Serious question for serious answers only please. There are stereotypes that LARGE women are grotesque & have low self-esteem but that isn't always true. This question is in reference to those LARGE women who doesn't have esteem or hygiene issues. It's for the plus size woman who is well put together. So, why are some smaller women intimidated by the well put together plus size woman? Is it because that stereotype has been proven wrong? Or because the small woman have self-esteem issues herself?
2007-12-06 12:30:30 · 16 answers · asked by lookinforexcitement 3 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I'm not too sure IF everyone is really reading my question in its entirety. The key word is "SOME", so of course it wouldn't apply to all plus size and small women. The question is simple: "Why are SOME petite/small women threatened by confident/well put together plus size women?"
2007-12-06 12:54:55 · update #1
Well I can't say that I totally disagree with this observation.....
For instance...there are several plus size women where I work...all of which can seriously be considered intimidating to most. But I must say...it is not their size alone...it's the demeanor, and attitude....they are very "forward", and outspoken, very tough ladies....perhaps it stems from self image...maybe they see themselves as big and mighty, as opposed to those who cower in their presence.
Good question though :)
2007-12-06 13:09:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am a small woman not intimidated by plus size women.
I think sometimes that SOME large women are too confident and think they look better than they actually do. Just like SOME small women think that just because they are thin, they are attractive.
It is a case by case basis.
2007-12-06 20:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyes 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was small size 5 and now I am on the heavy size 200 pounds. I feel women are just very upset with who they are, so the easiest way to make themselves feel better is to talk about fat people. I never have done this because I have always had large women in my family. It did not matter how small I was; they still were loving people. It is not the size it is usually the heart of the person.
2007-12-06 20:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by bonnie w 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Why are some plus sized women intimidated by small women? I don't think they really are. I don't think this has anything to do with body size. I think people are insecure for various reasons and are therefore insecure in a variety of situations. Yes a smaller women will be insecure and fearful of a room full of larger women talking about discriminated they are, as an over weight women would be in a room full of skinny women talking about exercises.
2007-12-06 20:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
As I see it fear, loathing, disgust and dread are a product of an individual entity's personality, prejudice and psychological make up. If a sense of intimidation manifests itself when in the presence of 'big' women, then ask yourself, "who exactly is to blame"? Surely not the innocent party who is only going about her business in total oblivion to the fact that her very existence is scaring the pants off others?
2007-12-06 20:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by Ashleigh 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the only time anyone has been intimidated by my size is when they pissed me off...many ppl think that just because someone is bigger they are easily walked over...and i get this also because i tend to be a very quiet person. i dont try to impose myself on anyone and i keep to myself..
but sometimes..ppl just dont get that whole " leave me alone" thing about me. dont get me wrong...i can be approached..and i dont mind if the person is nice..i can be too...but if your only purpose is to be an @sshole...i can only say..be happy if i choose to walk away...and do not follow me.
my sister tends to cuss ppl out when they anger her..i do it too..but not too the extent she does.
anyhow...i think everyone has self esteem issues...i know i do..and i have met smaller women who have them.
trust me when i say that no one is born with low self esteem...it is society that does this...ppl saying you are too fat or too skinny...or too black..or not black enough..or too white..or whatever....no matter what...there will always be someone who will not like you for some stupid @ss reason. and many ppl tend to focus more on the negative aspects of themselves that ppl point out..and tend to ignore the positive aspects that ppl who are nice tend to point out.
think about it...when you were really little before going to school did your parents make you feel like you were the most special person in the world? that no matter what you were beautiful and cute? but when you started to go to school someone made fun of you and made you think..." im not so special...maybe i am ugly"
and then youd go home and cry and say what happened...and you would be told things like that happened in school...and things would be ok...but for how long?
how long do you keep beleiving the ones you love..over the ones who dont like you...
for some reason ...the ones who want to make a person miserable tend to have alot of power.
just ask hero of the house...he never thought anything was wrong with his looks until girls started telling him he wasnt attractive...and now he is obsessed with how he looks...he thinks no one likes him...despite being told many times he looks fine he doesnt beleive anyone...
and its all because a few ppl most likely put him down for not being what they thought was good looking.
anyhow...
to the idiot that said fat ppl are gross ....you can take that cookie..and go choke on it.but ..since i dont want to see you die...ill just punch you really hard in the stomach and see if you cough it up...ill try not to rupture anything when i hit you..
see how nice i am?
2007-12-07 03:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I haven't noticed this. In my circle of friends there are men and women of all sizes and we're all pretty comfortable around each other.
I don't know how it is with strangers though. I know I'm not intimidated by larger women whether I know them or not.
update: simmer down, chief. Apparently, these intimidated women aren't on GWS right now. I can't speak for them. I can only speak for myself.
2007-12-06 20:41:44 · answer #7 · answered by smoofus70 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think that some small women actually see themselves in plus size women, kind of a warped sense of awareness. They fear that they will or do look the same because it's so hard for them to keep battling their own weight issues.
2007-12-06 21:00:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
SOME small women think people will deride them because Nature has not been generous with their body.
Some plus sized women think people will rejected them just because an "unfit" silhouette.
Self esteem issues are in both sides.
2007-12-06 20:37:25 · answer #9 · answered by 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
same reason SOME plus size women are intimidated by SOME women who arent big...
2007-12-06 21:05:28 · answer #10 · answered by negaduck 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋