My ex and I have joint custody and I have full placement (my son resides with me). In the divorce papers it states that my ex is to come to get my son for winter break not meet in a certain spot, but now ex is bitching saying he shouldn't have to and the spot we chose for pick-up and drop off is still not fair to him. Am I in my rights not to meet him for X-mas since it states it in the paper-work? Same thing for summer break, he wants full month with son, it states on paper work 30 days with respondent, ( no dates or months given) I break it up two week here and two weeks there since he's not around anyway and someone else watches my son. Am I in my rights for this? Thanks to all and sorry it was so long!
2007-12-06 08:03:07 · 15 answers · asked by Nikki 6 in Politics & Government ➔ Government
** Son is left with grandpa or gf. Gf is fine, but when with grandpa is left running around in the woods and was put in a sexual situation. That's why I'm so worried, not trying to be a ***** to him!
2007-12-06 08:14:04 · update #1
I never told him he couldn't see his son, and my lawyer already told me it is legal to break up the 30 days since he has summer school I can't do a straight month.
2007-12-06 08:23:03 · update #2
Yes, you are within your rights but I'll ask this.
How does this effect your son? That should be your biggest concern.
I have no idea if this is really and logistics problem on both your parts or a pissing contest on both your parts, but the two of you should do what's in your son's best interest.
2007-12-06 08:11:12 · answer #1 · answered by Ooh, Ooh pick me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is the meeting place unreasonable? Is there a reason he can't come get him at your residence? (too far?) You two need to work this out. It sounds like you are using your son as a pawn in some little not so private war with your ex. "If you don't do it my way, you don't get to see him". Think this over and ask yourself if it is worth messing your son over for the holidays. You got your divorce, you have your custody. Be a good mother for your son and stop thinking of ways to make your ex's life miserable. Let your son see his father. Even if his father is being a pain.
2007-12-06 08:13:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best to sort your differences out and come to some conclusion, children pickup on negativity very easily and can effect them quite a fair amount, the way your parents act is an indication to kids how they believe they can act. So applying some diplomacy in these cases should be taken on all accounts. You can always get an amendment to the document by applying to the family court if the time and place does not suit. Best to think about our childrens welfare and the impact we have on them by example more then our own needs. No need to be petty, life should be embraced positively.
2007-12-06 08:14:50 · answer #3 · answered by Payment 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The wording in the divorce document is what is legally binding.
Yes, you are well within your legal rights by insisting he come & get y'all's boy.
Check with your attorney, but I belive the 30 days in the summer is assumed to be contiguous.
Legal rights aside, you and he BOTH need to put aside your differences & figure what's in you're son's best interests.
As you've written it her, it sounds a little like both of you are using the boy to dig at each other.
Failure to do so will result in you both being back in court while the boy has to feel like he's the cause of it all.
2007-12-06 08:18:01 · answer #4 · answered by Monkeyboi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Without being too presumptuous, it sounds like this is still about you and your ex and who gets their way. I would suggest there is another innocent party involved (your son) who really doesn't care where he gets dropped off or picked up. What is best for him? If it is good for him to be with his dad, then put pride aside and do what it takes to get him there. If his dad is a danger and the son shouldn't be with him, then do what is needed to protect him.
2007-12-06 08:09:15 · answer #5 · answered by hutmikttmuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you have to do exactly what those court documents say, or you will be in violation of a court order, and you do not want to do that. The same goes for your ex. If it says 30 days that is what you have to do. Sorry I wish that I could have told you what you want to here, but I wouldn't want you to get in trouble.
2007-12-06 08:09:09 · answer #6 · answered by hello 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex moved away with our children. Our divorce decree stated the exact same content. I took it to court, and even though she moved without my acknowledgement (pretty far away - she was supposed to have had my blessings to move so far away with the children -she did get a slap on the wrist for that), the court said that I am responsible for transportation to and from her home.
My suggestion was to meet in the middle, and they left that up to her. Of course it was NO
2007-12-06 08:11:05 · answer #7 · answered by Grape Stomper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see what your son wants.....if he wants time with his dad then don't take that away from him because your ex is being an azz hole! be the bigger person. your son will appreciate that later in life. on the other hand if your son could care less....then don't make anything easy for your ex...... make him comply to the court orders of else!
2007-12-06 08:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by yourchocolatedream 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever he signed for in the papers he agreed to. If he didn't agree, he should not have signed the final papers. See if there's some kind of recourse mentioned in the papers to cover his resistance to the terms, or see the lawyer who brokered the deal for you. In any case, it won't be pretty.
2007-12-06 08:12:24 · answer #9 · answered by Brian M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are not cooperating with him and making things hard on him. think of the welfare of your son. time with dad is important to that relationship. do what you can to make it happen even if you have to drive 200 miles to drop him off. Forget about your rights and think of the relationship and what's best for your son. And dads with a connection are better. stop punishing him and try to work things out. Don't just look at the paper. Life happens. listen and cooperate.
2007-12-06 08:07:20 · answer #10 · answered by Sufi 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋