Would he try to compete with the man she is attracted to or simply feel jealous and talk nasty to her? Or would he just ignore it?
2007-12-06 08:44:19 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is there anything she can do to get him interested in competing with the other man? ;)
2007-12-06 09:06:07 · update #1
Please don't be cruel to me! I am not a bad wife. I've been the better partner in our marriage so far.
Dew drops, I want him to compete because I had to do the same due to his attractions to other women.
2007-12-07 00:37:03 · update #2
If his eye has been on other women he would likely ignore that another man likes you. But you liking another man...he would bring that up as an exuse in any argument that you were just as unfaithful as him. Remain the better out of the two. You clearly still love him. He clearly wants to keep his cake and eat it.
2007-12-07 00:42:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a commitment and not a game. why do you want to make him compete. Is he different from the man you married or are you now realising you made a mistake. if it is the latter why do you want him to compete.
you sound like a teenager wanting 2 guys to fight over her. Not the most reliable traits to have in a wife and if that is the case he should do the decent thing and just walk away with the other man and leave the selfish b...h to her own devices.
I gather this is not the answer you were looking for.
but then I gather you are not the wife he was looking for.
2007-12-06 10:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see,how would a wife feel if her husband was attracted to another woman?
I imagine he'd be pretty p issed and if he's got any sense he wouldn't flatter her already inflated ego by competing with the other guy, that's just adding more fuel to an already out of control fire.
If the spark has gone out of the marriage and your finding some one else appealing, either do something to put your marriage back on track or walk away now before the damage is done and lives get ruined!
2007-12-06 09:21:09 · answer #3 · answered by The Original Highbury Gal 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is hard to judge. But he is not necessarily gay. Judging by what you said, he might have been molested by his uncle. In this case, his confusion on his sexuality makes a LOT of sense. I do not remember where I found this audio clip, but I listened to an audio clip a few weeks ago and it was an interview between a woman interviewer and a gay male sexual therapist. He talked about straight male clients of his who questioned why they act the way they do sexually. One man watched gay porn frequently, and thought maybe he was gay. But the sexual therapist discovered that it was actually because the man had been molested in a bathroom when he was younger. The gay porn he watched was of men in the bathroom, and so the sexual therapist attributed the gay porn watching as him reliving the molestation. I guess it is kind of how when something traumatic happens to us, or when there is a forbidden memory we have, sometime it creeps up on us or we give in to temptation and remember that memory. I guess the man was allowing himself to relive those forbidden thoughts. Your question interests me, because your husband was molested (allegedly) as a child too, so maybe that is why he has confusion now? Another thing to remember, which the sexual therapist mentioned, is that our sexual fantasies are derived from non-sexual things. An example with your husband is how he doesn't want anything but "proper" normal sex with you and would never do anything out of the ordinary in the bedroom. This probably stems from the fact that he would also never do anything out of the ordinary in regular life -- his parents are so conservative that he has instilled these values into himself. He is probably afraid to displease those he loves. He is afraid to displease his parents, which is why he tried to say the molestation thing was a lie he made up and also why he would never admit his sexual confusion to his parents. It is also why he waited until after the uncle's death to tell his parents the news. He confides in you, because you are one of the few people in his life that he feels loves him for himself, and not based upon what rules he does not break (like his parents). I strongly suggest you have him see a sexual therapist or sexual psychologist, so they can sort out his sexual thoughts, nonsexual thoughts, and see how the two relate to each other and get to the bottom of this. Just stay strong throughout and remember that no matter what happens, this is just something that happens with life and that you are definitely NOT the only one in this situation. I truly hope everything goes well. Good luck to you.
2016-05-21 21:41:08 · answer #4 · answered by sean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
answer D. None of the above.
More likely she would be following her clothing to the curb but then we are in second chance mode. There is no third chance.
Do not suppose that a guy will choose to compete with some other guy for the affections of his wife. Be prepared for nasty.
Ignore it? That would be silly now wouldn't it?
2007-12-06 08:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well it all depends on their relationship. If they have a good relationship and she does not disrespect him by talking about this guy all the time and he just happen to find out then he should fee secure that his wife won't do anything. He can approach her, they can talk about it, and the both of them help eachother to get over this emotion. Because that's all it is, emotions.
2007-12-06 08:50:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he really loves you...he may feel a little threatened probably..
Some men are very confident of themselves..and they trust their wives ...no matter what...such beings will ignore
why would you want your man to get to compete with this other guy?
2007-12-06 22:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by dewdrops 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if u are attracted to another man , then u should have a divorce because thats not right and no one should live being deceived and cheated on. tell him so he can find a faithful woman.
2007-12-06 08:48:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
all women/men are attracted to someone it's human nature
but to act on such a emotion is a diffrent thing
my wife love LL Cool J
so i went out and got a big poster and hung it up in her closet
2007-12-06 10:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by sunrisedrifter 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is she indeed attracted to another man or she is just trying to make her man jealousy?
the former, there's obviously problems in the relationship and they need to sit down and sort it out.
the latter, that's very silly of her to try things like that.
forget about how he would react, just ask her--what she really wants?!
2007-12-06 09:03:09 · answer #10 · answered by =)) 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋