i messed up this time, how do i get back in his good graces?
2007-12-06 13:54:34 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he saw my answers account and was hurt.
2007-12-06 13:59:56 · update #1
What did ya do to make him this way?Ya have to admit to yourself your part of the problem too and not just him.Look at yourself first and become right with you.Once you've done this turn to him to see why he won't talk.
2007-12-06 14:53:01 · answer #1 · answered by pedebeed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) If you are seriously repentant about whatever it is you did, ask for his forgiveness. Don't pressure him into it, but do at least ask.
2) Give him time to recover from the shock. When a man's trust is betrayed, it takes a while to build back up. But if he does truly love you, then it will build up. It will take some being unselfish on his part, but if he loves you, he will.
3) Stop doing whatever it is you're doing. If you messed up, don't just say you're sorry. FIX IT! If it was a post, remove it. If you cheated on him, cut off all contact with whoever it was. If you beat his face in, pay for his doctor bills.
Whatever you do, do NOT hold it against him that he's angry. Do not do what the first person said and remind him of all the times you've forgiven him. LOVE KEEPS NO SCORE. Fight fair, in the here and now. Bringing up past mistakes means you haven't forgiven and forgotten. Throw everything he's done into the sea of forgetfulness. And hopefully, if he sees that you've done that, he can do the same.
2007-12-06 22:21:32 · answer #2 · answered by ninjaphobos 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He won't talk to you? That's pretty immature. If it were me, I would tell him that we are not going to be able to work anything out by not talking. If you have already apologized once you don't need to apologize a million times. He may just need his space (depending on how long it's been --one day, max) but beyond that, he needs to talk to you. Even if you do believe you did something wrong, he still needs to talk to you. And reminding him of times he has screwed up is NOT going to help, so don't do that. Apologize, but then take a stand. Don't let him "ignore" you just because you did something wrong. We all make mistakes.
2007-12-06 22:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by KC 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All depends on what he saw. Try to bare it, he'll come around soon. And try to stay away from the computer for a while if possible.
2007-12-06 22:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by Jerrylee21 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It depends what you did.
It depends what you've done in the past.
It depends on what type of guy he his.
nothing could get me back in my husband's good graces... he would come around naturally.
but he is my ex-husband now.. so don't go by me.
2007-12-06 22:01:04 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Kelly 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
well men are men they just get fed up from a woman then divorce then get a girlfriend then marry again and on and on.. ur just gonna have to start looking for a new guy.
2007-12-06 22:21:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
show him that you truely care dont ignore him back or anything but act as if you really want his attention and youll do anything for it. and if hes stubborn then just talk to him give him the guilt trip and make him want to talk about it and forgive you but mainly your best best is show him that you truely care for him and be very and i mean very APOLOGETIC..,............ good luck dear
2007-12-06 22:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by Kayla P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Umm not enough information to asisst you, but I imagine you in your birthday suite would spark some type of reaction...
2007-12-06 21:59:14 · answer #8 · answered by ibjuscoolin 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Give him time to think and cool down. Then, when he is ready you can talk about it.
2007-12-06 22:03:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Cream pie!! That's the best answer to anything I've read today! Give him the $10,000! (-:
2007-12-06 22:13:19 · answer #10 · answered by Mosh 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋