Sister in law question?

Question

She's young, married, loves to party, lives her live the way she wants to and always ignores me because i'm just a simple person , don't smoke drink or party and i don't mind being home. She never says "hi" and when i see her in public pretends she doesn't know me. Now the holidays is coming and from how she treats me and it's been 3 years now since i have been married t her brother, i have given up on having her as anything but a figure whose just there. I am tired of being nce and having her think that she is holier than god and all that,
how many of you can relate? did it work for the better?

i have always wanted a sister i'm an only child and i guess it hurts because she ignores me, plus i'm not jealous i love my life, just not seeing her!

Answer 1

wow. that's my story. only child, wanted to be close to my sil. she even moved in with us to go to school. what did she do? she left for a party at her ex-boyfriend's one weekend and never came back (this was about 6 weeks ago). didn't even bother to call. then, she used her key to get into our house to get some stuff while my husband and i were both at work. she says i treated her like a kid and was a b*tch basically. she only did things in the house when i asked, and we gave her all the support she needed for school (even paid $900 of tuition) and she flunked out. i haven't spoken to her since. i cried for three days afterward because i was so angry and upset. it happens. i'm sorry for you, but i'm in the same situation.

Answer 2

I'm not actually married but my partner of almost 5 years who I have 2 kids with has a sister I don't get along with. She doesnt like me being with him and feels he should have been with one of the girls back home---we live across the country. I got really upset once when things werent going good with us and I had told him to choose me or his sister since she was just a total *** to me and he wouldnt. She was trying to get his ex in touch with him so i picked up the phone called her and told her what a b**** she is. From experience let me just tell you this is a bad idea. Even after all of that I still have to see her when we visit his family and now we just say nothing to each other. I know not to go around her child and she knows not to touch mine. I think it hurts my boyfriend that our kids arent allowed near her but thats just how it is. Things are just a million times more awkward than before so i dont know if it was worth it or not.

Answer 3

i find sister in laws, like her, to be quite to my liking. Better than having her brag and discuss herself/life all the time. You sound a little upset and in ways i can see why, but write the woman off, she does not exist, that's the best way to deal with her. No party can last forever, so one day things will change, then i can so you wishing for the days she use to ignore you, i'm not kidding. They often become very unhappy and you start to hear through family, little or snide comments, how miserable she has become.

Answer 4

when we look at the future and expect a person to be a certain way, to turn into a good friend, or even to respect us, we are setting ourselves up for a big let down.

there comes a time when we have to accept others at face value... your sister in law is obviously not very compassionate, nice or accepting. and i will bet you dollars to donuts she has a HUGE lack of self-esteem!

be confident with yourself. im' sure you are a nice person... we aren't here to win a popularity contest either. i'm sure there are other people in your life who love you and who care.

Answer 5

who cares what she does. I talk to my brother in law but I dont hang out with him after all I married his sister and not him. you need to think the same. maybe she dont do anything with you becasue she knows you are not like her and why should she waste her time when she knows you will say noo I will just stay home. I think you envy her lifestyle

Answer 6

what exactly are you whining about? are you jealous that she's off living her life while you sit around at home? do you find her rude for not acknowledging you whenever and whereever she goes?

let her live her life, and you live your own. there are no rules as to how an in-law needs to behave towards you and vice versa. if she's not your cup of tea, then don't have anything to do with her. end of story.

Answer 7

You married your husband, not your sister in-law. You may have always wanted a sister, but this chick just isn't it. You can't miss what you never had.

Answer 8

my sister in law is the same way, i treat the same way; so she see's just how i feel

Answer 9

i can...absolutely...my inlaws cant even get my name right, we have been married for 6 years...

Answer 10

who cares about her? just your brother!, i don't like her either!! so just be polite! and keep smiling!!