I'm running away?

Question

Well first off i'm 15 years old and hate my life at my home My friend is turning 18 this January and she is moving to las vegas w/her bf and she said i should come with her cause her bf wouldnt mind (besides he has a roommate that likes me) Im sick of my life @ home i live in utah and i would be in las vegus what would there chances of finding me if i change my name and dye my hair and stuff

nope im not in school i quite

Answer 1

Don't run away. You only have three more years until you are 18 and then you can legally leave you house and family. I know three more years may seem like a long time, but if you think about what's three years out of the 80 some odd years that most people live? It's really not a lot.

If you run away now, you will be throwing your life away. If you move in with a boy who likes you, with no adult supervision, what do you think will eventually happen? Do you want to become a mother right now? At 15? And do you expect your friend to support you? Are you going to get a job? You will have to work long hours, at probably no more than minimum wage and still not be able to get by. The real world is expensive.

I don't know what your home situation is like. Maybe it is really bad. But please, please really think about what you are doing. You are throwing your life away. Find someone you can talk to, a guidence counselor where you used to go to school. Maybe you need to be placed in foster care. There are so many families out there that would love to welcome you into their lives, and make the rest of your childhood so much better. Wouldn't that be better than running away?

I know this may be hard for you, but go back to school. Study really hard. Get a scholarship to your local technical college when you graduate and make your life better. You have the power to. I believe anyone can change their lives for the better if they want to.

Again, please don't run away. I wish you the absolute best of luck. Please update us all on what you chose to do?

Answer 2

Please don't run away!!! I'm a little younger than you, my parents are breaking up, I'm staying with my Grandmother at the moment. Let me tell you, I never thought I'd miss my parents so much. When I was coming over to stay with my Grandmother I thought that it would be fine and I'd be happier not fighting with my sister or hearing my parents yell. I was totally wrong. If you do go you'll miss them more then you can ever imagine. I'm not sure what situation you're in with caregivers and all but it's sure to be better than living with a friend at your age.

Think about what you're going to do for a living!!! You can't get a proper job. These days you need a college education never mind High school. At least if you do finish high school you can get a job that can pay the rent.

So again, please don't run away! Get back into a new school and stay with a relative or something. Get a fresh start.

Answer 3

If you run away you would be doing a very stupid thing... I'm young (20) and in my teen years there's nothing I wanted more than to run away. Luckily I didn't do it, I waited until I was old enough to decide for myself... I was 19 when I moved with my now husband to FL. I don't think it was a mistake, I'm happy and I have a 7 month old. But I'm older, I can work, and I'm mature enough to take the consequences of my actions, whatever they might be. You are young, stay home. Talk to somebody, your parents, a counselor, a friend you trust and that can give you mature advice.. but don't ruin your life by running away... You have so much to loose and nothing to gain by doing that. Don't make your situation worse.

Answer 4

Please don't run away. People will offer to help you and end up using you. What happens if you have a fall out with your friend and/or her boyfriend? Does the boyfriend's roommate expect something from you (i.e. room and board in exchange for sex, etc.)? Without a highschool diploma, you are really setting yourself up for a very hard life. If you think life is difficult now, imagine how difficult it will be on the streets of Las Vegas if you are homeless and too young to legally work anywhere there (save perhaps McDonnalds). Any place that would hire you would do so "off the books". If you have a worker who doesn't exist, do you have to follow OSHA? Again, you are setting yourself up to be abused and taken advantage of.

If things are difficult at home, talk to your school counselor about it.

Answer 5

If you don't change your name legally through the courts you can get in big trouble. Depending on how your parents are they may or may not hire a private investigator which could track you down or your "friends" down which could lead to them locating you.

I live in Utah and quit school when I was 15. I didn't get my GED until I was 22. My father is Bipolar and very abusive so I always wanted to leave, but never could. I don't know your situation, but if I was in your shoes I would understand how badly you want to just leave.

Part of me thinks it is a good idea that you leave because you will find yourself and assert yourself. As you get older you lose that enthusiasm that being a teenager gives you to try new things and take big risks. Plus you are a minor so the law isn't as harsh as adults.

It will be hard you will face challenges and learn life lessons. Beware of guys/men. Do work on getting your GED and at least deciding what if any careers interest you. Don't just strip or work on the streets. Money will be tight, but if your independence and freedom is more important to you that is just the sacrifice you will have to make.

Always carry pepper spray or some sort of protection for all things (even sex).

Answer 6

Since your question is what are the chances of finding you....here is your answer...

First it will depend on if you parents report you missing to the police. If they don't nobody will know to look for you. If they do report you missing and you have any contact with the police they can hold you and contact your parents. A missing person report will stay active as long as your parents want to keep it active. This will not go away when you turn 18.

If you are 15 you will not be able to change your name. There are many things that can be done to change your appearance. However keep in mind that 1. your fingerprints don't change.
2. your dental records don't change much in most cases.

If you parents have no idea that you went to Las Vegas then the police won't know to look for you there.

Keep in mind that the touristy area of Las Vegas is very nice. It is also very expensive. Since you are 15 a lot of it will be off limits to you. The parts of Las Vegas that you would most likely be able to afford will be pretty crappy and crime ridden.

Who is going to support you? Four people living in an apartment can get old pretty fast, and you could overstay your welcome quickly. People are only going to support you for so long. What are you going to contribute to with no education?
Do you want to grow up to be a hooker or a drug addict?

The choice is yours but I did my best to answer this from a neutral point of view.

Answer 7

First, to answer your question.
They will find you really easily because you posted all the details here. Even if you changed your look, they will find you because they will find your 18yr. old friend, who will then be in a LOT of trouble.

If something really bad is happening at home, talk to your parents about it, and don't be submissive. If they abuse you, call the police. However, since it is probably not that serious, talking to your parents/counselor should do it. And go back to school. No offense, but a ten-year-old can spell better than you.

Answer 8

15 in Las Vegas. Here's a question; what exactly do you plan on doing to earn a living? Depending on your friend and her boyfriend? That's great. What happens if they break up? What happens if he turns out to be abusive or a drunk or a drug addict? You don't know. What about this roommate? How much do you know about her? You don't know if she's a straight A student or a serial killer who eats her victims' livers for lunch. She could be a prostitute or a nun. You don't know and you're willing to put your life in their hands. Fantastic.

Here's the life of the typical runaway. In the first stage they run away with a friend who promises them a place to stay, food, all the essentials. Some crisis happens and the place to stay goes away. The runaway is turned out into the street (think this can't happen to you? Think again). With nowhere to turn, the runaway turns to the street. Most of them turn to prostitution. Especially in Las Vegas. A few of them turn to stripping. Most of them turn to drugs. The average runaway doesn't live past their early 20s. Think I don't know what I'm talking about? While growing up, most of my friends were runaways. I'm now 40. Most of those friends are now dead, in jail (life sentences usually), or in psyche wards because of damage done by drugs or beatings gotten while living on the street. One friend is in a permanent vegatative state.

You don't like it at home? There are other solutions. Talk to your school counsellors about some of them. Perhaps there are aunts or uncles willing to provide a home for you until you reach 18 and are able to provide for yourself. Perhaps your family would be willing to go to counselling to find out what the problem is and fix it.

Reality is if you run away, you might as well invest in a coffin.

Answer 9

bad Idea, first of all, you would be dealing with legal issues.
Under 15, your parrents have control, unless you are able to get legal status of being state controled, and that can sometimes be worse than your parrents.
Living with a boy friend in a roommate situation at that age, also a bad thing.
Next. I am a fellow utah residnet. There is no place better to live on earth. Utah is a great state. you dont want to leave utah. There aint no place better.

Answer 10

don't run away. your troulbed girl. answered your other question and it did not sound good. talk to someone. i really almost ran away from home when my mom whent to the hospital for 2 months and like yah it was really hard. maybe there is someone in your family or a friend that you can lean on and cry your eyes out. thats what i did. my teacher really helped. we took a walk andd talked about my problems. she was so nice. just talk. if you want to talk to me feel free. i will listen to anything you have to say, bad words and all. god bless you.