Help, I need advice?

Question

Ok, I'm a 16 year old male, and last week I came out to my older brother (who is 20). He was very supportive and offered to come home for a week just to chilll with me (he is away at school). So then today, I decided I had enough of a security net (aka my brother) to come out to my mom (who is a PhD. Child psychologist.). I finally mustered up the courage, told her. She then gave me a disgusted look and then a huge smile and a hug, and then she said something to the effect of this: "You don't think I already knew that?! I'm so happy for you! and so on..."

Ok, considering she is has a PhD in psychology specializing in teens/children, it's pretty obvious that she has psychoanalyzed me to no end, I don't have a problem with it, and that would also explain how she knew. But where my problem lies is what to say to her. She (along with my dad and brother) are behind me 100%. How can I bring it up with her and thank her and my family?

Answer 1

Just explain that so many other families simply turn their back on a loved one and that you have so much respect and admiration that they are supportive. It sounds like you have truly wonderful family and this will only help you become more confident and self assured the older you get. I must say you are lucky to have such an extraordinary family and you are truly blessed. Good luck I see great things in your future.

Answer 2

:) I don't think this is much of a problem really, you've had an amazingly positive reaction from your family that so many of us don't get.

Give it some time before you take it any further. Although your family are being supportive and seem to have known all along, they may take some time getting adjusted to the idea. Mention your sexuality casually (but not excessively) in conversation. Bring it up, talk about crushes, romances, boyfriends etc.

When your Mum seems to be in a good mood and you're talking about it, ask her some questions like how long she has known about you, what she learnt about sexuality from her work in psychology and so on. Then mention how grateful you are to have a loving family.

And do you know, sometimes the closest families don't need to talk about how much they love each other and how much they care for each other. Sometimes those things just go unsaid because they aren't easy to put into words. But they're still understood.

Answer 3

There are a couple of ways to go about this - you could casually bring it up over dinner one night or ask your folks to join Y!A and check out your Q&A. I suggest option #1. Just tell them what you've told us, it sounds like you've got an incredibly supportive family - it wouldn't hurt for them to know that you realize how lucky you are.

Answer 4

Buy them a plant.
I know that sounds stupid, but I would get a small token of some sort, get them together, and just tell them how you feel. It sounds like they are the kind of people that you say anything to.

Answer 5

I don't think you have to. If you are talking sometime, then you could say how much you appreciate that your family is behind you and understand what you are going through.

Answer 6

This is a dilemma most gay dudes would love to have. I'd take them out to a special dinner or something to show your appreciation.

Answer 7

I'm sure your mother has already told your dad. No, she has. Now the rest is just figuring out what to say to him exactly. I think you should keep it short and sweet. =)

Answer 8

Why do you have to act any different than before? I don't think it's a big deal.

Answer 9

sounds like more of a good story then a question.. you should write a book

Answer 10

JUST SAY IT AND IF THEY DONMT EXCEPT U THEY WILL COME AROUND SOONER OR LATER THEY R UR FAMILY