with your spouse after the two of you have separated for a year?
She came back after leaving. No communication along the way. . . .Should we wait before moving back in together? Why?
We were married for 9 yrs before she left.
2007-12-06 07:39:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How successful can a reconciliation like this be? I hated her for a while cause she left me hi and dri.
Stories? Thoughts?
2007-12-06 07:41:17 · update #1
Date her first-she'll be on her best behavior for a while-take your time and watch for signs of the old her!Nothing has changed -why bother.
2007-12-06 07:43:49 · answer #1 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like whoever she left you for has left her and she wants to come back to you. Don't do it. She left you once, she will do it again. Plus there would be so much work you would have to do to rebuld and gain trust in her. You've had a year to get over the hurt and pain... letting her back into your life will just cause even more. Move on, get a divorce and tell her good bye.
2007-12-06 15:47:34 · answer #2 · answered by Riley's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT! cant jus jump in again. talk for a few months maybe she changed hr ways or you did. make sure both of you want to come back. and think she could leave you hi and dri again.
yes things might come up better the second time around but after that i dont think so. so go for it and make the best of it!
make sure you change whatever made her leave the first time
2007-12-06 15:48:14 · answer #3 · answered by TTC #2 Baby Dust MEEE! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not think that it is a good idea to move in. I would get a divorce. She just walks out and you have no communication and now she is back. No way. I would not re conciliate with her either. She found out that the grass was not greener so you will do.
2007-12-06 16:26:18 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NO WAY - 100% sure. Get out, move on, run away, escapa de ahi!!!
It's a lot easier and healthier to find someone else than try to work things out with someone that did that to you. Where most likely is going to do the same, for the same reasons.
2007-12-06 16:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would approach the situation as if you were first dating again. i would not jump back into living together again. even though you are still married, you haven't lived together for a year. jumping into it will cause problems in the long run. make sure that's what you both really want first.
2007-12-06 15:44:57 · answer #6 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not do that. You two have too much to work on before you can trust each other (well at least you trust her) before you begin living together again. And if she really wants to work things out she will respect your need for that space and time to rebuild your relationship and trust. She can't have her cake and eat it too.
2007-12-06 15:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She left and wouldn't even talk to you?
She's probably just coming back because they guy she left you for dumped her or she needs a place to stay.
2007-12-06 15:53:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did that once and it resulted in a divorce anyway. My vote is no, don't do it. Save yourself the added pain later.
2007-12-06 15:43:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you were separated for a year why go back???? you dont separate if you want it to work
2007-12-06 15:42:02 · answer #10 · answered by Francesca 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋