I really ruined my whole college experience. What to do now?

Question

I went to university for 4 years and got a couple degrees. But I hated being there sometimes.

I was a commuter for FOUR years. I stayed on campus only to study. I never went to any parties, any sporting events, any clubs, I never went out and did ANYTHING. I joined a few clubs, but it was really hard to speak up sometimes. And even if they DID do anything after class, I'd have to get home.

I never even talked to people in my class, because I am very shy and have low self esteem. I talked to professors more than class mates.

So I never had a girlfriend in college. never got laid, or did anything fun. I graduated with honors and a degree in biology. But I feel like I wasted my whole college experience. My life feels like a sad, lonely waste.

Now that I'm out, I feel even worse. I work, sure. But I feel desperately alone, and its really sucks knowing I'll never get those years back.

I want to get out more. But my high school friends have moved on.

However, I'm likely going to be going to med school next year. So I will be living on campus, and will have more opportunities to talk to people, maybe have a relationship. But I'm completely inexperienced.

How can I gain back some of the college experience in med school?

Answer 1

.For whatever reason you isolated yourself during your undergraduate years. That is gone, never to be retrieved, changed ,amended , regretted etc. It's called "Water under the bridge". If you feel it was wasted, you are the one who has to change your attitude going forward. If you are going to dwell on past mistakes you are going to live a miserable life. Opportunity knocks! Possible med school?Good!! Start now .Ask questions of fellow students . Be a good listener. Interject occasionally when you can add to the conversation. You will be amazed how fast you will be accepted.

Answer 2

I've always felt really sorry for people who think of high school or college as the best years of their lives. What do they do for the other half-century or more?

There are things you can do to improve your social life, now and in med school. Get involved in your community, or activities you enjoy. (Maybe consider tutoring, since you related well to your professors.) Don't put too much pressure on yourself to speak up at first: the key is making the effort. After a few visits, you'll notice a core group of people you'd like to get to know better - and hopefully, they'll notice you, too. Above all, don't let yourself get too bogged down in what's already done: just keep moving forward.

Answer 3

I think that you should live close to campus and walk to school as much as possible. Say hi to people when you walk by them and get to know your fellow class mates. I think I am the opposite of you...I am in grad class and even though I don't live on campus, I commute, I still talk to fellow class mates and hang out with them outside of class. Try getting some numbers or email address and stay in contact with classmates through out the semester, sign up for the same classes as them and communicate with them. Get into the crowds!

Answer 4

You'll really never be able to relive those years of your life. My advice to you is to be that M.D marry a hottass wife and make a **** load of money. Or find a friend thats an undergrad at a local Big campus, and visit him for a few weekends and party it up.

OR..visit the local strip club and get exposed to similar college situations.

U blew it tho man, atleast ur gonna be a doctor

Answer 5

You can't get back what's already gone. When in med school, try to get over your shyness. Make new friends, have them join you for a beer or dinner or something. Med school isn't easy, so you'll still be studying a lot, but join study groups. Don't worry about your inexperience; everyone has to start somewhere...and it does get easier.

Answer 6

never commute. I'm just like you. Im very shy. But you have to realzie that you will never meet a lot of people if you commute

Answer 7

you can't just change moving forward