My thing is... SAY what you MEAN and MEAN what you SAY. When are women going to stop with all the indirect communication? Being a woman is not an excuse to communicate indirectly.
Women are supposed to be the BETTER communicators, but sometimes I think the opposite is true.
There is no logical excuse for saying one thing and meaning another. There is no excuse for saying I don't want something and still expecting to get it.
But the bigger question is.. why do some women do it?
2007-12-07 02:25:58 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Women like to be payed like a prostitute but they dont like to feel like one.
2007-12-07 02:37:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 9⤋
Stereotype lots? Black women people don't have extra of a temper than different women people. perhaps it is those you're astonishing out with that have unfavourable attitudes. in the event that they're incredibly pals, then giving her the video should not be a situation. yet, it would not sound like they have that style of relationship. He ought to in all probability lead by ability of occasion and wait till she brings up her weight as a controversy and then help her. till she's waiting, he will in uncomplicated terms get repeat performances of the eating place incident.
2016-10-01 02:00:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mike, I didn't read the other answers, but here is the real deal.
We SAY we don't want anything because you are suppossed to get us something because YOU want to get us something not because we asked. We do not want to have to tell you what to get because then we might as well go get it ourselves. If you do not get us anything we are very sad because it means that you did not want to get us anything or did not know us well enough to pick something out.
Also, even if we say we are not getting you anything you can be pretty sure that we will.
Ask her friends, kids, parents etc if you can't think of anything. Or just look around her house (not the kitchen -though I don't mind appliances as gifts most women don't like it). Anything old or used up is good.
Why? It is a test of your feelings. Kinda like 'do I look fat in this dress?'
Edit: lmao -now that I've read all of the answers I can't believe how many women are denying it! We all do it at some point. I am just straight up with my husband and I tell him exactly what I just told you (only I finish it with -'So you'd better get me something good -or else!'
2007-12-07 03:18:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Those women are being polite when they do that. Besides, she is hoping you will simply take the initiative and don't worry about even asking her. You should do it without asking her. It is common courtesy to say you don't want a gift. It is also courtesy to know it, but you go get her something anyway. Etiquette is a game and you can't blame women just because you don't know how it's played...So there's your first lesson....I know that men think differently from women and we're not always easy to understand - I'll give you that. The only time you shouldn't give a woman a gift is when she's really not interested in you.
2007-12-07 03:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Kudos on the "some" can't speak for everyone, but I know I appreciate it.
I admit, I'm guilty of this from time to time...
So what do you want for X-Mas?
"I don't care, whatever you get me" (when I really do have something in mind)
Where do you want to go eat?
"Wherever you want to go"(Same thing)
I think it shows that as much of a feminist as I'll ever be, social ideas are ingrained in my personality, that being decisive is somehow "unfeminine".
Yet, I also admit to expecting a little mind-reading. As irrational as it is, I expect the person asking to "care about me enough to just know". lol it's absolutely ridiculous and unfair, something I clearly need to work on. Thanks for pointing it out.
2007-12-07 05:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by Devil's Advocette 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tsk, tsk. Poor guy. :(
It's easier to not say things straight out and hope that the other one will notice. Plus, when it works, it's a way of saying uncomfortable things and yet not saying them. I mean, everyone can pretend like it wasn't said. Not good, I admit that. But then again, in some cases it can be much more effective, and spill less blood. ;) But you should notice when someone means what they say - and when they don't. Not only women are capable of that, you know. And when it's done by sneaky persons who are attempting to cheat you on money or something, it would be nice to see the difference. Anyone can learn it, it might just take some energy. :)
2007-12-07 02:53:40 · answer #6 · answered by missteatime 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's women's knowledge, either u know bout it or NOT!
Women love to take all the attention that is available, and sometimes or most of the times, they say no for a yes answer because they wanna see if u care enough to get the gift (here) even if they said no, it will show them u care more.
there r no explications, no logic ones, not all r the same, u just have to learn more about them =)
2007-12-07 03:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
When I say I don't want a gift, I mean I don't want a gift bought at a store. But, at the same time, I don't want to be ignored either. Whatever the occasion happens to be, I would like something to make it special. For example, if it was my birthday, I'd like it if someone went out of their way to wish me a heartfelt Happy Birthday, perhaps with a big hug. Or, if I happened to live with someone, if they made dinner for a change or ran a bath for me so I could relax for 20 minutes, that would be a wonderful gift. It's the simple things I prefer.
2007-12-07 02:46:27 · answer #8 · answered by Erin 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Wow Mike! Thanks for saying "some".
Anyway, I agree with you (shocking, I know), but I hate when people are indirect about what they want.
edit: Why do some women do it? I'm not sure. Maybe they're afraid of appearing aggressive. Personally, I don't think being direct makes a person aggressive, at least not overly so.
2007-12-07 02:36:34 · answer #9 · answered by smoofus70 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think some women do this because they want to test how much the giver cares for them. If they give them a gift despite their protests, it shows to them that they genuinely like giving things. Is it logical? Of course not. But that's the reason behind it.
Don't give me any gifts — ever.
2007-12-07 03:46:37 · answer #10 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
three reasons mike.
1) because some women may be immature.
2) some women want you to want to give, and not feel that they have forced you into it.
3) from as early as some women can remember their moms have been telling them it's rude to ask for gifts.
if she is angry it's because she's hurt, so if you care for her at all just buy her a gift and save yourself some grief.
2007-12-07 03:04:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋