My boy friend cheated on me and got someone pregnant I love alot the reason for that is because we've been together for past sixteen years. So far his been making it up to me so should i let him stick around or let him go?
2007-12-06 21:34:06 · 33 answers · asked by patty5 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its not okay because the chances he will cheat again are good. why risk more heartache? u have to draw the line after the second time he cheated on u, if it had been a first time thing, and not involved a pregnancy maybe u could give it one more chance, but he's now done something that is going to affect your entire life.
2007-12-06 22:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you sincerely..then he would have told you abt his relationship. He was 2 timing. He not only cheated you but also the other person. Did u ask urself why did he do that to you?? is it because he's a flirt or is it because u were not reaching his expectations?? first sort that thing out.
Be it 16 years or 20 years..he shud have told you about it. But past is past...neither of you can change it. If he's really sorry then u shud give him another chance without letting suspicion in. But also tell him that u trust him and will not like to be cheated again. 16 years of a relationship cant go in vain for one mistake.
2007-12-06 21:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by A1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say no, not because he cheated 2x but because there will NEVER be trust on ur part. You cant trust that he wont do it again, and he can never prove to u that he wont.
U cant have a relationship without trust and you will always be wondering, where is he? what is he doing? what if he's cheating? And he will probably get sick of being questioned all the time and get pissed off.
It doesnt seem like either one will be able to get over it. So I say no for that reason.
2007-12-06 21:39:18 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy to Christopher! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 10:08:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to God..he'll be more of a help than all of those who answers here because we all live differently and have different values...i have been or is in your situation but i gave him and myself a chance. it's true that it's hard to regain the trust but if you love the person, either you let him go (if you know he's not really happy--so know if he is)or stay with him and give it another chance,...i would have to disagree that if a person cheats you twice, you should feel shame because it doesn't matter how many times he cheats you...it's how many times you've sincerely forgiven him. let him realize you really love him not to make him abuse you but to make him feel guilty. you wouldn't want 16 years to go to waste..that's not just 1 or 2 yrs. i suggest you try to ask him 'what if you cheat on him, would he like it?'..then say that's why you want the relationship to work. do not think of breaking it..dream of rebuilding it. if Jesus has forgiven us a lot of times, why can't we? if we have to love a person one-way then let it be. don't pressure yourself into leaving him and finding another if you can't really be happy if you do it. think of it, if your guy doesn't love you at all, would he have stayed with you for that long? i mean guys are tempted easily..he might have done it not because he doesn't love you. do you think the loves the other girl?
2007-12-06 22:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by takahashi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure stay with him, if you want drama & disfunction & somemore drama, boy, you women out their sure know how to pick em? He got another women pregnant, while with you, this shows you his charactor, its not him who has the problem, its you! You have a co-dependent attitude with this guy that needs to come to a end, you will never ever live a life of happiness & structure till you dump him, I really think you must like this behavior & being used and abused, because you keep on welcoming him back with open arms & legs, how dumb are you?
2007-12-06 23:38:35 · answer #6 · answered by penelope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on how much you're willing to put up with and how much you're willing to risk. When he cheats on you and gets someone else pregnant, that means he's having unprotected sex. That can bring up other unpleasant side effects such as sexually transmitted diseases. You know you can't trust him, so why stay and risk your health or your life? If he's cheating with one person or two people, what makes you think he's going to quit and what makes you think you know all of the story? Just because he told you? HAH!
2007-12-06 22:37:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
16 years! That is about how long I have been married!!!
You have been with him for sixteen years, so you know him a lot more than I do, it is your decision, whatever makes you happy, and if you can live with this, then the choice is all yours.
Personally, I do not know why someone could live with someone who cheated on them and who had a child with another person, I could and would not put up with that.
Again this is JMO and only JMO.
2007-12-06 21:40:04 · answer #8 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had sister who shacked up with guy for 14 years....18 months after they split he married a girl. (You)16 years and he never talks marriage and he cheats? Ummmm drop the loser...he lives life day to day and has no long term dreams which includes you. You can do better in life....why settle for a liar
2007-12-06 21:42:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's really NOT OK because this thinking means you already have no self esteem whatsoever...how much more of your life are you willing to sacrifice? Your choice. He will never be faithful, never be trustworthy and never be truthful with you. Thus, all you would ever have with this loser is a half life. If you don't care about yourself at all, then stay with him; if you want a real life of your own...dump the jerk.
2007-12-06 22:45:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋