My DH and I have been married for almost 6 months. We have been together over 6 years, but I know we have time and I shouldn't start to panic now ...BUT
We have been TTC for 3 months. Not a long time, but i just found out my sister in law is preggers. It wasn't planned, she isn't married. She has a 11 year old girl and is living with her BF. I don't want to be jealous, should I. I mean I shouldnt panic now we still have plenty of time right?
2007-12-06 10:41:36 · 16 answers · asked by Lanee 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
DH - Dear Husband
TTC - Trying to Conceive, the topic we are in
2007-12-06 10:48:10 · update #1
Oh and BF - Boyfriend!
You must not be used to "cyber-talk"
2007-12-06 10:49:01 · update #2
Most of the time pregnancies happen when you least expect them to. Just have patience. It is the key to "life". Get it.
Key to life. Anyway, don't be so worried and please don't be jealous. It is natural though. If it is suppose to happen it will.
Work on yourself and how you wanna be the best mom and dad you guys can be. Strengthen your self on the inside for the task in potentialy raising a person as a well rounded individual. It's harder than most people think.
So if you are jealous try not to show it cause you will just feel bad later and it won't make anything change or happen faster. Just be happy with what God has given you and count all your blessings.
2007-12-07 04:10:15 · answer #1 · answered by ~~Rainbow Water~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok to be jealous, but try not to show it, just be there for her like you have always been act like nothing has change, I have been ttc#1 for 4 years and it hurts me every single day knowing what I'm going threw, I have pcos and it must be a miracle for me to get pregnant, you are lucky if nothing is wrong with you, I am engage to a fine gentlemen but I feel so bad inside knowing that we have been trying for so long and can't conceive, I've tried all the treatments and I fail, just keep faith with you and your miracle shall come soon
Baby dust to you
2007-12-07 10:13:45 · answer #2 · answered by Mom of 2 w/ PCOS 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try not to be jealous, your turn will come when the timing is right! The same sort of thing happened with my SIL I was pregnant (not planned) they were trying she fell pregnant and had a miscarriage, i was still pregnant and going to be a single mum!! I could tell that she was so angry, and i was devastated for them but as it turned out not long after my son was born she finally fell pregnant again and now three and a half years later she has two children!! Best of luck and enjoy trying!!!
2007-12-06 18:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by bec 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
o.k. well when my husband and I first got married we was the same way and I did feel the same as you I already had a lot of baby stuff saved and here's what happened 3 years after we was married it seemed like everyone around me was pregnant me sister my best friend my neighbor ohh and even my mother who sadly had a miscarriage but none the less so I gave away my stuff to my sister cause I was thinking it wasn't going to ever happen and the two months after I gave that stuff to my sister I found out I was pregnant, I was getting a little depressed so just wait and in time it will happen.
2007-12-06 18:59:36 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie J 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Very common to get a little jealous. But, the problem is that being jealous only adds more stress, this making it harder to conceive. I don't know how old you are, but most doctors and marriage counsellors recommend waiting a while-a few years, before getting pregnant anyway, so I think you're doing fine on you timing. Just enjoy the trying part!
Also, when we were trying, we found out most doctors say that when someone is having a hard time, just do it every day!
Don't focus on the details, just enjoy the process!!
2007-12-06 18:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
it took me 5 months to get pregnant when ttc. my roommate and her bf wanted a baby when they found out we were trying. i was extremely upset when we had been ttc for 3 months and she got pregnant on the first try. i even cried. my DH was so wonderful during this time and he really kept me from going insane. luckily, we finally got our blessing after 5 months. i was even more scared at the time b/c i had lots of problems with my menstration and there was a chance of decreased fertility. dont panic. try not to be jelous (i know it's hard), you'll get your blessing soon!!
2007-12-06 19:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by Destiny G 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hi there, I have been ttc for 3 years now. I am on my 4th round of clomid (fingers crossed that we get a great x-mas pressie) My dad re-married and she has 6 kids already and had her tubes tied after the last one. They know how long we have been ttc for. They went out and done IVF for next to nothing coz she is on benifts. My dad is too old to have a baby anyway. She is due in march and she rubs it in my face all the time and i don't think thats very nice at all. I try to not let it get to me but it hard to think if we have to go though IVF we would have to pay heaps more for it than they did. I wish you all the best and hang in there. e-mail me if you want a chat.
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2007-12-06 19:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It's normal to be jelaous but it's a sin.
You only have to start worrying after you've been trying for 1 year(12 months) or 6 months if your 35.
2007-12-06 19:09:23 · answer #8 · answered by wolfkarew 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
my "DH" and I hare going on month 5, whenever I see someone with a baby bump... a feel a little twinge of jealousy in me... but I let it go... as it does me no good.
I know this sucks to hear...
things happen when they are supposed too.
good luck!
2007-12-06 20:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by This is harder than it looks? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dont be jeleas be happy for her. that way when you and your "DH" do get "preggers" (lol i thought that was cute) you will feel happy about it. and not kinda bad for being jeleas and the babies will probably play together wont that be great
2007-12-06 18:57:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋