Omg ?!?!!? please help!!!abuse!!!?

Question

ok so yesterday at class my friend start complain a little about her lip which was hit.


i asked her wat happened
she said that her stepfather hit her in the face about 3 times.she has a minor brusie in her eye too.
where can she get help?but i dont wanna make a big deal bout it.
what should i tell her?

shes not a close friend
she just somebody i have for a class
but i do wanna help.

the mother does know and she didnt say anything!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

it is a big deal u should report it to the authorities. it may be too hard for her to deal with doing herself since he is family but u have to at least try.

Answer 2

Ask her if he done this before. If it is habitual, try to talk to her about visiting the school counselor or talking to the police. Go with her for moral support if she asks. Take several pictures of the injuries in case charges are pressed or it happens again. Her stepfather may need a psych. No one should be hitting a minor in the face. Where was her mother while this was going on? Maybe her mother is being abused, too, and is afraid of him. What happened to your friend is not like giving a smack on the bottom of a toddler who is misbehaving and is not responding to "time out".

Answer 3

* talk to an adult you TRUST, if it isn't your
parents.. that's fine. a teacher, or your favorite
aunt, or older sister/brother is fine.

* tell them all you know, how she said he hit her,
and ask them to help you out.

* calling a hotline.. wont help. if anything, it will
stress you out. they basically tell you what you want
to hear. that it is bad for all cases of abuse.


*but if your friend did something wrong,
and he hit her;; he will not get in any sort of trouble.
you can also tear their family apart.. so be really
careful with what your getting yourself into. she
may have been mad about whatever he did to her,
and exaggerated it. like if she swore at him,
or did something against family rules, and he
hit her.. then thats a totally different story.
if he doesn't do it daily or weekly or even
monthly, then you really shouldn't get into it.


tell her you are conserned and think she needs help, if she agrees and tells you that he hits her often, THEN seek help.


*** don't get yourself in water too deep to get out of. ***

just make sure that it's abuse;; look it up online more
to make sure her case is actually abuse.. because
you wouldn't want to get the po po's and everything
involved because of it and then having a family
destroyed over something as simple as her
exageration

i hope everything works out!!!

good luck, and i hope that if your friend
really is being abused that she is ok!!!

Answer 4

You should make a big deal out of it! LIKE NOW! Tell your parents what happened, and ask them what you think you should do. I would also recommend that you talk to a guidance counselor first thing tomorrow morning and tell them what she told you.

At least you will have tried to help her. If he is hitting her in the face, please imagine what else he could be doing to her and the rest of her family. It is against the law and he needs to be stopped.

You are doing the right thing by asking for help. I am proud of you for being concerned and knowing that it isn't okay.

Answer 5

First let me be the one to tell your congratulation by helping your friend you can go to www.childhelp.com or call 1800-422-4453 or the school counselor. If someone tell your to mind your own business please do not maybe next time it will be more than a bruise on the eye or a fat lip. Ask your self the question if this was you would you like someone to help you. Talk to your friend and do this togheter so she what be alone.

Answer 6

She should go to the school guidance counselor and ask for help, or you should go the school guidance counselor and ask that person to help her. A report will, by law, need to be made to child protective services. Child protective services will probably not remove her from the home for minor injuries. They can require that her family get family counseling, and that her step-father get Anger Management counseling. And they can monitor the family to make sure all of that is really happening.

Answer 7

Either you want to help her, or you don't. You cannot help her without making a "big deal" of it. What you should do is take her to the school nurse and have her talk to the guidance counsellor as well. The GC will call the police and have it reported. No one should be hitting anyone, especially minors.

Answer 8

If your a true friend you'll do the only thing you can do. You'd get the police involved or Human Resources and try to get your friend some help. Be very supportive, but don't be afraid to ask for help. So you are taking the first step.

Answer 9

Does you school have a guidance counselor? Ask them what is the best course of action to take. If not, then the school nurse or even the principal if you can't get a good response from anyone else.

Good for you!

Answer 10

omg don't listen to that girl above you. I'm sorry, but this IS a big deal. You deffinitely won't help her by pretending it's nothing. you need to tell a teacher, privately. She might not be happy with you if she ever found out, but you're protecting her, isn't that more important than yourself in this one situation?? tell a teacher, (I'm guessing you go to a public school and if you don't it might be a little harder, but you should still tell) they're actually trained to handle this stuff. One of my teachers told the class not to joke about abuse because she has to report it to child protective services. Tell an adult, save your friend

Answer 11

Just try and talk to her and get some more information. She could be living in a harmful enviroment. Maybe her mom is on drugs or something. Tell her to go and talk to a teacher or school counselor. What about her grandmother or other family members. Can she talk to them?