See the story behind it is that I really really dont' like his boss. The guy is totally disrespectful and innapropriate, I have very little patience for this man.
My fiance feels obligated to go to the party and so I have to go with him, there's no way around that.
We are supposed to be meeting everyone to go sledding and then go out for dinner. How can I convince myself to just have a good time and not get caught up with what his boss says or does? *whining* I really really wish I didn't have to go :(
2007-12-07 03:44:44 · 10 answers · asked by JD 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
I was thinking about buying a great big bottle of baileys and making sure I get a good bit of it down before we go sledding with them....my hope is that by dinner time I'll be drunk enough not to care..then again maybe that'll just make me lose my filter...
2007-12-07 04:31:49 · update #1
For effin sakes! I was looking for some encourgement here not for someone to be an effin biotch! YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE!
2007-12-07 04:33:19 · update #2
Thank you Loki...and no you're not the biotch I was talking about ;)
2007-12-07 04:35:20 · update #3
I just need someone to help me change my perspective on the situation....
2007-12-07 04:36:45 · update #4
Thank you Michael!
2007-12-07 05:24:32 · update #5
Self-denial is the root of all unhappiness. If you don't want to go, don't go. Be willing to accept the consequences. They could be liberating!
If you choose to go, be yourself. Express your honest feelings about how you are treated and how the people around you are acting. Be willing to accept the consequences. They could be liberating!
If you choose to go and not confront anyone, remember that everyone is at heart a good and loving person. Any behavior to the contrary is a cry for help and a result of having been hurt without knowing how to heal. This man's behavior is his way of coping with his pain and protecting his wound.
If his behavior is off-putting, then he has adopted a strategy for survival that is not really working for him. It is the psychological suit he is wearing. If it's an ugly suit, you don't have to take it personally.
It is important, though, to maintain healthy boundaries and not let yourself be disrespected or taken advantage of.
2007-12-07 05:18:45 · answer #1 · answered by Michael S 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you go in thinkin this single person is going to ruin a good time.... than you'll be waiting for it, not havin a good time. Thats not a party!!
If you go in and know you're gonna have fun! In the back of your mind, laugh at the stupidity of his boss and relish in the amazement that people like this still exsists. And know that you are not the stereotype he thinks you might fit in, and realize hes a *****... and that is a horrible medical condition. Just pay him no mind, Like when a small child tells you about the cool backflips and laser beam stare their imaginary friend can do. Just smile and nod!
my father sufferes from the same ***** affliction, it takes practice to learn to deflect it... but just take everything in stride and realize this is one of those things you have to deal with in order to support your man and his career. I'm sure you have some friends or relatives hes not keen on either.
2007-12-07 04:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by loki_only1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get sloshed before you go. bring along a flask or get a xanex. that way you wont care what he says , you wont remember what he says, and you will have a blast sledding.
if that doesnt work. pretend that you sprained your ankle in the first 20-30 minutes of sledding and head home. you will be alone with your man, and he will pamper you :)
i know its a horrible thing to do, but if you feel so strongly about the issue you gotta do something
2007-12-07 04:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everything in life is supposed to be "fun". Accepting that is a part of growing up and taking some responsibility for yourself. Your fiance works for this company, if it bothers you, you should discuss it before you get married. He chooses to work there, and is obligated to go to the party. If you are planning on going with your currant attitude, I'd advise you to fake sick and stay home. No one, including your fiance will miss you.
If you do go, stop being so judgmental and focus on yourself and your fiance. I think it's hilarious that you whine and complain and make problems for your fiance, when you are going to get married to this man. I feel sorry for your fiance, he should run fast and far as soon as he gets a chance!!
2007-12-07 04:05:48 · answer #4 · answered by tawniemarie 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, the other option is to make your fiance go alone (which is a really really bad idea), or tell your fiance to skip the party (which is a really really bad idea).
You're not going for his boss's sake, you're going for HIS sake. It's part of the whole "supportive partner" gig. You don't just get the good times.
2007-12-07 03:48:34 · answer #5 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i'd bypass with appetizers, and we all know the thanks to play bingo. And why not play some thing stupid like Pin the tail on the donkey. that's continuously exciting to observe a grown human being spinning round with a blindfold after some drinks. Pam
2016-10-26 13:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by carmack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore his boss. not physically but mentally bc if you do it physically you may seem snobby or antisocial lol. so just block what he says smile and say 'aha' and just let it go. it may be hard but let it go- it's not like he's a friend of yours and you have to see him often plus it's your fiance's job you're talking about which is pretty important
2007-12-07 03:48:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go there with an open mind. You never know - things could turn out different, and you may end up enjoying yourself.
2007-12-07 03:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by Giddygoon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it for your fiance then fake cramps. No man will doubt you or even ask about it.
2007-12-07 03:47:53 · answer #9 · answered by DAR76 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to go! Even if you were married you dont HAVE to go.
2007-12-07 04:10:26 · answer #10 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋