why are prenups (especially majority of women) found to be bad? what i dont understand is when questions get posted about guys getting screwed over the large amount of answers are "you should have gotten a prenup" (mostly by women) and when questions ABOUT prenups happen they are slammed down to be bad things. that they "doom" the entire marriage. how is that fair? considering what mostly happens in court how are we guys to protect ourselves? i dont understand.
why are prenups looked upon as things that you do not trust or love your wife, isn't it enough to look at society today and what happens? why not?
2007-12-06 13:23:30 · 16 answers · asked by Hi T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
prenup is equal to both parties
2007-12-06 13:30:55 · update #1
prenups are a good option if you have retirement funds, IRAs, stocks, bonds, etc. before the marriage.
who cares what others have to say about them... youve got to protect yourself just in case.
if the person you are marrying is against getting the prenup... then are they planning on leaving you and taking everything???
if someone is absolutely certain that their spouse wont need the prenup...then they wont have a problem signing it.
2007-12-06 13:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by Stevie 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
A prenup is good if one person has lots of assets. Then that person doesn't have to worry that they are getting married just to get those assets in case of divorce. Also, when there is a divorce and the parent remarries, there should always be a prenup. Let's say the first wife dies and they have 3 grown children. The widower remarries 2 years later to a woman with 2 sons. Now the Dad dies....guess what? That new wife and her two sons have everything. The house, the car, the bank accounts. The 3 children from the first marriage get nothing. And likely the Mom that died worked hard to get those assets thinking they were going to her children....not some stranger's sons.
2007-12-06 13:36:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how the prenup is communicated, presented and the timing. Shoving a prenup under someone's nose two days before a wedding is inappropriate and could obviously cause some trust issues. Sometimes one of the parties does try to place the other party at a disadvantage. This is why it's extremely important to have legal representation for both parties. My feeling is, if at any time during your relationship, you feel pressured, uncomfortable, or a sense of mistrust, it's best not to get married at all.
2007-12-06 15:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I have already discussed with our lawyer the prenup and I am the one that brought it up. He was relieved when i did because he wasn't sure how to bring it up or how i would react, even though I had previously stated that I was ok with them and actually found them to be good-not bad.
In my opinion-it is like having car insurance-you don't have it because you know something is going to happen, you have it IN CASE something happens. So if you go out and get car insurance and use the same theory put towards prenups that you are "dooming" it, does that mean your car gets totaled after getting the insurance or just because you got the insurance?
2007-12-06 14:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A prenuptial agreement is normally put into place before marriage, and when one of the parterns might have a lot of assets. This agreement states how much money the spouse might receive IF there is a divorce later in the marriage.. this protects assets, so the divorcing partner can't take more than specified in the agreement.
Prenuptial agreements are an individual choice; however, you might want to know that any mutual assets, or gains made during the average marriage are property of BOTH husband and wife and are normally divided equally if a divorce occurs. There are some exceptions to this, of course.
2007-12-06 13:33:11 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good prenup will consider and protect both parties. I would like to have Micheal Douglas prenup....Catherine will get what? 3 million for each year she's been his wife...and some sort of extra compensation if he's caught cheating.
2007-12-06 13:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only an uninformed person or someone that does not want to face the fact that over 50% of the marriages end in divorce would not get a prenup.
2007-12-06 13:33:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are just starting out in life with few possessions and a first marriage a pre-nup is probably not as important as it would be if you had previously been married and had accumulated property. You can't afford to lose a home you paid for, retirement accounts, savings, stocks etc. if a marriage goes bad and there aren't aggreements on how possessions are divided. The type of pre-nup that seems damaging to a marriage are those that are made because one person wants to reward or penalize the other for the amount of time they stay married. ..in other words the settlement is greater the longer they stay.
2007-12-06 13:34:02 · answer #8 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prenups are only necessary when one party comes in to the marriage with an extreme amount of wealth, especially if the wealth has come from the spouse's extended family.
2007-12-06 13:29:55 · answer #9 · answered by monicanena 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i'm sorry, but i don't think i would marry someone if they asked me to get a prenup. why plan for the end of a marriage before it even starts? to me it seems like there is a lack of trust when a prenup is involved. marriage is supposed to be forever. till death do us part right? why would you get married if you didn't plan on it being forever? society today has gone to ****.
2007-12-06 13:33:17 · answer #10 · answered by rock chick 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋