My brother has a wife from the philippines and he brought her to live here in the US near our family.Anyway we first met we had that brief staring,love at first sight moment together but we faked our way through the first meeting and i left quickly trying to get my head together.I am thinking its your brothers wife and she is off limits.So then she starts to find reasons to come to my house and spend time with me.She told my brother I am giving her French lessons(which i am).During these lessons of course we talk,and one day she says to me out of nowhere,"I wish i would have met you first so i could have married you,You are so sweet and so perfect for me,I love you so much and I want to spend the rest of my life with you.I thought your brother was but I was wrong,I love you and i cant love anyone else."I feel the same and we started kissing but i stopped it there and told her she had to leave and let me think about this.I feel the same way she does,I love her but shes my brothers wife.
2007-12-06 13:20:30 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont know what to do no matter what someone gets hurt.Please help me out.
2007-12-06 13:21:06 · update #1
It's always best to live an honest life and try to put yourself in a situation where you can live honestly. Right now, I'm sure this must be killing you to know that you are being unfair and deceptive. It would be in everyone's best interest for you to sit down with your brother and tell him exactly how you feel and how she feels about you. At least that way, everything will be out in the open, then you and brother can decide what to do. He may decide that he doesn't love her anymore. He and you may decide that you shouldn't see her. You won't know until you begin to be honest.
2007-12-06 15:24:17 · answer #1 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She marry your brother because she knew he was the one for her. Ok, she marrys you because she knew you were the one for her, then one day she meets your best friend or a good friend of yours, then decides that she thought you were the love of her life but she was wrong.
Do you really believe her story?
Now, what in the world would make you fall for your brother's wife? Do a little self searching, you don't love her, it's just plain old lust. Those Philippine girls are so beautiful, go there and choose one.
2007-12-06 14:29:29 · answer #2 · answered by Jerrylee21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know a part of your desire for one another could be the fact you know it's "forbidden love" but in all seriousness, you are a dog if your even entertaining thoughts of pursuing this further.
Tell you what, if you feel this could be a possibility then man up, and go tell your brother you and his wife kissed. She what happens then.
Your his brother, his family, blood.... you are the one person in the world he should never have to worry about betraying him or his marriage to.
2007-12-06 13:43:29 · answer #3 · answered by hydrogen_peroxide_usp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Butt out of her life until SHE decides what to do. Having an affair will just muddy the waters. She is the one who must decide to either divorce your brother or stay with him. Do not do anything unless she first gets a divorce. The hurt will be slightly less for your brother if you two don't have an affair while they are married. That's the cleanest way to do it.
2007-12-06 13:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by Jacee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well there has already been an affair...in your hearts. and you should stop it asap. this is your brother. get away from her. and i don't think it's ever going to be appropriate for you to be with this woman no matter how honest the two of you are with your brother. thats your brother. what happens when she decided she "really" loves someone else and leaves you? then you've lost your brother and your wife. find someone else bro.
2007-12-06 13:38:36 · answer #5 · answered by rock chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No help in this situation. Someone has to get hurt. But be a man and be honest. She needs to do the same. Just don't give him more reason to be hurt by cheating without calling it over first, because then you are adding to the hurt.
2007-12-06 13:32:42 · answer #6 · answered by bonnieboobabe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is none of your business. This is for your brother and his wife to work out between themselves. Do yourself a favor and stay out of it, you are only going to confuse things further.
2016-04-07 22:42:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont steal your brother's wife. Tell her that you are flatter, and although the feelings are mutual, you have a duty to your brother. Maybe she has a sister?!
2007-12-06 14:19:47 · answer #8 · answered by trista 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a wxxxx, bar girl from Manila. Forget about that woman. Not worth losing blood over her.
2007-12-06 13:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by Goodhead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move away---as far away as you can!
Only distance will help this mess. She needs to concentrate on the man she vowed to, and you need to be the bigger person and remove yourself from the picture so she CAN do that.
It sucks, but its the only RIGHT thing to do.
2007-12-06 13:33:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋