the person i see has recenty discussed her partying hard ways and she admitted in a very flip manner that she is doing cocaine. my eyes bugged. she was so flip and this IS NOT her. she is usually very straight laced. but i had suspected for a bit, weight loss, wide eyed, strange chats, weird sleep habits. she slept all day sat and sunday and once went to work at 8 after getting home at 7. we don't live together but she told me this. i don't do the club thing with her all the time, very rarely. i keep my nose clean so to speak but she is always around for me. What should i do? i am upset at her cocaine use. she says she has it under control but i think it is going to bite her on the *** one morning and he won't know what happened. What shoudl I Say? Should I leave it, her? I am upset confused.
2007-12-06 08:36:43 · 16 answers · asked by Derrick Sandoval 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When a person tells you that he/she has drugs under control, that is the red flag that they are out of control. Alcoholism is one thing, however cocaine is illegal. That makes the person who is using it, buying it, selling it, a criminal. There are other things to consider. If you are confused, remember the stages of addiction. First stage: The person is hiding their use. Second stage Going to parties where the drug is. Surrounding themselves with people who use the drug. Third stage The person admits they are using the drug, but have it under control. This is the stage when the behavior changes. Arguing, being defensive, possible trouble, (arrest) cannot account for money, The telling factor is in your question. You said this is NOT her. When there is some change in a person's behavior and we just and we feel confused and just cannot put our finger on it, usually it is drugs. Talk with your friend and encourage her/him to get some help. The elephant is in the living room.
2007-12-06 08:56:40 · answer #1 · answered by shoes_717 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while you're no longer strongly linked, get out, now. Cocaine conduct are no longer controllable--and it appears like he's already slipped off into the possibility area. while you're strongly linked, properly i'm sorry. i think of the excellent element to do might nonetheless be to bypass away him, and make it sparkling you're no longer likely to be around him except he's kicked the habit. have you ever considered this? COCAINE is unlawful. and that i do no longer want to hearken to any stupid moralism from the drug-making use of public--it isn't any longer a query of despite if it would or should not be criminal--it isn't any longer. possession is a legal, and you could bypass to penitentiary for a protracted time. What happens if he's making use of you domicile and you get pulled over? What if he's have been given a stash you do no longer even understand approximately? And it is hidden on your automobile? Or your condominium? You wanna understand who's going to penitentiary? that must be YOU. eliminate this class-A loser-person, and detect a real guy.
2016-10-10 10:11:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not something to take lightly. Cocaine use can only lead to MORE cocaine use and anything else including advancing to crack. You need to insist she go for treatment. Tell her to go to an Narcotics Annonymous meeting. Insist she go to a couple of them just to meet people in recovery. YOU need to get to an Narcanon meeting too. You should be around other who have loved ones in the same situation and learn what steps you can take to deal with it or help her. This is a disease and a serious one. Treat it as such.
2007-12-06 09:10:14 · answer #3 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As with any addiction, sometimes a person has to hit bottom before getting help. No one ever has cocaine under control forever. And you are right, if she doesn't end it, it will biter her in the @ss one day.
I lived with a cocaine addict for many years and eventually left because he chose it over me.
2007-12-06 08:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this, but anyone that uses coke will say that they have it under control. Those are the words of an addict. Even if it's under control now, it's one of those things that will consume her in the end. If she's gotten into it, and you're really close, I'd discuss help with her. If she refuses, and still says that it's under control... I'd get out.
2007-12-07 01:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nobody ever has cocain use under control... it more or less has them under control and they can only control it as far as the pocket book allows..... try to talk to her about quiting or getting help... this is only going to get worse... If she refuses your help then i would leave..If she loves you she will see your concern and try to help herself for you. I have had a couple of loved ones get on that stuff, one of them lost everything they had and had to start all over, the other wound up flipping out and robbing a store.
2007-12-06 08:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by chelle B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some sort of drug use, obviously. People need a support system but need to wake up on their own. Don't let this bring you down. Explain to her that you aren't going to have anything else to do with her until she is clean (and yes you know, and it will be hard on you), but people have to realize they've lost before they can even begin to fathem dropping the habbit. Good luck, and for her sake I hope she gets well soon!
2007-12-06 08:52:54 · answer #7 · answered by mtcmmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well any one using cocaine has no control to begin with so that is a clue that ur friend is in denial. u should just b up front with ur friend. if some thing happened to ur friend and u never said anything to try and help would u regret not saying anything at all.
2007-12-06 08:42:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have to be so careful who are friends are, because u can be easily influenced and this is a dug that's so alluring but can eventually kill u. i think it is going to hurt her, its already changed her from being careful and cautious, to someone who now thinks its no big deal. u can't compete with drugs, if that's the life they want. what would have once been a no no to her has become an everyday thing. if u were smart u would distance yourself from her so u don't get caught up in this.
2007-12-06 09:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is not worth it to be in a relationship where one believes in doing cocain and one does not...it is stupid to use any kind of drug and they are wrong for putting you through this. You should tell her that either the drugs go or you go! lots of hope for you!!!but thats the plane truth
2007-12-06 08:45:07 · answer #10 · answered by tennisgal007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋