im 14 and pregnant......?

Question

i really dont know what to do. i cant tell my mum or dad coz they will kill me. i havent told anyone yet coz i dont know who i should tell. should i tell the dad (im not in a relationship with him) or not? please help

Answer 1

The best thing to do sweetie is to tell your mum. Your mam will be able to help you through this and she should surely understand how scared you are. Don't be afraid you need some support. Good luck

Answer 2

first thing to do is tell someone you can trust, you can tkeep it a secret forever. then you will have to tell you mum and dad i know its hard but they will be able to help, yes they will be angry at first but if they love you they will help you somehow. once you have told your parents and they have settled down, think about your options, you could keep the baby but only do this if you can look after it properly and give it everything it needs. you could have an abortion but make sure you could deal with the pain because it is a very hard thing to do or you could put the baby up for adoption which again is very hard as you will be giving up your baby and may never see it again. whatever you decide make sure its the right thing for you. as for telling the father, of course you should tell him no matter what you decide because its his baby too. whatever you do make sure you talk to someone, a close friend/family member or your mum or dad. you could also call childline they are good at giving advice on teen pregnancy the number is 08001111. good luck xx

Answer 3

Tell him first hun and see if you will be on your own, see if he wants to know or not. If he doesnt tell your parents but also think about your future, think about what will be best for you, but talk to your mum after you have spoke to the dad, then you will know your complete situation. how far are you do you know that? is an abortion an option you would use? I wouldnt judge you for it, I had one when I was younger as I was young alone and wouldnt of been a good idea for me or the baby if i had carried on, i now have a partner and a son with the right person at the right time and i dont regret my decision one bit, but talk to your mum sweetie best thing you can do.

Best of Luck xxx

Answer 4

Your parent are not going to kill you ..the will get upset and have every right too that's a big deal you are only 14,but the baby is going to come weather you tell them or not and it will be allot easier on you ad the baby (if you decide to have it) if you have the love and support and medical care needed..wow 14 that's scary I'm sure ...but you have to be a big girl since you made a big decision and allot of responsibility that comes along with that decision..talk to your mom ,or aunt ,or grandmother, and yes the Father of the child also has responsibility..you didn't do this by yourself..good luck my thoughts and prayers are with you and that baby..

Answer 5

Sweety I know you are probably freaked out of your mind. 14 is very young but believe me when I say I understand. My boyfriend and his ex went through the same thing. They were both 14 when their daughter was born. Now it was a crazy time of course because his family was christian and all that nonsense and the morality bull was what they were upset about. Anyway, they all found out together and that girl didnt even have the chance to break it to her mom gently, she had to take a test and wait with her parents, the father and his parents. Now her parents have taken good care of her and no they didnt kill her. The little girl is beautiful and doing great. This is going to be hard but you have plenty of options and your parents are probably going to be your best support. You should definitely tell the dad and atleast give him the chance to be involved with his little one unless he is for some reason incapable or a bad choice. If you want to email me I have a seperate email for talking to people and I wouldnt mind at all talking with you even if you just want to vent and blabber, i find that it helps me when im stressed

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best wishes darling and just be strong you can do it

Answer 6

Apart from the fact that you should be locked up for breaking the law and having sex under the age of16. You should probably tell you mum and dad. And tell the father of the baby, he has a right to know. If he's over the age of 16 your parents can have him done for rape though.

Answer 7

Im sure your mum will be more understanding then what you think. You need to tell her bcause she is eventually going to find out. You also need to tell her for the babys sake because you need your prenatel care. I also think that the father of the child has a right to know whether your in a relationship or not. By keeping this a secret your just going to stress yourself out which is not healthy at all for the baby. How far along are you? Make sure that you book yourself in to get the care that your baby needs. Goodluck and if you need to talk just msg me. xoxox

Answer 8

I was in your shoes just about 8 years ago. I tried to do everything all by myself because I didn't want to tell my mom but it was so hard. I did let the dad, which the first thing he did was dump me. So I have been there done that exactly your same story. In the end my mom figured out I was pregnant, she cried but it felt so much better not having all the weight on my own shoulders. You should talk to your mom and tell your babies dad as well. Believe me everything will work out in the end.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

I know you're afraid. I've been right where you are. I got pregnant at seventeen. I told my boyfriend(we are still together fifteen years later.)but hid it from everyone else. I was terrified. You need people on your side now more than ever. Your mom, might not completely understand, but she will still love you. She's your mom! I don't know how old the father is but you should tell him first. He will find out anyway and better it be from you. That's your responsibility. Your mom can help you get medical treatment early on for the baby's sake. You may email me, if you need to vent or talk.
[e-mail]. May God hold you in the palm of his hand.

Answer 11

You don't have to tell anyone you don't want to. I think you might be surprised by your parents' support, but if you think they'll really be angry with you, I would look at your other options.
It sounds like this is an unwanted pregnancy, so I would explore options with Planned Parenthood if you can. If you go in, you'll do a free pregnancy test because of your age and your parents not knowing you're going there. A nurse will cover what options you have depending on how far along you are. It's always confidential.
As far as telling the father...do you trust him? Do you think he could be of support to you at all? Have you talked to friends about this? You're not alone, and I'm sure there are safe people in your life you can talk with. Good luck and I hope the best for you!