My husband and I have been hanging out with another couple just about every weekend for a little over a year now. We're all really good friends. In fact, my husband and him have been best friends for about 10 years. We go places together. Our kids play together. All should be great! The problem is that I think my husband is sleeping with his best friends wife. Any time we're together, they always sit beside each other. They play around with each other. They're really touchy, feely with each other. I catch them staring at each other a lot and they act like they're sharing a private joke sometimes. Also, they always seem to find some reason to be alone together. Sometimes she has to ride with him to the store. Or he has to take something to her house "for his friend". It all seems a little suspicious to me. I've never seen anything really inappropriate happen between them. I just have a gut feeling there's more there than should be. How do I find out for sure? Help!
2007-12-06 13:49:59 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband has been friends with this other couple for many years. Way longer than he and I have been together. From what I've heard, him and her have always acted this way with each other. But, it's only been in the last year or so that the four of us have been hanging out together and I've got to see it first hand. Generally speaking, my husband is hard to get close to and doesn't seem to like too many people. But, he seems to really like her. But, like I said, from what I've heard he's always been like this with her.
2007-12-06 13:50:29 · update #1
it kinda sounds like they are messing around but that does not mean they are. Maybe their just friends but id keep an eye on them just in case. Their is no way your ever going to know if they are or if their not unless you catch them or he tells you and both are not going to happen eather so the best thing i can tell you is just to keep an eye on him and her.
2007-12-06 13:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by karls dream 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband NOW! This is not right, and if anything you need to be talking to him about this girl. It doesn't matter if they're just being friendly towards one another.
Sounds like this other lady is a little bit too flattered by your husband..you'd better watch her around your man girl. Sounds like a sign that you'll need to take a break from hanging out so much and spend more quality time together, as a couple!!
2007-12-06 14:25:36 · answer #2 · answered by Aneres 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's a tough situation. But before you take some drastic measures to some spying. Put a key logger on the computer, you'll be able to get all his passwords and be able to read all his emails. You'll have to get the one you'll have to pay for so it'll start up anonymously when the computer starts up. They're not so expensive. Check his cellphone records if they're any calls to her. Get a free credit report and see if he has any additional credit cards you know nothing about, check his credit card statements! Most people who cheat will leave a paper trail. Try following him for a few days and see what he's doing. But in the end if you find out that he's doing nothing, stop being suspicious otherwise it'll kill you inside. If you find out that he isn't cheating have a talk with him and tell him how it makes you feel when they're being touchy feely! I don't envy you, you're in a tough spot!
2016-04-07 22:48:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a sister in law that is like that with me.. I slap her a s s she puts her hand on my knee, shes always on top of me when we sit on the couch... and this is all in front of an audiance.. my folks would ask me what the hell I was doing....
The answer was nothing... yeah given the chance I would make a move, but the reality is, I'm glad i don't cause thats way too close to home.. why mess it up.. I have a feeling nothing happened between the two of them, cause when it does, I promise you they will avoid each other like the plauqe.. they will be too obvious that something is going on...
You have to worry when they stop acting that way... get it?
2007-12-06 14:16:00 · answer #4 · answered by Latin G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.......if they were having an affair they would be very careful you guys don't see them sitting next to each other too often, they would avoid anything that could rise suspicion. I know cause....I've been there.
I think they just get along super well. My husband and my sister in law used to drive everyone crazy with their jokes and stories that would last all night long, my brother and I were bored and tired and the 2 of them would go on all night partying. That lasted 10 years....my brother and I never ever thought they were having an affair. They just had the same personality and feed on each other's bad jokes.
2007-12-06 14:00:55 · answer #5 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Based on your description I would be suspicious but with a door open to innocent flirtation. but it seems as though he's taking it too far and doesnt appear to be concerned about how it may affect you.. Is he that way with you? I would paint the picture like you did in your question w/o being accusitory but seeking clarification..His actions warrant looking into for your own reassurance and if he knows that you know, then he may back off and hopefully put your feelings first. If he continues, that would justify you telling him that this is upsetting to you and if he would find it objectionable if the tables were turned..what you say to him depends on how you know him but the main thing is not to approach him aggressively at first...It may backfire. Good luck.
2007-12-06 14:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by kindablue99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you guys have to go out all the time with them? dont you have like a couples night without the third and fourth party??you 2 act like theyre the only friends you have, ask the other husband, whats his reaction to this?? and try to put everything on the other side of the mirror so they can see what theyre doing to you, do the same as they do, with HER husband!!!or get a third person to join youcand make this person tell them how unappropiate they are!
2007-12-06 14:13:01 · answer #7 · answered by suehellen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you don't have to know for sure. What he is doing with her is already inappropriate. As his wife, you have the right to tell him all that he is doing is making you uncomfortable. You have the right to ask him to stop or even stop hanging around this friend. If there is nothing going on, he would gladly do it because it does not mean anything to him. If he refuses, then there is something going on.
2007-12-06 14:11:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust your gut feelin, of course one of the worst things a man could do in this world is sleep with his best freinds wife of course unless the husband aggress and actually asked the friend to do it. Another thing to think about is maybe they are trying to get you to do the swinging thing and this is their way to lead to that question that you would otherwise wouldnt consider.
just some thoughts
2007-12-06 14:09:39 · answer #9 · answered by ibjuscoolin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does sound a little weird. I always say trust your gut instinct. If you feel like something is fishy, it probably is. Have you tried mentioning to him that their behavior makes you a little uncomfortable? Where is her husband during all this? How does he act about all this? It seems he would sense something too.
2007-12-06 13:55:45 · answer #10 · answered by zento1110 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋