Is this bullying...?

Question

theres this girl at school....and she really drives me nuts, we have never got on but its just getting ridiculous now, she is always muttering little comments ( we are both friends with this girl that we both get on fine wid ), and its like if i look at her she'll go What the F**k are you looking at youre so f**king ugly, or if i dont understand something shes's like " oh your so stupid " and today in dance when i was sitting down she " accidently " kneed me in the side of the head, i hate her so much, all she does is makes nasty litlle snippy comments at me, but she doesnt do it in a horrible in my face way just in a yappy irritating way...does this still count as bullying though?
I ended up crying in dance today coz i couldnt do the dance and she was just going on and on at me so i kind of snapped and called her a stupid little dog..is it bullying what she is doin even though it isnt in a menacing way..just in a way that puts me down?

i mean..well maybe its menancing, but its not in a way where she comes right in my face and makes me feel anxious and intimidated by her..its just like a little bug picking and pecking at me lol

Answer 1

I went through a very similar situation when I was at school. It started off with basically what you've just described but it got very bad very quickly so you have to tell someone now before it gets worse. The very fact that this "person" made you so upset you cried says it all, this IS bullying and she seems to show no sign of stopping. It would be worth bearing in mind though that bullies are usually full of their own insecurities and intimidating someone makes them feel better about their own inadequacies. The girls who called me ugly and slagged me off in school are now unemployed, have 2,3,4...... children by different fathers, live in a slum and look as rough as a pit of gravel. I on the other hand went straight to uni, modelled part time to earn extra money, got a great job with great pay, I have a beautiful house, a superb Fiance and 2 gorgeous children. Every time any of the gang see me now you can see the envy in their eyes, one of them even had the cheek to say hi! I have everything and they have very, very little. I beat those bullies the right way, you can do the same. Tell your guidance teacher or your parents love and keep your head held high, you're better than them. Good luck x

Answer 2

yes shes a bully,and intimidating you,and you are suffering for it and i can understand how difficult it is for you,years ago i would have advised you to punch her clock in but thats daft nowadays,and even changing schools isnt much help cos there is nasty spitefull types no matter were you go,maybe even worse! have you spoke to your mum/dad about how this is getting you down?or an older brother/sister/or cousin,for they may just be able to help,i realy wish you the best as i realy do have a pet hate for bullies male or female.

Answer 3

This girl just sounds insecure. You know what i think you should do? just ignore all the comments. i know its not something that sounds like a proactive way to do handle this situation. but ignore proactively. If she starts commenting about you, just smile at her or something. And really something that drives these people nuts is if you start complimenting them.

Dont insult back, do not take anything she says personally. ignore and smile back.

I dont mention anything about you reporting to anyone because usually this did not help, at least for me, because these people will find other ways to make life hell if you try to go to the adults.

good luck, and remember dont care about anything this girl says because it doesnt matter. and understand that this girl is just doing it because she's either jealous or insecure about herself.

Answer 4

Intimidation is a form of bullying.
You will have to stand up to her. Come to an arrangement - I don't like you, you don't like me so let's just leave each other alone.
I've got to do this with someone I work with tomorrow morning.
I've had enough of his little snipes and I've heard he's been talking about me behind my back the little worm. I'm going to confront him in private about it.

Answer 5

Yes it is. Shes being cruel and putting you down. this is whats known as mental abuse. I`d suggest you report her and create a real stink till something is done. she deserves to have everyone know what a mean, spiteful little cretin she is.

Answer 6

yes it's bullying it's called passive aggresive. simply write down all the incidents then take them and show them to a teacher, do not react back.revenge is best served cold.

Answer 7

i also think you should talk to the mutual friend- is she aware of the behaviour of this girl- if she is, and accepts it, then i think you should cut your losses and lose her too, as she is not a real friend. then you will have less reason to ever be near the b*tch. plus Yes, that is bullying.

Answer 8

Definetly bullying.

Answer 9

She is totally bullying you. You need to put an end to this.

Answer 10

it is bullying and you need to decide which way to sort your problem .........either you report it or you stand up to the girl yourself.....but you need to choose one and go with that as this may become worse.