Okay, okay, I know that to many this probably seems like a really stupid and crazy question to ask, so please allow me to explain why I am asking this question.
Recently, I was at the edatereview web site reading through some user reviews of eharmony.com. One of the reviewers took some time to describe how he decided whether or not to open communication with the women that he had been matched with at eharmony. At one point, he said that he made it a point to not communicate with women who did not have children, and in the next sentence, he said that he "sure as h3ll did NOT want to talk to a forty-five year-old woman who had never had children."
Maybe I'm missing something, but for the life of me, I couldn't figure out why he would see being a woman that age without children as such a bad thing. I have a professor at school who is approximately that age who has never had children or been married, and she is one of the coolest people I have ever met.
2007-12-06 10:35:01 · 11 answers · asked by I'm Still Here 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
He's probably a dad and wants a woman who is sympathetic to his circumstances and he has already been out with a single woman who's had no children and it was a nightmare for him.
Another scenario is he's probably a perv and has intentions of stalking a mother's kids.
Why don't you ask him?
I'm friends with women who are in their forties and never had kids. They are "I me" people. They don't know what its like to set aside half their lives for the sake of someone elses, so they tend to focus on their own problems and magnify them.
In contrast, mom's don't have that luxury. They are always worried about their kids and how they are doing in life. So, I'm sure he is going to find a woman with kids who has a lot of emotional ties to her kids that can get in the way of focusing on him.
I think either way, its a double edged sward.
2007-12-06 10:47:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well, that's just one guy's opinion...
It wouldn't freak me out. It's uncommon, so I'd be curious as to why she made that choice. I'd probably be more interested in her life-story as she had to be doing some interesting things with her time since it wasn't filled with child-raising.
Though there is always a stigma against females not popping out a few before they're 30....and yet people get so upset if they do so when they're "too young." I get that crap all the time from my extended family, wondering when I'll breed. But nobody really gives that kind of 'tude to males! Such BS.
2007-12-06 10:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by sappho 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's fine, as long as they're not super skinny. Maybe bootcut/straight is a better alternative. It almost looks like skinny, but isn't tight against your skin. Many skinny jeans are low rise as it is, so there's no problem with your belly, if you wear a top that flares out has an empire waist. There's also high-rise jeans if you're wearing a tshirt,and the high rise jeans can shape/hold against your belly.
2016-04-07 22:23:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an idiot. He must think that any woman over a certain age who doesnt have children is some sort of freak, or nobody would want her and thats why she doesnt have kids. Some people cant figure out that alot of people over a certain age dont have kids, because they dont want any, or possibly couldnt have children. Nothing wrong with that. He'll be looking for a date for a looooong time with that attitude.
2007-12-06 10:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by Dani 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No, the guy freaks me out! There are many reasons as to why a 45 year-old woman doesn't have children, but I can't think of a reason that would make her undatable. He probably thinks that women are supposed to be subserviant to men and he is threatened by strong, ambitious, educated, independent women.
2007-12-06 10:43:41 · answer #5 · answered by mjtudor 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No it would not freak me out. That is a good decision, it means she is independant and probably responsible. Nothing is wrong with that. Too bad conventional thinking frowns on women who dislike having children, and views women as baby making machines.
2007-12-06 10:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by 2pac died for your sins 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
The guy who said that, there is something wrong with him. Either he is looking for a woman with children in order to molest them, or he is a control freak who feels that women should be barefoot, pregnant and chained to the stove.
2007-12-06 10:47:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is full of stereotypes in his head. I'm sure he wouldn't like it if someone made assumptions about him based on his age, height, weight, occupation, town he lives in, marital status, race, religion, etc.
Maybe he will grow up some day and open up his mind to different people.
The 45 year old is better WITHOUT him.
2007-12-06 10:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by In the Kitchen 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wow not at all.
Maybe that guy has it in his head that all women must have children, and those that don't are..idk weird or outcasts or unfit lovers. Who knows.
2007-12-06 10:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by A 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sort of explains why the guy needs help finding women, doesn't it?
2007-12-06 10:38:57 · answer #10 · answered by curtisports2 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋