I have a person that i've been working with for 8 years. She has a dominating personality (bossy, controling, overly confident, *****) and I have more of a timid personality. I think she has been treating me like a peon for a long time. At first, I thought she was a good friend to me, but then she started being a straight ***** and doing things to hurt my feeings. Later I realize that she was very selfish and she had that mentality every ***** for herself. I feel she is very manipulative and she only does things to make herself look good. Management at work likes her. Now she is about to buy a house and it bothers me because I've been wanting to buy a house. It's been bothering me really bad. Ifeel like I failed and I keep failing. I'm starting to feel that you have to be a manipulating and controling ***** to get a head.
2007-12-06 17:42:53 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
And another thing...over the years I've continue to let her back in my good grace even after she's done something to hurt me because she can act like she's your best friend by inviting me to hang out and paying for lunch or something like that but I've realized it's her way to manipulate. Talking to her about this is just adding fuel to the fire. She will look at this as weakness and she feeds of weakness
2007-12-06 23:49:43 · update #1
And when you make it, you will keep this lesson and never treat others like you are queen beeyatch to make it. You will be able to sleep at night, while the manipulative one figures out how to manipulate herself to be happy.
By the way, you will have to have more of a spine to be in charge. So start stiffening that upper lip and don't let people walk on you.
2007-12-06 18:19:50 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the success of others get you down...especially if they got to the top by stepping on everyone else ! Your friend may not even realize how much she's hurting you ( and probably others , too).
Do you think she'd listen if you tried to talk to her about all of this, or do you just think she'd blow you off? You may have to give some serious thought to the idea of putting some real distance between you and your "friend" , especially if , as you say, management loves her...what if someday she became your boss...ugh. Maybe while you're at it you should think about switching jobs,too. Good luck.
2007-12-07 01:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by ofcourseitquacks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's called The Peter Principle when incompetence rises to the top - every time. If you want to 'sell you soul' to buy a house then go for it but be kind to the ones you step on as you rise to the top because you're sure to meet them again on the way down.
2007-12-07 02:18:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she is a very insecure person
2007-12-07 01:47:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋