im feeling v upset .
iv been married 8 years and my mil never regarded me as high as she does my sil. well .. she DOES ***** about her behind her back but still ""pampers" her always.
my few prob >>>
i had been gifted an electric radiator(heater) on my wedding by my parents..and my MIL has ""kept"" it in my sis in laws(( wife of my hubbys bro)
room ..i WANT it back as its cold and i dont like using blower for my kids ... how do i ask??
idk why am i soo scared to ask!!
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daughter in law
sil..sis in law
im in ""joint"" family
2007-12-06 06:51:48 · 15 answers · asked by barley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is easy. Just go to sil and say, "Oh, I had almost forgotten. I need the heater back for the kids. I'll just take it now. Thanks." You don't have to make a big deal out of it. Just be polite and go get your stuff! Honey, I've noticed most of your questions are these in law ones. The bigger issue is why do they intimidate you so much?? Even if you think they don't like you, who cares? They are on the periphery of your life. (That's a good quote I think I'll use that one, myself.)
Life is too short to always worry about what other people think. Believe me, I've learned you are really a lot less important to them than you think. And further, what are you letting slip in your own life because you are worried about their opinion of you??
In 2008, can we work on some self esteem issues?? I am certainly not being insulting. I think you will be a lot happier and more available to your hubby and children if you are more comfortable with you.
2007-12-07 00:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by CGordo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think of your children, gather the strength to do this for THEM like it's your responsibility to do, and say, "I'm really sorry, but I'd like to get my radiator if you don't mind. It's cold, and I need it for my kids." But better yet, your HUSBAND should be the one because they are HIS family and will be much more forgiving of the request if it's coming from him. He needs to step up! BUT, if he didn't, make no mistake, I'd ask for my property in a heartbeat, but as graciously as possible, and if someone got mad, OH WELL. I let that get to me for years, before finally realizing, someone getting mad at me is NOT going to kill me, and eventually they will get over it.
2007-12-06 15:07:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree. If it is your heater that you received as a wedding gift then just go get it. On the other hand, it is your husband's mother, have him go and get it. There shouldn't be anything said.
2007-12-06 15:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by orphan annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband to ask.
Just take it.
Ask you SIL to give it back.
Get some backbone and tell you MIL that you need it for your children.
2007-12-06 15:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by Christian93 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is a 'joint' family? It sounds awful.
What exactly are you asking us? How to ask your mother-in-law for your property? You don't. You go to your sister-in-law's room, and say "Hi. It's freezing in my room so I'm going to have to take my heater. Sorry about that. Maybe we can go shopping together for a new one for YOUR room."
2007-12-06 15:01:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU say"Hey that heater you are keeping at (so and so's ) house... im going to need you to get that for us because we need it for the kids...." or tell your husband to grow a backbone and tell his mother
2007-12-06 15:12:33 · answer #6 · answered by Princess Consuela B. Hammock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh, I'm pretty down with internet abbreviations, but that was like "can i get a code breaker in here?"! I think you want something that's your's. Go get it, and if she says something, say you are in need of it.
2007-12-06 15:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by primalclaws1974 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it was given to you then it belongs to you so go get it...or have your husband grow a back bone and balls and go get it.
2007-12-06 14:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just ask for it back. tell them that you have plans for it at your home. i'm sure that they will have no problem giving it back. however, you obviously are not going to get it back unless you ask.
2007-12-06 14:57:33 · answer #9 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont ask go in the room and get it
2007-12-06 14:55:21 · answer #10 · answered by Jo 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋