How close to delivery dates do 1st time babys appear???

Question

Can anyone give me advice. I am 6 weeks pregnant with 1st baby. My due date is 31st July. I am told that 1st baby's almost always arrive late. Is this the case?? I have this awful situation with my stepdaughter who is getting married on the 8th August and thinks that with me having my baby at such close proximity to her wedding, I am going to ruin her special day for her because my husband will be with me and not giving her away at the wedding. Rather than compromise my husband I have said to him that I will get a birthing partner just in case. Obviously I dont want to do that, am I am furious with my stepdaughter, so a late or baby on time would be good. Any experiences.???

Answer 1

Hi, sorry to hear about your dilemma. I think you are cutting if awfully close, but she should realize that YES a wedding only happens once, but so does a first time birth! You are equally as important as she is.

That would be very difficult for the husband & father to decide who to go with.. I hope it doesn't fall that near to eachother. If you are too worried, you can get induced (I would reccomend this for your situation) because then you can avoid the conflict.

With my birth, (first and only, so far), I went over my due date by 6 days (which would be 2 days before the wedding in your case), maybe the tiny little baby could go in a very small tux lol (Hey, I've seen premee tuxedos, and dresses, they are SO cute!!!) -I bet you'll have a boy, for some reason-

Even though I went over my due date, I still had to get induced. If you are that close to your due date, just get induced, as you might have to anyway if you go over too much. (They allow up to 2 weeks where I'm from- but I had a complication).

That would be difficult for you too, because you don't know if you should buy a big dress, a little dress, or what! I think if she's so selfish SHE should move her wedding date! A baby can't change the time it comes out, so if it's so important that her daddy is there, she can change it lol

Good luck!

Answer 2

approximately........

4% come on the due date
60% of babies are born between 40-41 weeks
20% come between 41-42 weeks (usually by induction)
and the rest come early (16%)

so, you have a few options

ask your doctor to induce you at 39-40 weeks after explaining the situation and how it is going to affect you and your baby.....
Get an extra birth partner just in case it happens on the wedding day.....
Keep in mind that if you go overdue and need inducing then it would normally be at about 10-12 days over which is well after the wedding so shouldn't cause any problems....
Tell her to get stuffed and grow up...!

Tell your stepdaughter you can't control when the baby is born and you and your husband will deal with it when the time comes. She needs to stop being petulant and grow up. As for now she can make her wedding plans and include you but you may not be attending.

Best of luck and congratulations! I am due july 9th!!

Answer 3

Every time can be different! They are not always late, It depends on many things, mainly if your dates of conception were correct, or if you are having any problems with your health etc...

My baby was actually a week early but she was of healthy weight and absolutely perfect.....

Its a bit unfair of your stepdaughter to say that you will ruin her wedding by having your baby late...babies come into this world in their own time - its very understanding of you to suggest you get a birthing partner...but then your husband will be missing out on a special day too wont he? wouldnt he want to be there at the birth of his child and welcome it into the world?

Why doesnt she change the date of her wedding to suit the birth???....that would be just as unreasonable a suggestion! lol

Would you be going to the wedding a week after having a baby even if it was on time??? It takes time to adjust to motherhood and feeding, sleeping patterns etc...

good luck and congratulations on your first baby! : )

Answer 4

it is all up to the doctor and the baby. If you just got your estimated due date and haven't had your first sonogram, it will probably change. If it doesn't, don't worry about it. This is the time that you should be able to enjoy being pregnant. Start worrying about this way later. My first daughter was three weeks early and my second was one week early. Sometimes the doctors even take the baby earlier due to things like diabetes, blood pressure, etc. Try not to worry about your stepdaughter. She should be happy for you. You will have plenty of time to worry about this later. Good luck

Answer 5

My first arrived on my due date, if it was really going to be a problem you could ask to be induced. Babies are considered full term at 37 weeks the extra few weeks are used for putting on more weight (baby not you). So if you wanted the baby born by 8th August you could ask to be induced say the 6th August giving you and your husband the chance to both be together and for him to give his daughter way at her wedding also.

Answer 6

My little boy was due on the 25th of April, and came on the 19th - a week early. Honestly, you can't try and guess if your baby will come late or early - he/she will come when he/she is damn well ready!

Having said that, though my first was a week early, my second son was born 4 days after his due date. As they say second children generally come earlier than the first, I was all set for him to come a week or more early. Longest 4 days of my life, I can tell you!

I know that I drank raspberry tea right throughout my pregnancy. It is absolutely awful stuff, but it is supposed to not only bring on pregnancy earlier, it helps you to have an easier labour. But you have to drink it right through, not just towards the end. If you are going to do this, I would definitely recommend putting sugar in it - that's the only way I could actually swallow it!

Answer 7

My little boy was due on 21st August and his Aunty Peta was getting married on 11th August. I begged him not to come on the day!!!
I could just see my in-laws faces!!

Anyway i look like a whale in all her wedding photos and i had Jacob on 20th August. His dad told him it was okay to come now on the evening of the 19th and i went into labour at 12.30am on the 20th - I had him by 9.00am.

It's not ll doom and gloom but they do come when they want to!! I just thought it was hilarious that my hubby had told him it was okay for him to come and he did start making his exit about 4 hours later.

Lets hope he listens to his dad in the future too!!

Good luck i am sure everything will be fine. It's tough luck on the stepdaughter really if bubba is late, it's not like you can hold her in!!

Answer 8

Sorry, but baby-making isn't an exact science, and no matter what anyone tells you there isn't much that works to hasten their arrival. My first was 10 days early, my second bang on time, even though I was convinced he was coming for 2 whole weeks before he put in an appearance. You've just got to let nature take it's course and put contingency plans in place. Best of luck.

Answer 9

I was due November 8th 07 with my daughter and she came on November 2nd, 6 days early! It varies for everyone but it's said that boys tend to gestate longer than girls, so if you have a boy it's more likely you'll go overdue than with a girl (but obviously this isn't always the case) Congrats and I hope you don't go overdue it would be a shame to not have your husband there!

Answer 10

My 1st baby arrived 10 days late after being induced. My sister was late, I was late, my friend had late baby and another friend had one week early. It all depends. I think your stepdaughter is so blooming inconsiderate!!!!! Good luck!!!!!