Well... My guess on why she is still harrassing you is that she still loves you and is hurt that you re-married so quickly instead of giving some time in between. Maybe that time in between is what she would have needed to come back to you... In other words, prehaps instead of divorce you needed a break.... Or maybe a nice vacation to find each other. Regardless... She is hurt and I would guess still loves you.
I can't imagine marrying someone you didn't love... Nor can I imagine caring what she thinks unless you still love her.
Just my thoughts...
Lyn
2007-12-07 05:03:39
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answered by Anonymous
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I can understand how your ex's feelings about your remarriage may be a little raw right now....she will interpret that as fairly soon, and she believes that because she has a history with you, and almost as suddenly, now there's nothing. I don't believe that, but I don't know you and I am not in anyway vested in you. If it helps you to know this, I went through the same thing and my ex had an identical reaction; weird since she was hardly cooperating with me before the breakup.
In truth, the only person who needs to be certain that they took enough time in between relationships to adequately heal and put things into perspective is you. I won't expect an answer; I'll just assume you did. Congratulations on your new marriage, and best wishes in the future.
2007-12-06 15:05:34
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answered by Captain S 7
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Three months? That's quick. But I suppose someone could get their head together after the first marriage, know what they wanted and needed, and had the good luck to stumble across it in that amount of time.
This is just my best guess about your ex, since there's no way I could really know: She loved you deeply enough to be devastatingly hurt, and she has not yet healed from the relationship and divorce. Is it possible that she needs for you to atone or let her know that you are genuinely sorry for the destruction of your marriage? And I'm not saying it is right, because I don't know that you haven't. It's just that that's the only way I could see someone continuing to have that type of issue.
BTW, my first husband and I continued to have "anniversary" dinners together for years after we divorced and were both in other relationships. It wasn't to try to rekindle anything--it was because we were both geniunely sorry for hurting one another and it helped us both heal. We are still friends 20 yrs later, and we attended one another's second weddings. You know, now that I think of it, I'm pretty weird.
2007-12-06 19:15:40
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answered by lisawithcats 3
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Nope I don't believe that at all...My brother has been married twice. The first time he married a woman he had been involved with for 12 years...They divorced after 2, the second time he married a woman he had only known for 3 weeks, and they've been married now for 16 years.
2007-12-06 15:08:44
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answered by Anonymous
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I am so sorry to hear this. :( I am thinking about getting divorce, I will never do this to my husband. He can get married the day after the divorce is final for all I care!
2007-12-07 16:45:55
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answered by Mommy of Landon and Kaeyla 2
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I don't believe that you never loved your ex because you got together with someone else so quickly. I'm sure it just hurt her like crazy. All you would have to do is let your ex know that you DID love her very much. Sometimes we say things just so that we can hear what we need from our loved ones.
2007-12-06 14:51:37
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answered by Anonymous
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yes I believe you loved her at one point or you wouldnt have married her, but the love ended (reasons unknown to us) long before the divorce happened, so in your defense your healing process started way before 5 months ago, therefore you were able to "move on"
2007-12-06 15:13:45
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answered by firegirl0514 2
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That is kinda cold. Takes longer to get divorced than it took for you to marry the nuther one. No seriously, if you have been in a good relationship before, it's natural for you to want another relationship immediately thereafter. It's no insult to her.
2007-12-06 14:51:17
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answered by Anonymous
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We have have our own truths! Seldom will they match up with our spouse or ex spouses. Its the human condition. Only way we can make sense of things sometimes.
2007-12-06 15:10:19
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answered by michael w 3
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We don't know the complete situation, but she obviously still holds some feelings of what you once shared. She may have not shown this to you while married. ...........Then you move d on with your life and she probably has not.
2007-12-06 14:53:35
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answered by Brightside 3
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