Alright, so some of my friends have noticed that I almost exclusively date Black women. Then it breaks down to Asian women then Latino/Hispanic women. ...but never white women. Some of my friends have concluded that I am "racist" because I refuse to date any ethnicity except for my own (White /Caucasian)... (this is because I'm not sexually attracted to the same skin tone)
I think I'm just quite partial to other ethnicities.
2007-12-06 06:51:33 · 13 answers · asked by white_devil01 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Oh for crying out loud, people! NO, HE IS *NOT* RACIST.
Dude, you just have a preference.
Do you people really expect people to date folks who they aren't attracted to?
GEEZ!
I've always been attracted to the features commonly associated with black men: dark skin complexion, kinky hair (I guess I should say small, tight curls so no one will think I'm racist. SHEESH!), full lips, ample butt, etc... So I always dated men who fit that description. And, if I wasn't married (to a man who fits the above description, by the way), I would continue to date said men. That doesn't make me a racist; it makes me a human being.
Have we become so damned politically correct nowadays that we have to date a variety of appearances in order to prove that we're not racist? GOOD GRIEF!
Enough with the "we're supposed to date people for their minds and personalities" hog wash. True, those things matter. But how about being honest enough to acknowledge that attraction is what reels us in?
2007-12-06 08:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by SINDY 7 · 10⤊ 0⤋
You people who are saying that only dating races other than your own is a sign of self hate or a reason to wonder, ummmm, you need to open your eyes. Haven't you considered environmental factors? Ok let's say for instance that I was raised around nothing but white people. There would have probably been just as big a chance that I would only date white people as there would have been that I would only date black people had I been raised among other blacks. Understand what I'm saying? Weird how so many people question when individuals have a preference for races other than their own but don't question it when people have a preference for their own race.
A preference is just a preference and isn't racist at all.
And as for the person who said it would be racist to tell someone "sorry i can't date you because you're white"............. That would be rude as hell. But what does that have to do with the question? People generally don't do that. Do you think most people would tell someone "sorry I can't date you because you're a blonde" or "sorry I can't date you because you're fat"? NO, people generally don't say such things. They can have a preference without being jack a-ses. Duh!!
The asker just doesn't prefer white women. No big deal.
Is someone an ageist just because they aren't attracted to elderly people? Is someone a sexist just because they aren't attracted to their own gender? No and no!!
Some of these answers are RIDICULOUS!!
2007-12-06 23:14:26 · answer #2 · answered by YUP, IT'S ME! 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would call that partialism. Racism is when you think one race is superior, which you clearly do not (unless you are only dating these women to brag about how good the white race is, which I doubt you are, lol). I am half white and half black and I am most attracted to white guys, then mixed guys (like myself), then Latino/Hispanic, Black, and then Asian and then Middle Eastern.
2007-12-10 00:05:24 · answer #3 · answered by lildevilgurl152004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We as humans should be able to date who we want to date, regardless of race, so I dont think its racism...... I think its just your own UNIQUE preference for black women. I on the other hand am a black woman who prefers to date white men and I actually date white men exclusively. Im not racist, neither am I 'suffering from self-hatred', as some idiots like to put it; I merely just have a natural attraction to goodlooking men of the opposite race.
People who oppose my preferences need to get a damn life and learn to quit judging and maybe mind their damn business :-)
2007-12-07 14:18:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither. You can date whoever you want; that's personal. I don't understand why some of your friends are commenting on who you date. Do you treat them the same way?
2007-12-06 16:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by annswers 6 · 10⤊ 0⤋
nothing racist about it.
people need to grow up and stop flinging the word racist around like poop.
2007-12-06 23:22:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say you have a preference, like everybody else, it is not a requirement to date your own race so I don't see why people think you are racist.
But, and this goes with any race, it is strange to me when people don't like people in their own race. For some reason that just raises an eyebrow for me like there is some self hate issues going on because how could you not like people that are like you, but that is just an opinion, obviously not fact.
But no, I don't see it as being racist at all. Again, we all have preferences and we are entitled to them.
2007-12-06 15:13:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 7⤋
you're not racist. you and me are JUST alike...wow. I'm mixed however, but i refuse to date black men in any way or form. I'm not attracted to them at all. I only date Latinos or Italians. It's not racism..it's just your preference. A lot of people are like this..they just don't admit it. My friends joke and tell me that I'm "racist to my own race" but they only joke with me. In fact, when black men come up to me, they automatically say things like "if i were you...i'd keep walking because you have zip chances of getting with her"..and then they'd laugh...at least they know and they don't judge me..=)
**by the way, i GUARANTEE you that my answer will be downgraded by ignorant people who don't agree just because i said i will never date black men...let the Thumbs Down start rolling in!!
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LOL! Thanks Drea. Good One. LOL!
2007-12-06 14:59:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 13⤊ 5⤋
There's nothing wrong with preferring people of other ethnicity's, but when you REFUSE to date someone that looks like you without getting to know the person, there is some serious self hate going on whether you admit it or not. Your disrespecting yourself, your family and your entire history and culture. You never know where and when you will find love, so I believe its ignorant, foolish and YES racists, to shut any particular group out, especially your own.
2007-12-06 15:46:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 9⤋
Hi,
No, sometimes men or women do not fit in well or get along in their own race and culture so they start dating and getting involved in another race or culture since they are very unique there and become more of the center of attention.
No reflection on you at all but personally I know quite a few geeky, nerdy types that could never make it or even get a date with white girls so they went off to other countries or got young, pretty mail order brides from different races and did OK for themselves.
Mike K
2007-12-06 15:02:34 · answer #10 · answered by Mike K 7 · 0⤊ 11⤋