2007-12-06 08:12:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know you might be hurting worse then ever, but this is a situation that you can't control. The only thing that you can do is control how its going to affect you. Its OK to mourn, but you also need to start looking into what is best for you. Its like that old saying, "you only get one life." What ever reason that your partner is in prison, he or she put them self there, and you can't change that.
2007-12-06 08:19:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like justice just gave you all the help you needed.
What did he go for? This could be one of those times that a blessing has come to you in disguise. Just hang on, all will get answered in time. Hang in there, do not put yourself in danger as well. I hope that someone is there to guide you through this difficult time. Remember, you are not alone. It is amazing what can happen in a year. Try not to focus on today, focus on the future and if anything, just be there for your partner while he transits this trial in life too!
Hang in there.
2007-12-06 08:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by Essence 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had taken the time to get to know your boyfriend, then you would have known that he was a criminal. You have had plenty of time to prepare yourself for the worst. You have only two choices: move on, or deal with it. If he is convicted of this crime he maybe doing some time, so it may be best for you to go ahead an find another mate. Or you can wait for him. If you decide to wait, you might be kissing another man's body parts when you go to visit him. I work in corrections and see a lot of women like yourself kiss these men at visitation. When the inmate returns to his home he is kissing "BOB."
2007-12-06 08:19:33 · answer #3 · answered by Cherri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the details of the situation in your case, but I would encourage you to keep focus, now more than ever. God has a tendancy to take the worst possible scenarios in life and make them a blessing to people, if they can focus on Him.
I don't know what your relationship is with your partner, but if it is a situation where there were things going wrong in your relationship, especially if those things are very serious, this is a chance for God to work on their heart, and to change them from the inside out. People pray all the time to change the hearts of people, but sometimes it takes action like this before they are in a place where God can work on them.
"Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou [art] with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me." (Psalm 23:4)
If someone "walks through the valley of the shadow of death" something must die. In your case, it's more than likely exactly what you've wanted all along. Keep your chin up, keep perspective in all of this cuz the right thing WILL happen, even if it is not exactly what you think it will look like.
2007-12-06 08:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went thought the same thing last year and i got through it OK. First you will grieve, the you will get mad as hell, then you will realize that there is really nothing that you can do about the situation. Write your partner a lot they all live for each letter they get. If you can go see him as often as you can.
2007-12-06 08:23:28 · answer #5 · answered by Brown eyed girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have friends and/or relatives then you must speak to them and tell them how you feel. You should also write down your feelings in a letter and send to your partner, perhaps if they know how you feel they might think twice about putting themselves in that position where they could be sent to jail. You must talk to someone.
2007-12-06 08:17:54 · answer #6 · answered by sunquest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not a good situation, but someone has to the responsible one in the relationship, and at the moment it seems like its going to be you. Pull up your boot straps, be strong and take care of business!! Hopefully, your partner will not be away for long - good luck!
2007-12-06 08:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by Tina T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In prison for what? That's an important detail
2007-12-06 08:15:42 · answer #8 · answered by AT6381 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you. My brother just got put away a couple of weeks ago. I just hope that it's for the best.
He has a baby and girlfriend. It's hard for everyone.
2007-12-06 08:16:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must eat and sleep and go to the bathroom. you must survive. try writing him a lot of letters. try joining a support group. you must go on because he will get out someday and you want to be happy and healthy. get busy creating a great home and life for him to come out to.
2007-12-06 08:15:09 · answer #10 · answered by Sufi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋