What is more offensive to you, a friend telling you "GUESS WHAT...YOUR NOT FUNNY AT ALL!!" or "suit yourself"?

Question

What does "suit yourself" mean?

Thank you guys who respectfully answered.

Answer 1

Definitely "your not funny at all" would be more offensive to me. After being told that, I would be self conscious about everything I said because I'd be afraid that she/he would be thinking that I was trying to be funny. What a rude friend!

Answer 2

I'll give you a respectful answer, and I hope you'll give my answer enough consideration, deal?

I know you're a sensible guy, and I know you can very much empathize with other people, and with how they feel.

Have you stopped to think about what happened, that made this friend react so strongly? Have you considered that this friend might have been too much confused, disturbed and hurt? Can you understand the feelings? I know you can.

Do you care about this friend? Why don't you try to have an open and honest conversation with this person, with calm? I'm sure you two would benefit from it, and feel better.

Will you try?

Good luck to you and your friend! I sincerely hope you two can find a way of understanding each other, and that all will be well!

Edit:

Frequently, to understand the questions here, we have to know the person who asked them, the other person(s) involved, and the situation. In this case, Fallen Angel and I know what we're talking about. The "guess what..." was NOT meant as an offense. It was more like a cry for help. "Help me to understand you, and what you just said to me, because I can't understand it, and what is going on. I'm confused, disturbed and very worried". The "suit yourself" came when this person didn't get an explanation, and was left wondering. And incredible hurt.

Answer 3

I agree with Moon, if this friendship is important and I think it is to both of you, then you guys need to calmly discuss it. The person you are talking about has trusted you with lots of stuff that is confidential they probably got hurt because what happened would be confusing. They probably felt like you had actually misled them all along about something and wonder what else you may have not told them...
I don't want you guys angry with me because I love you both no matter what but I think you two share a different level of friendship and alot of times whether it is culture or personality you two clash and have many minor misunderstandings. This one simply got out of control--you 2 need to talk honestly and calmly
Suit yourself - honestly?
Not sure how others mean it but when I say suit yourself or "whatever" that means
I am angry and I don't want to talk and to just believe whatever you want about whatever we are discussing.
Hope it all works out
♥FA

Answer 4

Ur not funny at all is more offensive, suit yourself means basically do whatever you want.

Answer 5

Zalem,
I can only answer for myself based on the question you pose (as you know). By the way I infer your use of the typed text and how you placed it within the question (and in comparing the two statements) I would think the "Guess What..." statement would likely be offensive. I have to admit that objectivity seems to have been omitted from the question. Can I ask you to walk away from this question you posed for at least 24 hours - then come back to it and re-read it to yourself? I am asking this in a professional and dignified manner because to me, it looks as though you are trying to solicit a particular response. This is merely my objective view; additionally, I count (to include me) not less than 6 responses that provided answers that felt the first statement was the offensive one. This can then suggest that either a) the statement is considered in a general sense to be true that it is offensive, or b) considering the text format of the two statements - the first one obviously "stands out" as a sore spot.

Lastly, Zalem - I have seen very intelligent responses from you in the past. I, like many others here, think that you hold a wealth of knowledge and I for one am grateful that you share this on Y!A. I would be a fool if I told you I did not read repsonses by Moon or Fallen Angel here. Please take my suggestion and walk away from this question for 24 hours - then come back and review how you placed the text within question you posed. As you know, everything we do here is through either tactile or visual communication - the power of suggestion is within the "visual" of the "words" we read.

Best to you! I will be looking to read more of YOUR terrific responses in different questions. I for one and many others I am sure are (again) grateful for your contribution to this forum!

Semper Fi,
Gerry

Answer 6

Friendship is like driving - anyone can get behind the wheel, but what separates a great driver from a Driving Duck are the defensive driving skills and the lightening fast reactions that prevent the disastrous accidents. ... True loving friendship is one of our only points of contact with The Transdimensional Beyond; perhaps if we all truly recognized our ultimate fragility beyond our self-centered egos, we could have treated friendship for the magical gift that it truly is. I wish you (and your friend) much happiness, always.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vEKYuE3YVR8
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Answer 7

suit yourself seems less offensive... it's like 'whatever' or 'do what you want'

there are a few people that always post things like 'you're not funny' etc. if you check their profile, they haven't asked a single question and none of their answers are funny at all.

Answer 8

Neither really. My wife tells me I'm not funny all the time - it's kind of a running joke because I think I'm f'ing hilarious. So I tell her she simply has no sense of humor - and she laughs. Actually, we laugh alot together, and sometimes at totally inappropriate times.

But in the end, everybody wins when there is laughter :-)

Answer 9

"Guess what you're not funny at all!" is definitely more offensive. Suit yourself means like "whatever floats your boat," you know just whatever works for you, do it your way...

Answer 10

It's more offensive to use "your" when you mean "you're" -- so I guess your first option is more offensive.
Suit yourself means the person disagrees with you but realizes talking to you isn't going to do any good because you're going to do what you want anyway...so go ahead and do what you want.