Me and my friend got in a fight over something stupid and then our parents got involved.now we are in a bigger fude.A couple of days ago i went up to her and said i still wanted 2 be friends and we shouldn't be fighting over spilt milk and i said i was sorry even though it wasn't my fault. And she said no i can never forgive you.now she talks behind my back. one of our friends wanted 2 know why we wern't getting along so i texted that person why.that person showed her the text now she's more p'd at me 4 what she did what would you do?
2007-12-06 13:48:19 · 13 answers · asked by anita10210 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hi, Anita!
I don`t know how old you are, but we all, I mean all the girls have quarrels with our best female friends. I do understand your situation. I had the same type of problems, but my best friends offended me in more offensive way than yours.
So, sharing my own experience I have a lot of advices to you. And you have a chance what to choose, what suits you best. It is difficult to give only one advice due to the fact that I wasn`t involved in your friendship, so I don`t know if you have ever betrayed her or she did.
Hovewer, here are my advices:
1) If you really believe deep inside that she is your best friend, just come to her and tell all you feel. Have a good conversation. If you have a hidden offence, let her know and ask her if she does so. This will help to clear you relationship and thoughts.
2) Another way of solving this problem is just give her some time to be alone, to come down. Then if she is really your close friend, she will call you one day and you will be together as previous.
3) If I were you, I would forget about her. You know I have 4 best females friends, we were close friends for 9 years! And when I move to another city, nobody even write me a letter, never congratulate me with my birthday. So I truly believe that sincere female friendship happens very rarely. So don`t close your eyes on evident things.
So I wish you to clear this situation and to choose from my advices the most appropriate one.
I wish you all the best!
Mika
2007-12-06 14:05:23 · answer #1 · answered by Mika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry i would be a open book start with the good points about the friendship u had. tell her thats the key thing about being a friend where people can make mistakes and learn from them. that you miss her and the great times u had together and would like to talk when the time is right. try and keep in touch by texting her once a week saying hello hope all is well,, or miss talking to u. good luck
2007-12-06 13:53:06 · answer #2 · answered by seaenna_74 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mental health professional with 20+ years experience, now retired, and as a father of two, my recommendations are: Do no more. You have made your point with her. She has clearly replied to you. She will "forgive" or come to light on the subject in her own time, not yours. You just be ready to talk with her when she's ready, even if it's 40 years from now, or tomorrow at 3am when she calls you on your cell phone, if you have one. Make sure you understand the issues and problems as objectively as you can. Mull over the fight, and what you may have actually done to bring it on or worsen it. Be ready to be humble, and then God will take care of things in His time. God Bless you.
2007-12-06 13:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably the best thing is you were mature and did the right thing, but she didn't and that shows you something about her doesn't it? Not someone you want to be friends with, is she?
Cut your losses, make new friends and steer clear of Miss Snotty Pants from now on, ok?
2007-12-06 13:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont really think that shes your friend scince she got mad at you over nothing. i wouldnt really worry about it that much. if you guys were really good friends your friendship should be bigger then the fight and it will all work out in the end.
2007-12-06 13:53:19 · answer #5 · answered by realheven_04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you is saying stuff like that you I would forget about her... She is obviously not a very nice friend...
Plus is it ever gonna be the same now, especially that your parents got involved?
2007-12-06 13:52:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would forget about her for a while anyway. She couldn't have been to good of a friend. She's the one with the problem.
2007-12-06 13:58:26 · answer #7 · answered by mikk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't deserve to be friends with you get some new friends.
And you fought because you spilled some milk !? Wow !
2007-12-06 13:57:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just forget about that person, or try to really apologize and mean it, like you didn't do the first time
2007-12-06 13:51:44 · answer #9 · answered by mi nombre 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore absolutely as in future you will not leave peacefully.
2007-12-06 13:52:02 · answer #10 · answered by baba 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋