help with mom problems?

Question

so my mom grounded me from going to one side of my town. how stupid is that? its where all my friends live including my best friend. but its also where everyone drinks and stuff. but like she cant ground me from half the town? shes basically saying i cant hang out with half my friends which is so unfair and she grounded me because i wouldnt tell her what i was doing one night, because i didnt want to get my friends in trouble. i had to go help my friends cause they needed me. but i cant tell my mom. but anyways she was liek you're going to be ruining our relationship for people you wont even know in a couple of years? and i was like yes. and now shes all nice to me all the time and trying to get me to spend time with her. i just dont get it. help please with all these stupid problems

Answer 1

The problem is that you are being a typical teenage girl - aka a complete witch to your mother. Nearly everyone does it. It isn't nice or remotely called for.

Your mother loves you. She wants to spend time with you and have a close relationship with you. That should not be difficult to understand. She is enacting these restrictions to keep you from making serious mistakes. I would sit down with her and have an INTELLIGENT conversation about your feelings and how you can prove to her that you can make good decisions.

If your friends are doing something you don't want to tell your mom about, you shouldn't be around them. You do not need to get yourself into those kinds of situations, and it is those kinds of situations that your mother is trying to help you avoid. Appreciate it while you still have her to watch your back.

Answer 2

I understand you. right now you dont' see the danger in it . To you they are your friends and so what if they drink and stuff. you don't do it so why should you worry.

But mom is thinking ahead here she's thinking of what could happen when your in that part of time. Could be problems where the kids get caught and your caught in the middle even though you didn't do anything wrong your in the crowd so your considered a problem as well. also that part of town could be more dangerous in the sense more people walking the streets bums, low lifes etc... people who hang out and cause trouble.

Your mother wants better for you. And the same time she wants you to have some freedom but she's seeing how you handle your free time and where you go.


As far as mom being nicer and hanging out with you more. She most likely wants to keep you busy and at the same time you two can bond more.

Cut mom some slack she loves you and your her baby no matter how old you get she's just looking out for things you can't see right now. YOu will when your older and look back.

Answer 3

Hi,
I couldn't help but to respond to this. This sounded like me when I was a teenager. I thought that by getting grounded my mom was being mean to me. I always wanted to be hanging out, but I couldn't. My mom was what you would call "over protective".
However, now that I'm a mother of two. I can understand why my mom worried so much about me. You see, moms want whats best for their children because they mean the world to us. The last thing we want is our children getting mixed up in the wrong crowd.
Friends come and go.Moms are here to stay.When you're sick,sad,happy,etc.Mom will ALWAYS be there,and never turn her back on you.
So the next time that she asks you something, be honest. Us moms know when our kids are lying anyway :)
I don't know what I would do without my mom.She is my best friend in the whole world.

Answer 4

By law, you have to do what your mom says until you are 18 years old.

Keep in mind that she pays for the roof over your head so you don't have to live on the street or in foster homes.

She also buys your food and clothes. Not to mention all the gifts she gives you.

The friends you are talking about will not be there after you graduate from high school and go on to college or go to work. You will all go your separate ways. In three or five years time, you will not even know where everyone is.

Your mom is trying to keep you from drinking, taking dope or getting pregnant like the 13 year old girl is down the street from us (without being married). These things CAN happen and it will ruin your life.

Answer 5

Tough breaks, kid! Mom's worry about their children! She has a right to know where you are going and what you are doing! Three cheers for your mom for caring about her child!
You will understand some day, when you grow up and have your own children. Until you do, just remember, Your mom is your best friend, she knows what is best for you!
If you would have gotten your friends in trouble by telling your mom what you were doing, then perhaps it's time to change friends. Your Mom is right to ground you! She pays the bills, you are under her roof, you have to abide by her rules!
If you don't like it, get a job, move out, and pay your own bills! I'm sorry if that sounds harsh, but that's a fact of life!

Answer 6

You should really take your mom's feeling in consideration. Look you are and will always be her baby, no matter your age. It's really true what she said about your friends not being your friends in a few years. After you graduate EVERYTHING changes. You won't see your friends at school everyday like you do now. After a while you won't even remember them. But your mom, you only get one, you will have for the rest of your life. she's only trying to look out for you. That's all. at anytime you can make the wrong decision that can put you in jail or even death. Yuor mom is just trying to prevent that from happening. Look at it from her side. You are very lucky that your mom cares so much for you.. and yes sweetheart these are stupid problems, get over yourself and grow up a little : )

Answer 7

Ok. I'm 25. Your Mom loves you and that is why she is trying to help you. If she didn't care what happened to you, she would just let you go over to the other side of town where there is drinking, drugs, and your friends. She wants you to have a happy life and that won't happen if you get pregnant at 15. I went through the same thing with my Mom. I hated it. Now I thank God every day she grounded me. I have a college degree, great apartment, great career, nice boyfriend, and going to Jamaica next week. Paid for myself! Listen to your Mom.

Answer 8

There are a lot of people that say that there are two sides to every story. First of all I would give benefit to your mom. I would guess that she is trying to protect you from potential harm. I am sure that the things you said are biased to your way of thinking. If you say that you can't tell your mom that is the same as saying that you lie to her when you think it is best for you. If that is true, and believe your mom does know if you are lying, why should she trust you. You have just proven you are not worthy of being trusted and you don't use good judgement so your mom is trying to set limits to protect you. If you want to be treated more like an adult, then you have to act more like one and quit lying to your mom. Try having an honest conversation with her and see where that leads.pp

Answer 9

Moms are.....confusing. Most if not all moms greatest fear is losing their little baby. Even if their baby isn't so much of a baby anymore. trust me, I know. My mom is way over protective and it's hard to understand her, or any moms most of the time. It's getting around the holiday times, the best present you can give your mom is love, hang out with her, maybe show her even if you've grown up she's still your mom and your still her baby. It'll make her day, week, month, hell maybe even year pretty damn great.

Your moms given you a lot, and as cheap as it sound, you owe her alot. Spending time with your mom isn't gonna kill you, trust me I do it every once in a while and as embarrassing as she is, my moms pretty cool. Meanwhile, if she's grounded you just play along, be nice to her and just play it cool. If your nice and good, you'll probably get off grounding early.

trust me, once college gets here, or your out of the house, your miss your mom no matter how much trouble she gives you. I'm 14 and I know this so I connect wtih you.

Whatever you end up doing Happy Holidays.

Answer 10

well, yeah, she can do that.

Kinda stupid, since yer on the other side of town, and I guess you "drink and stuff," if yer pissed about it.

Maybe you should ask yer mom to let you have 1 or 2 friends from the wrong side of town over. You might be surprised how close many folks from the wrong side of town are with their moms, and how much cooler they might be hanging out, if yer mom is hanging out.

Something tells me your mother knows what your doing, and it's not good for you. And she's right. Family comes before friends. If you can't tell her what yer going to help with...maybe you should just trust her better.