How can I learn to love and accept myself?

Question

I really dislike the person I am (and I'm not bad or evil in anyway). I have a good heart and I try but I know I'm not a likeable person. I never have friends (at least not for long term and this is the way it's always been).

Because of that, I dislike myself. Please advise.

Answer 1

people are like mirrors.. smile to them they will smile at you.. love them they will love you, respect them don't be sarcastic, be helpful, every body will adore you...all will come back to you, you will be surrounded by Love and appreciation..
one More trick? volunteer in an organization and help people who are not loved by anybody, you will discover a dimension of love and self esteem that very few people have experienced

Answer 2

I think everyone can dislike the bad part of themselves.I you should try joining a club of some kind of activity that you are interested in so that you can find friends that have similar interests as you and therefore making the friendship a little more special and maybe longer lasting. You say your not a likeable person. How do you know? Maybe your own negative feelings for yourself is what drives your friends away. I say this from personal expirience. Try asking some family members or someone you trust their opinion of you. Sometimes people on the outside open our eyes to things that we didn't realize we were doing. Other times we realize it but just don't want to admit it to ourselves. If you don't have a close relationship to anyone or don't want to ask anyone you know, you should get some counseling. It could be that you are just deppressed or maybe you have low self esteem.

Answer 3

When liking or loving yourself comes confidence. And in my opinion confidence can mean the world. If you think your a bad person and can't accept anything theres no way you will get it.

Why do I bring confidence up??? Because that's what defines yourself. No confidence = Disliking yourself.

Also, don't get too harsh on yourself. Not everyone will be liked by everyone and I'm sure your smart enough to know that. Keep your head up and most importantly treat the friends that you have with respect.

I hope you find what you're looking for and good luck in the future.

Answer 4

Always remember that you are always better than someone and that someone is always better than you. If you learn to accept that people are people and they have their own flaws and perfections - the same applies to you sweetie. You need to get over the belief that you are not a likable person and start believing that you are a very friendly and approachable person. First is learning how to smile and be pleasant - with yourself. You have to let some negative feelings go and only focus on the positive things.

Answer 5

I think you may have a lack of self esteem and so you think you have no friends and so you don't. It could also be that you have seen others hurt by relationship and subconsciously you do not allow yourself to get into a position like that. I will give you a website that you may like and may help you. There are different things to look at there and I recommend the button for self esteem! Good Luck to you!

Answer 6

What, if anything, are you doing that causes relationships to go up in smoke? You will have to be honest with yourself.
-Do I constantly call or invite myself (smothering the girl)
-Am I jealous and not want my friend to have other friends
-Hygiene??
-Do I repeat things
-Do I have more than one friend at a time
-Do I act strange or different than most
-Am I bossy, demanding, always late, always early, always talking, know everything about everything,,,
-Do I tell my friend what to do or how to do everything
-Am I a mooch ($$). Borrow clothes, jewelry,,,,
-Do I change my hair or clothes or makeup to look like her.
-Am I loud or act obnoxiously.

If the TRUTHFUL answers are no, then ask one of your old friends what they think. It may be hard to find one that will be totally frank, but tell them you must know and you will not get mad. Then know that whatever they tell you, it will likely not be the whole problem, but perhaps you can deduce the rest of it.

Best of luck, to you.

Answer 7

Well I have suffered from depression all my life. Im 24 years old, never had a gf or even kissed a girl until I was 19. Im a handsome fella but really shy. .. . and what did I do. . . recreate myself.

People think Im concieted and in reality I forced myself to feel confident. Its not my problem I wake up in the morning with a smile on my face as the sun shines just for me. As I walk to my car the birds chirp to my movements and flowers blossom to my footsteps . . . I say this daily and never get mad and believe me it helps boost you ego.

Dont listen to the christian this has nuthin to do with religion. You can change who you are at anytime, actors do it, strippers do it, and as a worker you do it. . . cuz trust me when people see a customer in there minds they are thinking differently then what they're saying and acting.


Good Luck!!

Answer 8

The only thing you are promised in life is to pay taxes and die. You are not guaranteed to have 1 friend in life . I know a friend of all friends his name is JESUS he will never let you down, always their when you need him, always got your back and love you unconditionally. you can call him anytime just say his name and trust me he is right their. An optimistic outlook can actually change things for the better. A pessimistic outlook can do just the opposite. The kind of world, life and situation we see is up to us. Maybe your higher power is trying to tell you something? ( hope I did not offend you all my strength, hope, love and joy comes from my friend GOD)

Answer 9

im nothing against your personality, but you should have quite time for yourself, thinking why you don't last a friendship...maybe there is something wrong about yourself that obviously you don't know or even notice, but always be friendly to anyone else, pray that you will have more friends to be with or give more love and attention to your family, because when time that nobody friends around you, your family is still there and of course God. Be always happy and love yourself because God loves us... :)

Answer 10

Start with the thinking, thinking like that shows on the outside. You probably don't have a friendly facial expression do to your inward thoughts. Change your perception of things. Be confident, people can sense if your confidence is not up to par.