2007-12-06 14:45:35 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No. That is the plain and simple answer. Love is not about hurting someone in anyway. When you have true or real love you will actually make sacrifices so that the person that you love can have things. You will go without so they do not have to. You put their feelings, wants, needs above yourself and everyone else. What the abuser feels is not love it is control. Control is why people become abusers. They have to feel that they are in control of everything. By emotionally abusing someone you are lowering the persons self esteem making their self worth non existant. When you do that to a person the person will start to question everything that they do,. They then turn to their abuser for the answers. They will do anything to keep him/her because they have been made to think that no one else will want them. Neither of them are in love though.
2007-12-06 14:52:01 · answer #1 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Yes. You love to emotionally abuse someone and that someone is the person you most love. And they must love to be emotionally abused by you to stay around and let you get away with it. Actually you love the strokes you get out of the situation and you have labled it love just to have a nice name to hide the truth behind.
2007-12-06 15:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by JORGE N 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. How can you bear to hurt the person you love in the first place? Emotional abuse is not a simple matter. Unlike bruises, emtional pain may last a lifetime. If you love the person why would you want to inflict her/him such pain? No. Maybe you love this person but not enough to take good care of this person's feelings.
2007-12-07 00:19:51 · answer #3 · answered by ishsheruni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but not in the way that a psychologically 'healthy' mindset would love. I sincerely believe that they do feel that they love a person, even though they have trouble coming to terms with and loving themselves. This is the crux of the problem - the need to control their environment and other people in order to relieve their own internal chaos. Feeling guilty or remorseful in their world may take place afterwards, but the ability to drastically change their behaviour as a result will not. Hope this helps.
2007-12-07 01:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. You can love someone with all your heart but have no skills in dealing with emotions/conflict, such as someone who was abused themselves, so that's the only way they know how to deal with things. Anyone who says the only people who can love are the people who can control themselves don't know what they're talking about.
2007-12-06 14:54:25 · answer #5 · answered by Lauren 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely yes!!!!!!Basing on my experience, I have this guy who always makes me cry. Emotionally he abused me. But I discovered just last night that he fell in love with me. he went to my house last night and made a confrontation with me. He told me that he likes me and even love me. Unfortunately, He's leaving. He will be going back to his home town but he promised me that he will be back, though he wasn't sure when but he'll promised me he will surely be back.
2007-12-06 14:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by ching 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but you need to understand why you have abusive behavior. It could be something that could be worked on with a qualified professional.
2007-12-06 14:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you sense accountable? traumatic? probable traumatic, extraordinarily in case you don't comprehend in case you sense an identical till now. the kind you worded it, it looks each so in many circumstances, a boy comes alongside and tells you he loves you, which does no longer make it sound very significant.
2016-11-13 22:38:16 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abusers "love" in their way but it's still not a good reason to stay.
2007-12-06 14:51:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
maybe but if u love that person u wouldnt want to see that person hurt
2007-12-06 14:49:10 · answer #10 · answered by dvcgurl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋