Do People Get OFF by Making Others Feel Stupid/Low/Bad about themselves????

Question

I have a nieghbor that seems to get off making my husband feel like a piece of S&%$% because he works for a temp agency doing pretty much anything to pay the bills and support his family!!! The nieghbor keeps saying how he wouldn't do this or that , he is over qualified BLAH BLAH but yet the nieghbor has same size family as we and is sitting on his duff not supporting his family (whining they have no money) because he waiting for what he is qualified doing (which is working on computers which most everyone I know, knows how to do) Grrrr

Answer 1

"Do People Get OFF by Making Others Feel Stupid/Low/Bad about themselves???? "

I'm pretty sure some of them do. It's sad, but really, if you look at the state of the internet in general, and Yahoo Services (not just Answers) in particular...you can spot these people. The serious, rancid, die-hard *hating trolls* are among them. Really, they are the proof of your proposition.

And, on a broader scale, out there in the real world, yes, there are jerks. Some folks are lazy jerks, like your neighbor, others are working jerks (pretty much *any* manager at Wal-Mart might be a definitive example). But yeah, some people feel so insecure that they have to *tear others down* out of fear that they themselves have nothing to *build up* about themselves

And others....well, other jerks are just sadistic. They get a thrill out of seeing other people suffer. Some small degree of this is a universal flaw of human nature--we hate on the old, classic Tom & Jerry and Road Runner cartoons out of one side of our mouths, and yet are smirking and laughing out of the other, at the sheer slapstick *pain and stupidity* on display. But some people take that too far, they make the desire to crush and maim and torment a source of *joy* in their lives.

It goes without saying that you need to avoid *those* kinds of jerks too.

So yeah, it happens. Some of it is just a flaw of human nature, some of it is because people have issues and don't even admit there's a problem, never mind one that needs fixing.

And as for your hubby....he gets *mad props* and respect from me. Anyone who *can* seriously make Temporary Labor work at all *deserves respect*, because you *can't* have much of a life going outside of work and be *Available* by the phone when the agency calls you telling you they need work done *today*. Really, Temporary Labor is one of the worst and most demanding ways to earn a living, and I hope your husband finds better soon. And in the meantime, there is *NO* disgrace at all in what he's doing...he's holding it down and doing what he can. He gets *nothing but* respect from me for making the best of a bad situation.

So don't let the neighbor get to you. Don't. But what I would do, is recommend to him that he do *something* with his time, even if it's just volunteering at a church or something. Part of the deal is that being unemployed for a long time can *itself* be depressing, and can itself make a jerk out of guys.

So yeah, the question you need to fire back at him, gently, with a *Smile*, is "Don't you have something better to do? Here, here's some chances for you to volunteer and get back out there..." Because if nothing else, it's a chance to network, and maybe find out what the other computer geeks are doing these days.

Just my three cents. ^_^ Thanks for your time.

Answer 2

Your observation is accurate.
Some people like your useless neighbor, try to make themselves feel better by TRYING to find someone upon which to look down.
Problem is that this fool next door to you is so blind that he can't see that he is his own worst enemy as well as yours.
Your husband is an honorable man doing honorable work to support his family. You have a winner there and know that it will not always be a struggle as you go through life together even though we all go through some difficult periods. Things get better in time for people like you.
Your foolish neighbor, however, will not have it so well unless he has a major change of attitude. Just as mutual respect has to be earned, so does self respect.
Ignore the neighbor, as letting him bother you will only seem to make things more difficult for you.
Some people simply are what they are.
Keep up the good work !

Answer 3

Your neighbor is an *** ****! And you and your husband should have better self-esteem of yourself; YOUR children should be very proud that their parents work to get food on the table and pay the bills. And that means getting any kind of job that will get it done or get you through something better comes along. Good steady jobs like we used to know, don't exist anymore. We have to learn to change with the times and making the best of it. Anyways your neighbors bills are not getting paid and how he is feeding his family is something else. Your neighbor could be waiting along time and may end up in the streets. Now who will be feeling stupid/low/bad about themselves.
Keep hanging in there and have faith that your situation will get better. Teach your children of living simple and not be ashamed about it and that all that matters is living a happy life (especially with God). You & your husband are doing the right thing.

GOD BLESS! AMEN! SHALOM!

Answer 4

Sounds the the neighbor is a "hater". Dont let your husband hang out next door and if the neighbor comes by answer the door in a robe, mess up your hair and peek through and say now is not a good time... I admire your husband for doing what it takes to support his family. Just tell your husband some people who wants what he has (morals, sense of humor, looks, good provider skills) will try to make him feel worse in order to make themselves feel better. Sounds like this guy doesnt like himself or his life too much. ^5 hubby

Answer 5

People say things like "Oh, they're just jelous" or "They just want to feel good about themselves" but I don't believe that's the case. The world isn't like that and I think these people just plain out "know" they are better. I am not saying your neighbour is better, he probably is a douche. They make other feel stupid because they are full of themselves and have been built up so high. This person is a douche and you just need to know that he is a douche and your husband needs to know that he is a douche so that he wont feel threatened or insulted by this douche because your husband it better.

Answer 6

It Usually Means That They Are Jealous Of What THey HAve
SO The Only Way To Get Back Is To MAke Them Feel Bad

Answer 7

It is really hard to come to the realization that a career cannot be saved and harder yet to make the necessary adjustment to survive after that.
You have a headstart working as a temporary.
Get together with this delusional ex-geek and start a website home business and share the profits.

Answer 8

There are idiots everywhere. Your husband is more of a man then the neighbor will ever be as he is doing everything he can to provide for his family. Blow hards always get theres trust me. And you know if he is sitting on his duff I would point out he is lazy and useless.

Answer 9

Yes, unfortunately some people think they can build themselves up by tearing other people down. What they fail to realize is how they actually look to other people. when they do that.
I admire your support for your husband during this difficult time. He needs it.
If your neighbor can't find work working on computers, I would have to question how qualified he really is. I would say don't let him work on yours.

Answer 10

Girrrrl! The man KNOWs he is a big LOSER...The only way he can feel superior is by putting your man down...
I feel sorry for him- You two should say a little prayer for him everyday that he grows some brains and some b@lls and moves on.
Don't you DARE let his pathetic antics get to you!
We do what we have to to stay on track...never feel you need to make excuses for that- Especially to the likes of HIM
Peace Sista!