What do you say to your kids?

Question

When you can't buy them the things they like?

Answer 1

I say, mummy would love to but that for you but you cant always get what you want but you will always have my love!! then i say, well you know when i was your age i never got a damn thing so be grateful for what you got cause i'm doing the best i can...to which they always reply...thats ok mum, we love you no matter what and you are the best mum in the world, to which i reply i am your only mum in this world..then we laugh and hug and kiss...

Answer 2

It's hard. They want what their friends have and I just cannot do it. Things I can get for them, while they may not be from Tiffany's or Hollister, are things I work for and can afford.

We live in a neighborhood where the kids all have their own cars and charge accounts. NICE cars... My daughter and oldest son feel the brunt of my empty wallet. They can't go where their friends go and they can't eat where they eat. It's like they are unintentionally ostracized because I cannot afford the activities.

My daughter just hit me up for $150 to buy Christmas gifts for her friends because they are exchanging, Her friends are also having A Friends Christmas Dinner at the Elephant Bar and BJ's Steakhouse. She can't go. I can't afford it. My daughter just got a job but will not likely be paid before the holiday.

Tonight, we will go to a place in town called the Holiday Cottage and choose one gift to purchase for a Foster Child. I try to show them that although they may not have all the nice things, a nice home of our own and money like their friends do, we are at least together. Hopefully that will suffice.

Answer 3

I advise her to earn the money by doing chores. She usually starts out doing chores toward that end but then she realizes it'd take a long time to earn enough for that Playstation 3, so she gets lazy, but doesn't ask for it anymore either.
If she ever really did see it through and earned the amount needed, I'd find a way to buy it. Because it would show she has finally learned the concept of working to get what you want in life.

Answer 4

I try my best to give my son what he wants. Any time I said I can't buy that he has never argued. I go with out so he can have things. He is a great kid and deserves to have things.

Answer 5

It is not a shame for a kid to have a clear picture of the financial situation of his family. It is to the parents to tell to the kid that not all people are the same financially and this, is NOT a shame!
In this way, kids will learn to respect their parents' efforts for a better economical status, to be reasonable in spending and most important not to be sad when they cannot buy whatever their eye and child heart catches.

Answer 6

You tell them. That you can´t buy it, because you don´t have the money. Being honest is the best alternative.

Or tell them to get some money by delivering newspapers, or doing some jobs that kids could od

Answer 7

Don't tell them "we don't have the money right now" because when you least expect it that 6 year old will ask you if you have any money and when you say "yes" they'll hit you with "well, since we have money I think you should buy me..."

It's better to explain to them that no one gets everything they want, and we have to make choices for what's most important.

Answer 8

The same things my folks said:

"When you have a job and all the responsibilities that go with it, you can buy your own."

I don't feel like my kids automatically should get whatever they want. Need? Sure. Want? No way. That is how we get people who have such a sense of entitlement.

Answer 9

I explain it to them that i don't have the money at the time , and when i do in will try to get it for them, and i explain to them that they can't have everything what they would like, or it is something they really don't need. Then i give them a big hug and kiss.

Answer 10

My son learned early on the value of a dollar. Sometimes he / we have to save up money in order to get the things we want.