I got remarried last year. He's 11 years younger than I am, making him 28. I strongly suspect my 19 year old daughter is sleeping with him. There are many many clues that I wont go into detail, and I've tried to confront them but no luck so far. We haven't had sex in over a month and I have a feeling this is why.
Can someone please give me some more info.
2007-12-06 08:17:13 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wireless camera's, get one or 2, you'll find out.
2007-12-06 08:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
If you can get some proof, then leave him... follow him in a rented car after work, call a PI and get some photos. Get the records on his charge card... If you confront him with no evidence, he will deny everything as you have noted. And if he has indeed betrayed you, your marriage is over...(and what a rat of a daughter you have.... glad she's yours, and not mine...)
Only 20% of marriages survive betrayal, and that is with both in counseling, and both wishing to save it. In my experience --- I'm 56 -- only one couple made it passed 2 years. Their Christmas card indicated that they were quitting. They made it 5 years past betrayal. So, in my experience, 100% failure.
That should tell you something.
Sweetie, everyone deserves a faithful partner....everyone. And unless your self-esteem is in a bucket, why bother.... all of that just erodes your relationship over those two years until that is all you taste. Too many nice guys out there to bother.
2007-12-06 09:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you think it wholeheartedly then it is true in some form of it. Might not be 100% on track but you have a gut feeling means something in the thought process is right. I believe that your gut speaks to us. We have thoughts that are indeed clouded by past hurts etc. But if you think there is something up between the two of them no doubt Something is.
I would suggest talking with your child. If all esle fails leaving is only a choice you can make
2007-12-06 08:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by puppypal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We can't really give you more info unless you give us a little more info. You can either be sneaky and catch them... via a nanny cam or something along those lines. OR you can trust your gut, which you probably should, and dump that man. Obviously you are having some trust issues with him anyway.
Your daughter is definitely old enough to know better so maybe it's time to move on and live your life for you and only you. I wish you all the best with this very crappy situation...
2007-12-06 08:27:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry, honey, but you married a young man who is obviously going after your daughter. Why did you marry him in the first place??? Did you see the signs when him and your daughter were getting along better when you were not there, and when your daughter was not there, did you not hear all the questions he was asking about "where is your daughter"?? And "when am I going to see your daughter", or when she came home, did you not notice it when he told your daughter "I was wondering when I would see you again"???
Reason why, is that my mom's boyfriend was saying all that stuff to me, and then it was sending red flags all over the place in my mind and then one day he hugged me, and he put his hand all the way to the left side of my butt cheek!!!!
Big mistake for him, I told my mother, and she dropped him!!!
I suggest you do the same!!!
Drop him before your daughter becomes pregnant with his child, while you are still married to him, and your daughter will try and pull it off that the baby is from another "John".
WAKE UP, drop the jerk, and let you daughter and your husband know that you are not as stupid as they think you are!!!!!!!
2007-12-06 08:28:30 · answer #5 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Bust them. Let him know you will be out for a while (give him a day or two notice, so he has time to make plans) Hide a camera in your house and you will know.
Maybe a voice activated recorder too (fyi-this is illegal)
2007-12-06 09:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to dumb him sweety. If you have doubts that this is going onthen follow the feeling. Then check your daughter and do not bring any other men into the house
2007-12-06 08:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by Always Seeking 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if this is going on the two lack any respect for you whatsoever! Your daughter is an adult now and the man is supposed to be with you not your daughter. You need to nip it in the butt NOW! Get all the cards on the table. Hope you get it worked out.
Love
Abi
2007-12-06 08:24:59 · answer #8 · answered by abigailbanksabi 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't know that there's much we can suggest if you can't give more details as to why suspect them. Hopefully it's not true and you're only thinking it's going on because you're a little self-conscious about the age difference.
2007-12-06 08:20:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I hope this isn't true!!!
I'm sorry Honey if your so sure I mean down in your gut sure. He has to go you can get another man not another daughter. She needs to know there is such this as boundaries and she has over stepped then and this is unexceptable
2007-12-06 08:23:56 · answer #10 · answered by Debbie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It would help if you added the details. Go with your gut girl. I would confront your daughter when he was not around.
2007-12-06 08:22:55 · answer #11 · answered by kim h 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋