2007-12-06 07:43:40 · 21 answers · asked by Cafe au lait 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We were married, then they left, now theyre back. Not sure if I love them. Can it come back or will it be forced?
2007-12-06 07:44:51 · update #1
Don't do it. It will be a big mistake. They will hurt you again if you let them.
2007-12-06 07:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you hated them, you still had strong feelings so that's probably a good sign that they still affect you and are still on your mind a lot. If you got completely over them to the point where there was never a chance again, you'd probably feel nothing for them and feel like your life is just beyond that person and they don't fit anymore. You might even be embarrassed that you were ever connected to them. If that's the case, it's probably best not to try again.
2007-12-06 15:47:51 · answer #2 · answered by Layla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in recycling exes....but, in order to hate someone you have to care something about them. It's when apathy sets in that there's real trouble. If you become apathetic, then there is no hope because you have given up and you basically don't care. But, if you are still angry (hate), there's still passion, and love is still possible if you are committed to resolving the issues TOGETHER. I suggest couples counseling to help yourselves along.
Good luck. Take it slow!
2007-12-06 15:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by Bridey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You hate them because you love them. However, they have managed to hurt you so very badly that your love for them becomes transmuted through pain into hatred.
You are best off staying away from that person for the rest of your life.
2007-12-06 15:47:26 · answer #4 · answered by Avatar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've done it plenty of times. Sometimes I try not to fall in love again because I know I might end up getting hurt, but I can't help it. This might sound corny, but listen to your heart. If you have any ounce of doubt, then be very careful.
2007-12-06 15:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because the problem that was there at first might not have been enough to totally break everything you felt for the person. But if you are questioning it, I would say there might be more to it than just love.
2007-12-06 15:47:27 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With love anything is possible...
Was the split because of a good reason?
Remember why you split in the first place before jumping into another relationship!
2007-12-06 15:47:13 · answer #7 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.It happens all the time and yes you can fall back in love with him or her. It is best to resolve the problem they had previously. It is possible to work out the second time around.
2007-12-06 15:50:52 · answer #8 · answered by ra16297845 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it is :o)...ive been through that before...i was so in love with the boy that i lost it to...but then when we broke up we HATED...and i mean hated each other...we couldn't even look at eachother! but as a 2 years passed, we became best of friends and now cant live without one another...so yes it can definately happen :o)
2007-12-06 15:47:44 · answer #9 · answered by chelsea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No marriage is perfect, and alot of them are psychotic like that (love/hate). It's not healthy, but it is what is it. Don't force drama if you really don't want it.
2007-12-06 15:47:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want
2007-12-06 15:47:06 · answer #11 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋