Honestly, why do men cheat? Have you ever cheated on your spouse or girlfriend? If so please explain why. And if you are a cheater does that mean that you don't love your wife or girlfriend? Can you love two women or more at the same time? Is that possible?
2007-12-06 13:46:52 · 21 answers · asked by abigailbanksabi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Women cheat too.
2007-12-06 13:51:16 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have never cheated on a partner but I will try to give you some in site as to why men sometimes do it.
A, they are insensitive and of low morales. These guys are a waste of time. Don't worry about the cheating behavior, just worry about letting the door hit them in the *** on the way out...
B. men do not feel the same way about sex as women. Men are not as emotionally attached to sex as women. Men can have sex with anyone or anything so long as they have an erection... women want the love and romance etc (This is in genral and by no means is intended to paint everyone with the same brush)
C. Yes people can love more then one person at a time. What it boils down to in the end is morales and charter. A decent guy will make a decesion so the other person can move on.
D. you can be a cheater and still love your wife, but I think t he question you should have asked was... do you respect your wife if your a cheater... the answer for that would be no.
When all is said and done, your man should make you feel like you are the only person in the world for them. They should make you feel loved and be a source of strength and friendship for you. If they are not providing you with that then you need to move on. Life is to short to waist it on someone who does not love or respect you.
2007-12-06 13:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by hydrogen_peroxide_usp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that the reason people cheat is complex. it's about the relationship, how each person views the relationship, how they communicate, how they deal with conflict, what each person feels they could benefit or risk from cheating/being caught and the relationship they have with the person they cheat with.
i do believe that it is possible to love multiple people at the same time, but that is polyamory... which doesn't support cheaters. it's about open and honest relationships.
I don't think that the USA being founded on such puritain values helped anything, ontop of the cont. backlash of the victorian era. We all still believe that special someone is sitting there in a tower, waiting for us and only us... reality is most people collectively didn't believe that way until the last few centruies.. and we out live those people a good 3 times.
you can't expect a human, just like you are a human, to not make mistakes or have needs that can be completely met by another human. but God forbid you forgive them, or better have open discussions about sex, desire, needs and wants.
honesty, safety and expression are the only cures for cheating. cheating is what happens when honesty, safety and expression are violated, oppressed or misused.
2007-12-06 14:11:17 · answer #3 · answered by meka 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Define cheat?.... I flirt with ladies alot, but never have gone any further..Not sure if I could as far as that goes..Iam married..17 yrs..kids..older now.....Life was grand until wife had "the surgery"...Now she says that all the medicine that she takes for hormones and all...totally screw her up..she is always tired, no interest in sex..Forgets alot of things, doesn't want to deal with any problems, will not go to the dr to see if there is anything they can do for her..People say she shows signs of depression, is overweight..So now you tell me, would this not tempt a man into looking else where? Like others have said, just someone showing an interest in others is a thrill...The wife always told me, if you ever stop wanting sex with me, then I will go somewhere else...So.....now the shoe is on the other foot! I have to admit, there is always temptation, but will I ever act upon it?..Who knows!!
2007-12-06 14:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by TM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy and I have never cheated on any of my girlfriends and I never will. I have no respect for cheaters especially after getting cheated on. My ex girlfriend claimed to love me after I found out that she cheated on me twice and then I broke up with her and she tried to come back saying that no one has ever treated her as good as I had but it was too late.
2007-12-06 13:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by HHH 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe that men cheat because of lack of sex or exitement, or something they claim that their woman is doing or NOT doing.Or atleast thats what they say. In my opinion, the problem is within the cheater not the relationship. Its an excuse and I don't know if that means they don't love their wives but it shows a lack of respect. They should close one door before opening another.
2007-12-06 13:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by lwomar 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes, women cheat too and basically for the same reasons, they are not being fulfilled in one way or another. for men i think its more of a sexual thing and for women, we want to feel a bond and we want to feel close to someone...
i also believe that years ago people stayed married cuz they didnt live as long..now people live longer and adulthood is stretched out and how can we be happy with the same person ALL those years...sad but true. monogamy is not human nature.
2007-12-06 14:02:53 · answer #7 · answered by chantel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I belive there should be no reason to cheat on ones wife. I reagard cheating not a thing a real man should do.
if you find things that really do not work out then you may seperate and then go with another.
2007-12-06 14:24:32 · answer #8 · answered by DI 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I almost cheated on my wife. She was emotionally distant. I was romantic, helped (did) most of the house work and did my share with the kids. It was an ordeal to have sex. Always on her terms.
Then when someone you maybe casually flirt with starts to pay attention you feel flattered. It sucks to feel taken for granted.
2007-12-06 14:05:54 · answer #9 · answered by texas mikey 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you cant force him to like you , or to love you ! thatd be like me trying to force you to vote me as best answer , would you fall for that ? look at him analytically and stop trying so hard to get him , and pherhaps he,ll likely wonder and pause to reflect ! okay , why did eve in the garden of eden desire the forbidden fruit ? coz there was nothing else to eat ? rather its coz it was forbidden , so she desired , craved and wanted it ! if youre always available for this guy and he knows it , why should he desire you more ? hes a player and wont care if you also got hurt or pregnant in the process ! if hes attached to hes g friend , then why did he begin messing with you ? really and this guy is youre star idol in life ? hes just like any other guy and theres 7 billion people on this planet earth !
2016-05-21 22:45:24 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋