givie me attitude. i'm choosing to ignore it, but it gets so depressing sometimes. i don't understand why he can't leave me alone and do his work. what could i do?
2007-12-07 04:49:35 · 27 answers · asked by valley girl 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Go to your boss, and if he or she doesnt do anything you can file a complaint and sue them for a bad working environment.
2007-12-07 04:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by Jason K 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can't give you an accurate answer because I need it to be more detailed but from what you're saying he is being immature because he talks behind your back, & that is because you and him don't talk anymore. For his side, I think he's being rather immature to take his human instincts to make people turn away from you. I think that you should confide in him & telllhim what he's doing that is soo immature & ask him all you want to know in a good manner. Then you say your peace and for some reason just doing that will make the situation better. You guys woul dhave things of your chest and hopefully REASON OUT the problem.
2007-12-07 12:59:07 · answer #2 · answered by kakawoowoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss this situation with your boss. You have taken the high road by chosing to ignore his childishness and he is still trying to get attention like a three year old. Its not up to you to solve this problem, its up to your manager. Otherwise he will be left with a chronic complaining person because you the mature good worker will have found a different job.
2007-12-07 13:01:22 · answer #3 · answered by Diane M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your manager & express your concerns. Also, possibly being cordial to your coworker with a polite "hello" or "good morning" when you come in. It's not like you have to speak with him, just keep things business-like & tell your manager that is what you are tying to convey. You don't have any obligation to be this persons 'friend'.
2007-12-07 12:56:09 · answer #4 · answered by ready2go67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Completely ignore him all of the time, and then when he is nearby to you talk to someone you are friendly with and talk about how immature some people are and then describe annoying things that he does/says about you. Hopefully then he will stop, or else it will escalate and you will be able to confront him and ask him why he is acting that way and to just leave you alone! And when people ask you why you don't talk to him anymore, tell them the truth.
2007-12-07 12:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by Becksstein 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is precisely why having a relationship with someone in the workplace is sometimes a bad idea. Your best bet is to talk to him and tell him that you want things to be more professional in the office. Whatever happened between you to really needs closure, so that could do it.
2007-12-07 12:53:40 · answer #6 · answered by bonstermonster20 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had the same experience. I one day decided enough was enough, and called him out on it for all to hear. He keept his mouth shut and everyone was shocked but supportive of my little outburst. He waited a few days and then all was back to normal...everything fine. He realized he could not get away with bullying me, and I felt better cause I stood up for myself. Everyone respects me more now, and knows that I may be nice but not a pushover. Everytime I decide to stand up for myself it works out best. good luck!
2007-12-07 12:56:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, let me get this straight. He spends all day groaning and pounding on his keyboard, and you think he's doing it all to get back at you? Sounds like a normal day at the office.
2007-12-07 12:53:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not bullying, it is harassment. As such, it is expressly prohibited in most work environments. Let him know that the very next time he pulls this crap, you'll take it to the boss. Report back on your experience.
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2007-12-07 12:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This person is toxic to the workplace, and unfortunately, very common. Can you change departments? Take a lateral move? He'll find something else to b*tich about if you aren't in his sights.
2007-12-07 12:53:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stand your ground! Don't give in to his childlike ways. Be an adult, deal with it the best you can while you are at work, and vent about it when you get home. Eventually he will get tired of trying to make you miserable.
2007-12-07 12:53:44 · answer #11 · answered by says ME. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋