feminists and "liberated" women: why do you feel that promiscious women are bad or demeaning?

Question

i dont see it this way.

to me it seems that judging or looking down upon someone for sleeping around is only counterproductive. women immediately jump to the conclusion that a prostitute or an "easy" woman is someone who has issues or has no self respect or no self esteem. when in reality most of them just like to have sex and have some fun.

the way i see it the only one who has self esteem issues are the feminists and the "liberated" women who go out of there way to repress those desires that the "easy " women embrace simply because it is seen as wrong, dirty etc. and in turn make themselves the "Strong women" because they wont let jsut anyone sleep with them. (as if they are so important than only the deserving deserve them)

does anyone else agree?

Answer 1

We all make choices in life.
Some choose promiscuity...others choose to be a judgmental prude....and then there are those in between, who are not sexually inhibited, but choose to live life as they see fit, not worrying about what labels others may place on them.
One thing I know for sure is that women face a double standard in the sexual arena.
Men who sleep around are said to be "getting lucky", ladies men, players, successful in the dating scene.
Women who do the same are called promiscuous, slvts, hoes,tramps, cheap etc.
Personally....I am very choosy about who I get intimate with...but I really don't care what labels people want to put on me...I do what I wanna, when I wanna...and I don't care who approves.

Answer 2

I would chalk it up to either low self esteem, or being raised in an environment where they never viewed or were taught the positives of being female. Some people are not happy with the bodies they were born with. I don't mean that in a sexual way, but more of a gender definition problem. Maybe gender identity disorder? hmmm.... I will keep on the lookout for this regular. Maybe we can figure out if it truly is a woman in need of help, or just a troll looking to get a rise out of people.

Answer 3

It's not in the feminist handbook that we need to look down on promiscuous women and call them "bad." But the fact is that a lot of us have either been promiscuous in a past phase of our lives or we know women who have been and we understand that lack of self esteem IS generally the cause of the promiscuous behavior. When these women/girls eventually get tired of that life style, decide to change and work through their issues most of them come to realize that they haven't thought very highly of themselves for a variety of reasons. They may be having fun temporarily being easy but that life style doesn't give them what they need in the long run to thrive i.e. human beings needs real love and caring nurturing and giving away sex generally doesn't get you those things. Look down on promiscuous women/girls? No, not most of us. Some of us are just sad for them and wishing they could grow up faster and learn to value what is important.

Answer 4

is there a point for you to direct this question to "feminists and liberated women?" How do you know how all of them feel about this? Are you just trying in a feeble way to get a rise out of folks or just trying to make yourself even more sanctimonious? Perhaps both?

Answer 5

I don't think promiscuous women are bad or demeaning, of me or anyone else, except, possibly themselves.

The reasons WHY they are promiscuous would be the guide to whether they think well or badly of themselves around their behaviour.

If they are unhappy, they can change, if they enjoy their lifestyle, I don't see it as any of my business.

I also don't know ANY feminists who consider promiscuous women bad or demeaning, are you sure you haven't wandered into a meeting of the Women Who Want to be Women at the local church hall by mistake?

Cheers :-)

Answer 6

You obviously don't know much about liberation. Liberated women aren't the prudes. You've got it backwards. It's the anti-feminist women that are the prudes. As far as I'm concerned, sex is neither forbidden nor a duty.

Answer 7

Well if thy are truly liberated...they wouln't find promiscuious women badly. They support sexual freedom. They would have wanted the same social acceptance on sex as men have. I think you are going towards the sterotypical feminist. Excuse my spelling.

Answer 8

So, it's 'Mr. Amazing' eh?

Why don't you admit you're just trying to mix Feminists and the topic of Promiscuity for your own reasons (and get women on a serious plateau, when basically... this is essentially a 'Gender & Women's Studies' version for you, of a beavis & but*head-type giggle..)... eh, playa?

Go ahead, be aesthetic...

Answer 9

There is a difference between being a slut and choosing numerous sexual partners. It's just that two groups of people disapprove: Male chauvinists and feminist chauvinists.

Answer 10

i've never known a fem. who looked down on women for their choices either to abstain or not. i think what bothers them are the real ramifications in society, the stigma. too loose and your trash, not loose enough and you're almost as bad. when it comes down to it public perception is the determining factor in ones ability to advance in society. a persons sexuality is not how we should determine competence or value.