I asked a lady out, she dresses very conservative, never talks about guys and when I sent her some flowers she seemed happy but nervous.
She declined my invite for a date and so I told her I accepted and respected her decision. A few weeks later she told me to forget the whole thing so I thought everything was cool.
A few weeks later (3 months after I asked) she blew up at me for no reason and now seems to ignore me. I've been told that she is gay and I know she has several gay friends. I didnt know this when I asked.
Is it normal for a gay lady to blow up when asked by a straight guy? Why couldnt she just move on when I told her I was cool?
2007-12-06 11:47:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Is she a lesbian in the first place? She didn't sound lesbian to me!
2007-12-06 11:51:41 · answer #1 · answered by Forward 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
These don't really seem terribly related ...
I love it when guys ask me out - (cruel, I know)
it's a buzz being fancied - and the expression when I tell them why not (ooh, I'd love to - if only I were straight - but I'm lesbian darling!!) is usually priceless!!
I can't think (from what you've told us) WHY she would blow up at you...
I should just forget it if I were you.
Hope this helps!
2007-12-06 12:07:05 · answer #2 · answered by Emma Jean 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 11:18:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i think she might have been having a bad day and you were someone to take it out on...ive been asked out by straight guys, and if i blow up...i usually do it the same day, not three months later. Though, generally, no we dont blow up...unless said man is inappropriate.
Im sorry this happened to you, and i hope this doesnt change your veiw on lesbians.
2007-12-06 12:48:27 · answer #4 · answered by erin_7x 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can make gay women uncomfortable when asked out by men, just as it would make a straight women uncomfortable if she were to be asked out by a woman. dont take it too personally. Try talking to her, but don't make it sound like an attack...keep it casual.
2007-12-06 11:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by Riley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe shes scared because she has confusing feelings about you, maybe she likes you as a friend but is worried its more? she may be trying to sever contact with you as she doesn't want to be attracted to a guy, shes happy being a lesbo, Ive been in this situation before and it was not nice, in the end I had to cut contact with the guy
2007-12-06 11:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by tra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She was insulted, she didn't want to be asked out by a guy...if word got out she'd been asked out by a guy it might ruin her image of being a lesbian and jepodise her chances with other women.
2007-12-06 12:03:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i actually dont think she is gay probs just shy , talk 2 her, ask her straight out or else u will never know for sure
2007-12-06 11:53:24 · answer #8 · answered by EMILY S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is prob jealous of you because you are a man.
Ask her if you can watch.
2007-12-06 14:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by sshorts 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she feels embarrassed or ashamed
2007-12-06 12:11:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋