My husband has had to put in 12hrs 6 days a week for the past 4 months and since then we haven't had anything going on in the bedroom. I don't work right now because of the fact that I have to provide his transportation during the day so I'm alone all the time except for the few hours I'm carting him around. I'm an attractive 22yo girl and at the peak of my sexual drive. He's 30 and has had his good share of women before me, but now is showing no sexual drive. It upsets me that he'd rather watch porn and masturbate if he does feel like doing anything at all. I've also found it very hard to resist cheating. I've told him how I feel, but I guess he's too worn out to listen. Is there any advice anyone can give me. A man's perspective would be very helpful also. Thanks.
2007-12-06 07:34:40 · 11 answers · asked by gracie_lou85 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For those of you who want me to be more sensitive...he IS an alcohol, and for the first 3 out 4 years we've been together, I was the only one who worked...FYI
2007-12-06 09:40:29 · update #1
Aslo, since he is an alcoholic, naturally he already has 2 dwi from before we met....that's why I have to drive hime around...
2007-12-06 09:42:45 · update #2
Considering he is doing all the work while you sit around and do nothing maybe you should show him a little respect. Married life isn't easy and you just can't think about cheating every time something doesn't go your way. It's not like he is going to the bar all week.
2007-12-06 07:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about the fact he may just be very tired? Also, why must you provide his transportation?
For now support him like he is supporting you---don't cheat. But you should also talk to him and let him know how you feel and the two of you should at least try to work some time into your schedules to play with each other.
2007-12-06 15:40:35 · answer #2 · answered by mikey_fiveoh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normally women peak in their 30s, so that's a bonus for you.
Anyway.........honestly, you have to be honest with him and tell him how you are feeling.........Maybe he could use some viagara.
Many women go through that. They meet a man in their 18-24 and the men are so sexual they can have sex all night and all day. Once they are done with those ages they start to not have sex as often.
yeah sucks,
that's why a lot of older women are with younger men.
2007-12-06 15:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by Bullmastiff_Boxer_lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand exactly where U are coming from. My wife does this to me. Its sucks! Because this drives me crazy up the wall. The anticipation of wanting hot instense sex with your partner. I am more likely to cheat on her, even though I donot want to do this. But I put the blame on her, because of all this. Maybe he is doing this so that you can cheat on him. Ask him nicely, if you can find another. I always ask my wife nicely, that if she does not want to give me any, I am going somewhere else to find it. At least I forewarned her in advance. What the hec, thats what true love is there for, to keep ya'll both together no matter what happens in ya'lls marriage life. No matter what obstacles U face in your marriage life, truely love will always keep up together. I also told my wife should she ever get bored with me, in bed its all right with me, that she can find another. At least we put each other first place. I put my wife first place, before all other women-sexuall encounters. We both always come home at night for each other. Hope this helps.
2007-12-06 16:03:25 · answer #4 · answered by pain_of_unhappiness 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a toy-ride this out until the work load lightens up-stop being selfish.Sometimes thats all the energy he has left after a work load like that-you should do the same as he is just to get through this-Get a hobby!
2007-12-06 15:39:28 · answer #5 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K., toys sound goood, get him some viagra for his day off get something nice from victoria secret and surprize him in the bedroom. Wake him up with the special attention only you know he likes, 20 minutes early...
2007-12-06 15:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by bigdthebuilder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should check your laws out where you live. here you can't work that much in one week. by law. wonder if he's giving you that as an excuse and he's out with another woman. would make sense why he doesn't need any from you and when he does watch porn or jack off it could be he doesn't want to give you a disease specially if he hasn't played safe.
Something isn't right here.
2007-12-07 03:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
gracie_I Dear he has lost sight of what is important. Your happiness was to be his top priority. Be honest, give him a choice. You and him or him and his job ! Hon do not cheat ! Get out and get a job then file for divorce !
2007-12-06 15:49:51 · answer #8 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you knew what you was getting into befor you got where your act.
your not happy and it not because he works alot
you sound very resentful maybe because of YOUR choices.
maybe you should just give it up and move on live your life.
2007-12-06 18:07:41 · answer #9 · answered by sunrisedrifter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
write him a letter in stead of trying to tell him...sometimes things come out better on paper...and theres no interruption...can put m ore thought into what you want to say...
2007-12-06 15:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by Amber R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋