After many years of trying to make our relationship work I told my wife I wanted to seperate and divorce. The children want to go with me but my wife refuses to leave. She states that she can not deside what she wants to do and so just stays. I wish to keep the house (ie pay my wife for her half and the kids want to stay here too.) The only option I can see is to leave for now and get an apartment. My kids are 12 and 15 and really want to stay with me, but I think technically if I take the kids it can be considered abduction? I am unsure what to do.
2007-12-06 11:38:42 · 11 answers · asked by smilybastard 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you truly want out ........then you should leave.
Leave the kids there to start with.
Just move and make the break.
The house can be settled at a later stage.
2007-12-06 12:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your wife should consult an attorney if you cannot work out the details of a separation. You really have no more right to stay in the house than she does, so you may have to arbitrate an arrangement that both can agree on..such as selling the house and splitting the proceeds. In some states children can determine who they wish to reside with if they are over a specific age. When spouses cannot agree on custody, the courts will decide for you. You might also consider shared custody to satisfy all concerned, but you definitely need legal representation before taking action.
2007-12-06 11:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to end the relationship after many years of trying & not getting anywhere, & she won't leave? Then you take that step, And depending on what state you are in, would decide whether it is considered abduction, kidnapping etc...But if you are not leaving state or country, I believe you can take your children with you & then head for the Lawyers & get Legal Separation papers or Divorce, But make sure your Lawyer knows you have the kids & that you want full custody & want that stated in the Separation Papers. Hope this helps, & good luck
2007-12-06 11:51:02 · answer #3 · answered by Blu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried marriage counseling so the children don't "lose" one parent in this? If you have, and it's no use, then I suggest you contact a lawyer. You should not, under any circumstances leave the house. The person who leaves, loses it. You will be considered the one who left and she will probably get to keep the house. If you file for divorce (and move to the guest room or rec room), you are separated in most states, whether you've left the house or not. The children will get to have a say as to who they want to reside with once you are divorced. Is your wife depressed, or does she have any other kind of mental illness? That will affect a lot, too, if you haven't tried to help her get well. Does she have a good job? If not, you are going to be paying spousal support. Get a lawyer and then make your decisions.
2007-12-06 11:49:53 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because of the fact interior the temper of separation Krishna is much extra recent to Sri Radha or any organic devotee. This temper is the utmost temper of affection (love and separation) that's aspired for by utilising all great devotees. Sri Radha is the final lover of Krishna. Krishna in no way leaves Radha. while He seems curiously long gone from Her, he's even closer to Her. Krishna is only increasing Her love for Him by utilising being aparently long gone, yet then he's unquestionably very close to. those matters at the instant are not for unscrupulous men. they are purely for the very truthful devotees of the Lord. Radha and Krishna Lila is an exceptionally intimate subject remember and could be stated among organic devotees. otherwise they are particular to be misunderstood. human beings will think of them to be mundane matters or like common love relationship yet they are somewhat the choice however seem the comparable.
2016-12-10 14:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you move out, it is likely you will never get to move back in. If you leave the kids with her during the divorce, chances are she will wind up with custody. The court is reluctant to disturb the children's home life any more than necessary, so they will want to leave the children in the family home, and once you leave without them, she has de facto custody, and the court is unlikely to change that.
2007-12-06 12:41:29 · answer #6 · answered by rlb1961 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
serve her with divorce papers, and explain thoroughly within the paperwork that she is to remove herself from the property by or on the date of which the divorce is final. i'm fairly certain that your wife will get the hint. otherwise you can tell her that when the divorce is final and she has not moved out, the police will be more than happy to escort her off the property.
2007-12-06 11:44:57 · answer #7 · answered by celticbuddha 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In Illinois if you leave the house, it goes to her automatically. So whatever you do, don't leave! What you need to do is go see a lawyer, so he/she can work out the details.
2007-12-06 12:08:10 · answer #8 · answered by eagleman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the state I'm in the seperation process begins the minute u stop sleeping in the same bed. You can live together but be seperated...DO NOT SLEEP TOGETHER!
2007-12-06 11:41:50 · answer #9 · answered by Candle Queen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call your lawyer and do everything legally.
2007-12-06 11:43:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋