I asked an advice on what to do, because my husband dumped me with an eight month old daughter. I received a lot of hostile answers, why? All because I told them about my concerns about his ex (he broke with her shortly before the wedding, she was pregnant then), and married me. She tried to screw him for the child support, but couldn't, luckily, because she is abroad. She is absolutely ugly, and constantly complaining, and was no good for him at all. I came into his life in time for him to realize that she was no good.
Now she dumped me, and took all his assets off-shore, and I can't get a dime. I am very good looking, educated, and do not deserve this at all. Yet it seemed as if people were judging me, and being gleeful about what happened to me. We are different, she got what was her due. I am a better, superior person, and deserve compassion. Why are there so many hostile people in this world?
2007-12-06 08:47:09 · 27 answers · asked by what 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry your feelings got hurt i try to be nice to every one,, I'm sending a big hug your way....
2007-12-06 08:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
You ask why there are so many hostile people in the world, yet you tear this other chick down mercilessly by calling her ugly. Are you serious??
Clearly you see yourself as the greater prize than she and you got involved with a man who wasn't completely out of the woods yet - yes she's gonna hit him up for child support, and she should have because she was being the wife while he was messing around with your trifling behind.
Now that was on him for cheating, but it's also on YOU for getting involved with him regardless.
Now you're in the same situation as the first wife (cuz he's clearly played you both), and you have the nerve to continue to bash her instead of placing the blame on him, and recognizing your own role in this marriage - which I'm sorry to say - was doomed as soon as it started.
All I've got to say is Karma is a b*tch! You've got a young daughter now. I suggest you get over yourself, grow the hell up, and start being a positive role model for your little girl, so she won't grow up and make the same dumb @$$ mistake you did.
2007-12-06 09:18:40 · answer #2 · answered by Pask 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You want to know why? Because of two things. Firstly your "saving" your boyfriend from the woman he left pregnant, and secondly your superior attitude.
Did you even read what you just wrote here? You call the ex girlfriend "Absolutely ugly"and "constantly complaining" which doesn't say much for your husband's choice of women, does it? Then you say she was trying to "screw him for support", but surely he owes to look after the child he created?
Then you brag about your attributes being "good looking, educated...a superior person", but obviously not wise enough to realize that if he could do this to one woman he could do exactly that to you, and now has. While she "got what she was due" you believe yourself worthy of compassion. Just a pity you didn't think of her in that light. Karma is a B***H, and she got you good.
Now you have the opportunity to do one of two things - wallow in self-pity, or learn from this experience. I hope for your sake that it is a learning experience.
Please take care of yourself and that baby of yours, you do deserve better, but you have to be willing to put better things out there too.
2007-12-06 09:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You don't deserve compassion you earn compassion. You do not want to be judged but you have no problem calling the other woman ugly, stupid etc. You need some civic lessons along with some knowledge of respect. You chose someone who was a dead beat man who got a girl pregnant before he left her didn't want to pay a dime for the child and expect him to treat you well? Grow up. you do not seem to be as smart as you pretend to be. You say people are mean and hostile? sorry but in this world you usually get what you deserve.
yes there are mean people but your actions and your words do not seem to appeal kindness, you can only be judged by your actions ... they seem to speak for themselves. good luck.
2007-12-06 08:55:32 · answer #4 · answered by caliguy_30 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I understand why you'd be upset, but it's the way you're presenting yourself. No it's not nice what happened to you, but are you really surprised? If he dumped her for you, there's no reason why he won't dump you for someone else. It's him, not you. You just got mixed up in this whole situation. Also, people don't like you saying how you're the superior person, etc. it may be true, but you sound very egotistical, and people don't like that. Hopefully you can get this sorted out, though. Get a lawyer--you deserve child support, it's his, he has to be made to pay.
2007-12-06 08:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by Principessa 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Wow , with that ego why in the hell would anyone feel sorry for you !! I bet you have a nasty mouth to go with it and probably ran it all the time to let your ex know how much better you are than everyone else he's been with!! Try humble and stop comparing yourself to other people because it's what you make of yourself that counts and no amount of education will make people like u but sweetness and caring will win many hearts
2007-12-06 10:29:36 · answer #6 · answered by starr 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I thought this was real, until I seen the line that you think you are a better, superior person, and deserve compassion. You must be looking for hostility.
2007-12-06 08:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Because the way you word your question. You make it sound like being beautiful is the most important thing, and that what is inside doesn't matter. But, what's happened to you is nothing than what's happened to me. What you are complaining about seems childish and petty. If you are a grown woman with a child, concentrate on her, and not anything else. Besides that, you sound like a b*tch!
2007-12-06 08:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, this is bs. yet with a bit of luck this is purely a undesirable apple. because of the fact relatively i like mothers! i'm a mom and each so often I purely go searching the playground in any respect the mothers finding out on up their young babies, or frequently i visit work out a mom communting to and from artwork... i actually frequently think of... "damn, us mothers rock!" all people who does issues for the main suitable pastime of their baby and does it with good intentions is a-okay to me. i do no longer care once you're a sahm or your a profession mom. in the top, maximum each thing mom's do is with their young babies in techniques.
2016-10-19 10:48:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly am not judging you,but it seems like you are very full of yourself.How can you say that you are better than someone else.Maybe you should have thought about the man you got involved with,and payed attention to how he treated her.It is easy to point out someone elses shortcomings,when we all have some.I suggest you work on taming your ego.Despite all of the poetic imagery,no one is better than anyone.She needs compassion to.Stop thinking that you are entitled to things.Life is what happens when we have made other plans.
2007-12-06 09:02:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am assuming this is a joke. If not, I feel sorry for your child. You should now be able to sympathize with the woman. Both of you lost a man while having his child. It is very difficult to handle. I will tell you the superior comments you make are vain and cruel. You are sounding like a b*tch.
2007-12-06 08:55:26 · answer #11 · answered by BIRDY85 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋