How conccerned are you that your first marriage will end in divorce? Intended for "never been married"

Question

With a high divorce rate, how many of us fear that we will be divorced before we ever get married? Any suggestions to quell doubts?

Answer 1

I'm somewhat concerned. I feel that people rush into marriage because of some social pressures, like the are "supposed" to be married by a certain age. For me, I don't care if I'm 50 the first time I tie the knot, I only want to do it once. As far as quelling doubts, I would just say take your time before rushing into marriage.

Answer 2

I come from a family where NO ONE has stayed married. Even my grandparents have been married 2 or 3 times. Obviously it is a thought in the back of my mind but I try not to worry too much.

I am 30 years old now and have never been married. I think that I take it a little more seriously than some because I have seen so many fail. I think that waiting until I'm older is the best choice for me. The fact that I am older (not saying I'm old but older than some that get married) helps me with any doubt I have about staying married...if I ever do get married.

Answer 3

I used to worry about it, but don't anymore because I know that :
1. Marriage isn't something to be entered into lightly.
2. It should be a life-time commitment.
3. Taking the time to really get to know your partner before walking down the aisle makes all the difference.
4. I have already been with him longer than he was married to his first wife....lol

I am also secure in knowing that there is a valid reason that his first marriage did not work, and I know that it will never be an issue in our relationship. He and I are a much better fit than he and his Ex ever were.

I know that he loves me more than he has ever loved anyone, and will always make me his first priority.

Take an objective look at how you are treated in the relationship and you will know if the relationship is meant to last.

The doubts will go away in time.

Answer 4

You can't enter into a marriage thinking it's not going to work and you'll get a divorce in a couple years. For me, divorce isn't even an option, so I know that when I do get married, it'll be for life. Fortunately, my fiancee feels the same way. You just have to know that marriages take work and you can't run away every time a little problem comes up.

Answer 5

The divorce rate is actually declining. The divorce rate in the U.S. peaked at 5.3 divorces per 1,000 people in 1981, but since then it's dropped by one-third, to 3.6. That's the lowest rate since 1970.

Answer 6

I think it's something that you might want to keep in mind just to help keep your feet on the ground. If you think that nothing can hurt your marriage, you'll more than likely not take precautions to make the relationship work because you'll think you can get as lazy as you want to in the marriage and it'll never break up. I think that you have to keep on working on your appearance, on your demeanor, and your understanding in a relationship. That's what makes it last!

Answer 7

Well I am not concerned that my ONLY marriage is going to end. Nobody goes into a marriage with that thought in there head, they go into marriage with the anticipation of spending the rest of your life with this wonderful person. That they want to spend the rest of their life with, that they want to have a family.

Answer 8

yeah im a little worried. worried enough that i read about how to make relationships work and read books about it. i want to stay married and not just married but happily married.

Answer 9

I don't want that for me. I don't see that for me. I believe I will beat the odds, but of course my worries are present at the back of my mind. I just don't see worrying about it now.

Answer 10

Haven't you noticed by now that there is no guarantees in life?
Live life, take risks, enjoy the bad times that come along because if it wasn't for those bad times, we would never know when the good times were.

Good luck.